The issue of sexuality is often difficult to broach between parents and their adolescents.

So to do the best, the sex therapist Margot Fried-Filliozat gave three tips Monday in the show Sans rendez-vous, such as creating a space for dialogue.

INTERVIEW

Many questions arise in adolescence about the body, love, desire or even sexuality.

Not easy for parents to know how to react.

Should we get involved, guide them, or on the contrary let them discover things on their own?

The sex therapist Margot Fried-Filliozat gave three leads on Monday, in the show

Sans rendez-vous

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"Sexuality is something very personal. We do not necessarily want mom and dad to be there to monitor what is happening," first exposed Margot Fried-Filliozat who regularly speaks in colleges and high schools to talk about sexuality.

Approaching sexuality as a social issue

"I think it's important to talk about these things in a very general way. Because you hear about them in a movie, on TV, on the radio. It's better to talk about them as a subject of society rather than really entering into privacy where it can be embarrassing and uncomfortable, ”she advises.

Create a space for dialogue

"It is important to respect the child's secret garden. Rather than going to question it, we must create a space for dialogue, talk about love in general and say 'if you ever want to talk about this. what's going on in your life, we can discuss it. ”Asking precise questions is intrusive and being bombarded with questions does not make you want to talk,” added Margot Fried-Filliozat.

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Using the "ten options" technique

"When adolescents have questions about sexuality, as adults, you always want to explain. But in fact, that doesn't really help them. You have to help them think. You have to take a concrete situation, for example. a film where two people kiss and put themselves in the place of the young girl, for example. What were her ten options in this situation? Accept, say no, run away, ask a friend for help, etc.? The answers can be realistic or not, pleasant or not, the idea is to strengthen the child's ability to think and find situations on his own ", concludes the sex therapist.