The attachment of the child to her father is noticeable in most societies, and its features are evident in the father’s tendency to indulge his daughter and impose severity and cruelty on his son in order to grow up a brave man, responsible and able to face difficulties.
The girl receives special treatment from her father, so we see her resorting to him in times of weakness and need, throwing in his arms a sense of protection and warmth, and a close and impeccable relationship is established between them, another kind of love relationship, a sacred bond that brings the daughter closer to her father.
The father sometimes considers his daughter like his mother because he feels that she is compassionate about him and cares for him and asks about him, and other times he sees in her the dear sister who discloses his concerns to her, whether from within the family or from outside, and even finds in her the sincerity of a friend who heals his wounds that he suffers from.
However, this does not mean that all parents use the same logic with their daughters, and vice versa.
"My father is the best man in the world."
Elena Al Shamali describes her relationship with her father as "very solid", as she is attached to him and considers him her hero and the ideal man in her life, and in her eyes he is the best man in the world, and nothing can disturb this idea, so when she chose her life partner, she found in him all the traits in her father, and this What prompted her to admire him more, considering that she had chosen a good partner that suits her and harmonizes with her aspirations.
According to Al-Shamali, the nature of a girl's relationship starts from childhood with her father, and can define her personality features as she enters adolescence and then maturity.
In her adolescence, she found herself very close to her father, because psychologically she began to form a woman and wanted to get to know the opposite sex more.
And he is the first person in her life to meet the father, which makes the father's relationship with his daughter very important at that time, because it controls the extent of her psychological balance.
This made her confident in herself and her steps, and she became more able to face life while mentally balanced.
She ends her interview with Al-Jazeera Net, confirming that a father and daughter have a beautiful love relationship embodied in warm feelings, and the father is a dear friend to his daughter more than the daughter's relationship with her mother.
In adolescence, she suffered a little from the inability to communicate with her mother, who used the method of decisiveness and direct exhortation, in contrast to her father, who was affectionate, emotional, and ready for discussion and negotiation to reach solutions that satisfy all parties.
Rasha Salman: My father was my friend, and his loss was tragic for me, and I was very touched by his absence (Al-Jazeera)
My father's loss was catastrophic
Rasha Salman recalls her father, who died years ago with sorrow, sadness and pain, talking about the importance of that relationship in her daily life, and says to Al-Jazeera Net, "My father was very interested in completing my university and postgraduate studies after graduation. He was keen to accompany me when registering at the university, and he did not prevent me from choosing a major. What I want to study, because my father was a friend of mine most of the time, and he called from time to time to check on me, by virtue of my presence in the residence of university students.
Al-Jazeera Net turned out to be a relationship based on understanding and trust, as he treated her on the basis that she was a person who understood life’s issues. “He did not impose his opinion on me or my brother, he was soft, affectionate, friendly and non-bossy. I felt warm, safe and love at his side, so his loss was catastrophic. As for me, I was very touched by his absence, and I still longed for him and longed to hear his voice as he advised me and guided me to do the right thing. "
She tells Al-Jazeera Net that she refrained from talking to anyone for a whole year, and spent a period of confusion in her feelings, because she felt that there was no one to protect him or defend her.
And she ends by saying, "Praise be to God, my mother and my younger brother helped me a lot to overcome sadness, adapt to the new situation and enhance the feeling of emotional security, and the feeling that we are one cohesive, loving family. My mother was optimistic, courageous and rational. She pushed us to be optimistic and successful children in their lives. They have a positive outlook for the future. It is very important for my father's spectrum to remain in a positive light. "
The girl who lacks tenderness, affection and security with her father chooses a partner for her life that carries features different from her father's characteristics (Pixels)
She still fears her father's bullying
Laila Ghanem still fears the domination of her father, despite her marriage and the establishment of her own family, as she does not forget the strict rules that he used to follow with her and her sisters, and he tells them what they must do, and if they do not do so, he will punish them.
So she was evading his cruelty and persecution, so that she would not suffer from reprimand and retribution.
According to Ghanem, she lacked tenderness, affection and security with her father, but she is satisfied that she has found the true support for her with her compassionate and wonderful husband in his dealings with her and their children.
Father is the first man in a girl's life
Clinical psychologist Faten Zain El-Din interprets the father’s relationship with his daughter as a “connection of blood and a name.” This is the first thing the father gives to his daughter before she discovers the latter if the “father” will be a primary reason for loving herself and the other, or vice versa.
The girl’s relationship with her father is a fundamental relationship in forming a girl’s view of men in general, as the “father” is “the first man in the girl’s life,” and he is “the first mirror of a reflection of her femininity and her identity as a woman, and the extent of her self-confidence in this regard.”
She continues her explanation of Al-Jazeera Net, explaining that the father's presence in his daughter's life since childhood has a great impact on the psychological makeup of the girl’s personality, as her self-esteem is high, and her behavior is balanced in dealing with the opposite sex.
Specialist Faten Zeineldin: The father is the first man in a girl's life (Al-Jazeera)
Father's absence or passive presence
As for his absence or negative presence in her life, it leads to negative effects on her psychological makeup, and this is reflected in her behavior - perhaps aggressive - towards the opposite sex, a feeling of emotional deprivation and the search for compensation for this deprivation, and low self-esteem.
Which may lead to a decline in success and achievement in school or professional life.
According to Zain al-Din, the father who gives confidence to his daughter and encourages her to take responsibility and satisfy her emotionally away from the satisfactory indulgence that may make her always childish in her priorities, and she can be a girl together, where love, respect and tenderness are among her priorities in her life partner, as her father resembles or is an extension For the image of the heroic man in her life.
In the event of the father’s passive presence, she often tries to choose a man who does not resemble her father, or rather is his antithesis, because she searches in her relationship with the husband for an image (a subjective view) that she did not obtain through her father.
It may happen that the girl fails in her emotional relationships because she searches for the affection and attention of the father through her life partner whom she chooses, and this partner does not want to play the role of the father in her life.
The importance of the relationship in religious terms
After infanticide of girls was prevalent in the Jahiliyyah, Islam came and prohibited that. Indeed, it honored women and raised their status, and in the Holy Prophet Muhammad (may God bless him and grant him peace) a good example, and one of the most beautiful examples of a father’s relationship with his daughter is his relationship (peace and blessings be upon him) with his daughter Fatima As a recognition of the religious significance of this relationship.
Therefore, healthy emotional growth and maturity always needs the psychological basic triad: father, mother, and child; A positive parental presence is very important within the family system that preserves the role of each of them as "mother and father."