In "Sans Rendez-vous" this Wednesday, the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc, responds to Julian, who follow the blows of an evening.

But his relatives wonder about this way of life and point out that at 28 years old, it is time for him to find a serious relationship.

According to the specialist, this is not completely true.  

One night stands against a serious relationship.

Julian has made his choice and wants to "enjoy his youth".

But at 28, his relatives think he is no longer old enough to flirt and that it is time he found a serious relationship.

For sex therapist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc, there is no age to form a couple, unless you want to start a family with a person of the same age.

In "Without Rendezvous" this Wednesday, she also explains that this way of life reflects a difficulty in building a relationship, since a one-night stand stops precisely when the latter can begin. 

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Julian's question

I'm 28 years old, enjoying my youth and seeing a lot of girls, often for one night stands.

Some relatives told me that I was past the age to do this and that I should look for a girl for "seriousness".

Are they right?

Catherine Blanc's response 

I think those close to Julian wonder about the difficulty he has to ask himself, to build a relationship, a couple.

Certainly, there is a biological age if you want to have children with a person of the same age, but not in terms of building a relationship. 

Is it Julian's lifestyle that worries those close to him? 

Yes, the question is not sexuality or its consumption, but the difficulty it has in creating lasting bonds.

It is his ability to bring the other into his bubble and give him enough value so that he remains there that are involved.

Because in reality Julian is always all alone, in a denial of the other and of his value.

If this is not what satisfies his immediate need. 

Is it a form of insecurity?

It is indeed a form of insecurity.

When you only meet for one night, it can be great.

This is how people who have this kind of practices relate it.

But the reality is that at first the two bodies have to come to terms with each other.

A one-night stand involving stopping when the relationship becomes possible, so it's usually a bogus encounter. 

But maybe Julian just hasn't met the right person? 

Maybe ... But then it remains to define what the right person is.

In this case, one would then have to wonder why he only meets "bad people".

But it is possible that Julian is in an idealization of the right person, precisely to never involve her in reality. 

Dating is often seen as one of the ultimate goals in life, but maybe some aren't?

Yes, Julian can be happy like that, there are loads of things you can do in life to be successful, and the relationship doesn't have to be a high point.

There may be a fault on Julian's part, but in the name of what must it be corrected in the death in which he is blooming.

Some are afraid of being alone and see Julian's situation as a great drama, while for him it may be a place of comfort and safety.

It is his life and his choice.