In "Sans Rendez-vous", the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc examines the idea that young people today are more precocious in matters of sexuality than other generations at their age.
But according to the specialist, it is above all necessary to understand what it is about in this notion of precocity.
>> In a hypersexualized society, where pornography is accessible in two clicks, are young people earlier in terms of sex? If they talk about it more and younger, the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc affirms at the microphone of "Sans Rendez-vous" that the young people of today "are not more precocious than those of two or three ago generations ".
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"Before you know what we are talking about when we say early. Psycho-emotional development needs time and we often confuse the act and their ability to talk about sexuality. From this point of view, they are more precocious because they are immersed in an extremely sexualized society, and which suddenly puts this subject as a kind of yardstick of competence to be mature.
So they talk a lot about sex, they hear about it a lot, they know more or less what all subjects mean.
But sometimes they use words whose meaning they do not know, because that allows them to enter a society, to show that we are competent.
However, they did not necessarily experience it because there is a difference between the ability to talk about it and living it in one's body.
Because for that it is necessary a successful psycho-emotional development and to be able to arbitrate for oneself a desire, an impulse, an excitation, and not to undergo the proposals of a society.
As such there is a gap between the two.
But today's youth are no earlier than those of two or three generations ago.
Is the simplified access to pornography at the origin of the use of words, like positions for example?
Yes and that scares them: between the baby they were four mornings ago and the leap into the deep end of sexuality, the difference is extremely anxiety-provoking.
This is what makes that in reality they do not take action.
They wait, they progress little by little.
Especially for young people who have been educated to live at their own pace.
Is there a difference between boys and girls?
Girls talk about it a lot more than they talked about before because they are more allowed to do it today.
As such, one could conceive that it is rather good news because they are not locked in a prudishness.
But suddenly they also undergo the obligation of performance that they did not know before.
Since they were somehow protected, including injunctions like 'you won't have sex before marriage'.
Despite the horrible side of not accommodating female desire, it gave them a safety gate that allowed them to take the time.
How should a parent react to a child who uses terms that are not his age?
We must first of all try to understand where this term comes from.
It may be surprising, but you can't scold them for using socially sinful terms without really understanding their meanings.
And then it can be an opportunity for parents to broach the subject of sexuality, to do their job as an educator and not to leave this role to pornography. "