THE SEX QUESTION - My husband wants me to have my breasts enlarged but I refuse, what to do?

Some men take their desires for orders.

Lise's husband, a listener of Sans Rendez-Vous, is a fan of large breasts and would like his wife to have surgery to increase them.

The young woman refuses and sought advice from sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc, Wednesday on Europe 1.

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Lise's question:

"My husband loves big breasts, he would like me to increase mine which are small. I refuse to change my body, he loved me that way at first. What to do?"

Catherine Blanc's response:

"Women are not inflatable dolls that one will inflate on one side or the other according to the fantasies that one would like to be able to test. You meet a woman who is as she is. That's not what she is. It is not anecdotal to touch your body, to perform surgery We can praise the wonders of plastic surgery, but it is touching a body, it is touching a nervous system.

Surgery has to be a personal desire, right?

I would even say that it has to be a major repair for oneself because there is something very hurt or very damaged in his perception of himself, with a failing narcissistic feeling.

We grew up with what we are, we seduced with what we are.

She may have ambitions to have bigger breasts, but it's quite derogatory to say 'I wish you had bigger breasts'.

It's horrible, it's like saying to a man: 'I would like you to have big pectorals, you can't have implants.'

Does it come from social networks, where we show off more and more our bodies?

Yes, you are absolutely right.

Today we no longer even have the notion of the specificity of a body.

So much so that when we see close-up sexes in pornography that are pink, it is not the norm for a woman's sex.

The real thing is that we have bodies which have their proportion, their history.

There is also the story of what is possible or not possible to highlight oneself, the scars, the bulges.

The body is a whole book.

If we all looked at each other in pieces, we probably wouldn't have the prettiest hands, the prettiest look or the prettiest breasts.

With this remark from her husband, she may lose confidence in herself.

She can, yes.

It takes a lot of character, a lot of temperament, a lot of internal self-confidence.

So you have to be able to work on this internal security to be able to dare to say who you are.

There are some wonderful and very sexy outfits for tiny breasts that no woman with big breasts could put on.

So on the contrary that she put forward this eroticism, her sex appeal if she feels like it and she demonstrates that it is otherwise that she can be extremely attractive.

We agree, she tells him no and then that's it?

I won't say that you have to say no, but there she said it herself.

Again, she's not an inflatable doll. "