Physical illness is easy to treat, but heart disease is difficult to treat.
The soaring rate of suicide among young people worldwide is becoming a secondary disaster of this epidemic.
"I really can't live anymore" "I just want to die"... Is this a "goodbye" from the suicide?
No, this is their "seek help".
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Either excellent or finished
Tickled raindrops hit the glass window, and the pale Tingting stared at it for a long time.
"I'm unhappy, irritable, and only feel better when I cut my wrist."
"When did you start thinking about suicide?" the doctor asked.
"A long time ago, last week was very strong. Grandma's house is on the 7th floor. I lay on the balcony and saw the landing place."
Tingting is only 13 years old.
There are 14-year-old Xiaoyan, 15-year-old Chang Chang, 16-year-old Yun Ni... They are all brought to the psychologist because of suicidal tendencies or multiple suicide attempts.
"The scale of the epidemic as a traumatic event is almost unimaginable." Uval Neria, a professor of psychology at Columbia University Medical Center, said that the anxiety caused by war or terrorist attacks is at least geographically limited, and this time The lethality of the epidemic "knows no borders."
The outpatient data of a city hospital shows that since this year, 13 to 16-year-old depression patients with suicidal tendencies account for a high proportion of the total number of student patients.
Although both genetic and external environmental factors account for half of the suicidal tendency, academic pressure, parent-child conflicts, deep Internet addiction, and psychological conflicts caused by procrastination have become common psychological problems among students.
"My father has a bad temper. When he loses his temper, I want to hide or escape, but I can't help it when the epidemic is at home." "When my mother is in a bad mood, hit me with a stick and kick me with her feet "I always feel that someone is watching me, and I heard a voice telling me, let me die"...
Yu Guoliang, a professor at Renmin University of China, believes that the vast majority of "problem children" encountered in clinical work have deep-rooted family problems.
The parenting style has caused many patients to be implanted with some strong life creeds at a very young age, such as "I don't deserve to be treated well", "No one is worthy of trust", "Either excellent or finished".
It is worth being vigilant that teachers’ emotional problems are transmitted to children all the time.
The negative energy caused by assessment pressure, ranking anxiety, etc., is wrapped in every word the teacher says.
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Thanks to the person who "see through" me
"Before the second year of junior high, my understanding of depression was only on'Leslie Cheung committed suicide by jumping from a building'." When she saw Xiao Yuan'er, she was wearing a bright yellow dress with light in her eyes.
It is hard to imagine that she has experienced repeated tortures such as binge eating, anorexia, lethargy, sleeplessness, self-harm, suicide attempt, etc.
"After finishing the third year of junior high school and entering high school, the force of depression has come back unknowingly. I am afraid of a new day and a new burden, and a moth will come out at the time of the exam." "I have been wearing too many high hats since I was young. It makes me unable to accept my failure, and I am afraid of my success"...
Zhang Zaifu, a member of the Zhejiang Provincial Psychological Crisis Intervention Expert Group, said that many children like Xiaoyuaner, unlike those suffering from severe depression and schizophrenia, have a very strong desire to survive.
What they want to escape from is pain, not life itself.
"Practice" his behavior seemed crazy, but it released an important distress signal.
"I really can't live anymore" "I just want to die"... Is this a kind of "goodbye"?
No, this is "seek help".
"When we understand that people don't want to end their lives, but want to end their sufferings, to live is the river that we carry on our backs and the way we and the parties support each other." A mental health researcher in Hubei Province The psychologist Yang Wei said.
Psychologists generally believe that if patients can use their ambivalence to enhance their desire to survive, the risk of suicide can be reduced.
"I really appreciate the person who'sees through' me. He is my primary doctor." Xiao Yuan'er said.
In many cases, thinking about it is just a momentary thing.
Xiao Yuan'er is now a volunteer in the psychological rehabilitation center.
"I hope to help those who are as painful as I have been."
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When we discuss suicide, we are actually discussing how to survive
American psychiatrist Mark Goston once summed up the mentality of suicides as "eight nothings": hopeless, helpless, powerless, useless, worthless, goalless, meaningless, and indifferent.
Until the moment when the suicide was implemented, these mentalities were in fluctuating changes.
French sociologist Durkheim believes that people with fewer social norms, connections and obligations are more likely to commit suicide.
People need obligations and constraints to establish a structure and meaning for their lives.
These seemingly metaphysical studies are actually centered on one issue, which is to find the commonality in suicide motives from the "ultimate" level, and then to better prevent suicide.
Young lives often have a strong subjective pursuit of "how to live", and this pursuit is precisely the breakthrough to prevent suicide.
Zhao Guoqiu, a professor in the Department of Psychology of Zhejiang University, said: “We need to treat adolescent mental health education as a systematic project. Start the crisis intervention early warning system and apply psychological crisis intervention to various emergencies (such as suicides) among youth groups. In the aftermath."
At the same time, we also need to re-examine the influence of social networking on the structure and meaning of young lives.
"Behind the popular short video industry is a lonely harvest for young people." Liu Xinwei, a researcher at the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, believes that behind the rise of the lonely economy and the generalization of young people's autistic society are increasingly large empty-nest youths. .
The generalization of loneliness, the spread of low desire mentality, and world-weary suicide... In order to get rid of this inertia, young people must be helped to reach a "reconciliation" with online social interaction and help them get out of the extreme tendency that the "information cocoon" effect may bring.
Finally, we must find a way to convince the scarred young life that although it may not seem ideal, there are always other options.
Most of the time, "live in pain" is more meaningful than "death relief."
In the 1970s, the impoverished American abstract painter Mark Rothko ended his life in his studio.
At about the same time, Ding Ling, a well-known Chinese female writer who was undergoing cruel persecution, did not choose to self-judgment, but insisted on creating while working.
Many years later, wearing a plain white shirt and sitting on an old wicker chair, she recalled her choice like this: People, as long as there is a belief and pursuit, she can endure all hardships and any environment. adapt.