The marital relationship and the establishment of the family are the basis for building societies and countries, as the success of this relationship contributes to the formation of an educated and mature society that changes the course of a future for the better, but the difference between the spouses in culture or study sometimes creates a miserable life to the point of divorce, which makes many demand that this be observed Factors when coming to marriage, by searching for the right partner for the cultural and educational levels.

Others believe that educational and cultural compatibility is not necessarily a reason for understanding or incompatibility between spouses, as this is due to the extent of their human compatibility.

Due to the importance of the issue in the social field and its impact on marital life in particular and society in general, Al-Jazeera Net conducted an exploratory tour and asked the following question: Does the difference in the cultural and academic levels between the spouses affect the success of their relationship, and thus the success of marriage?

A question that is frequently asked in different social circles, and it may be a reason for either party to refuse or accept marriage.

Al-Hajj’s role says that the saying cultural difference negatively affects marital relations is a false theory (Al-Jazeera)

A happy life

You see, in the role of Hajj, that the responsibility lies on the shoulders of the spouses, far from any cultural or academic difference, and the theory of cultural difference negatively affects marital relations is wrong, and the best example of that - as she says - is that this difference in her life did not threaten marital stability, She is a teacher at school, and her husband works in the security services in the state, and she insists that the difference - whether cultural or educational - is a positive condition between the spouses that leads them to create a happy life away from problems.

She confirms that her husband did not feel an inferiority complex because he did not finish his school education and was associated with a university girl, so he wanted to build the marital home on the basis of the formation of the new home and what the spouses expect of children and what they spend in order to raise them, far from the calculations of parity in educational attainment.

She also did not face problems or difficulty in understanding with him, and the most important thing was that she did not make him feel that he was inferior to her in the educational level, as they shared all the details, and they never clashed over the issue of raising children, and she finds that there is a divorce rate that occurs as a result of other life matters that are not related. It has both educational and cultural levels.

Ali Al-Amiri insists that the spouses must settle their decision regarding differences before the conclusion of the marriage, whether by acceptance or rejection (Al-Jazeera)

Effects of education teams

For his part, Ali Al-Amiri - who is an engineer in communications - considers that a husband whose educational level is good must marry an educated woman in order not to burden him with raising children later, as his wife did not complete her education, and this created a gap between them, especially in raising children and making them incompatible And the quarrels abounded between them for lack of understanding, for she is a housewife who does not have an academic qualification.

Ali feels suffering with his wife when a dialogue or discussion occurs about certain matters related to his work or the like, for an educated woman with an educational level is much better than an illiterate woman, and the husband may collide in his dealings, education and raising his children later, and this is what happened with him as he tells Al-Jazeera Net.

That is why he believes that the difference will have a strong effect on the marital relationship, especially if the wife is the highest culturally, scholarly and professionally, because this will cause bad psychological effects on the husband, and vice versa.

Ali ends his speech, stressing that the spouses must make their decisions about these differences before the completion of the marriage, whether by acceptance or rejection, and they must also work to find an intellectual rapprochement between them, as this will contribute to the success of the relationship.

Educational specialist Maggie Al-Khatib: The cultural difference between spouses plays a major role in the failure of marital relations (Al-Jazeera)

Awareness and conviction

The specialist in educational sociology Maggie Al-Khatib believes that the cultural and educational difference between the spouses plays a major role in the failure of the marital relationship, which prompts those who are about to marry to think not to associate with partners less at the cultural level.

In her interview with Al-Jazeera Net, it became clear that the matter may differ from one society to another, as things are relative, as some may see this difference as a fundamental pillar in bridging the relationship and new marital understandings, and generating diverse and different ideas that enrich and enhance marital life.

Al-Khatib explains that some others believe that this difference at this level leads to the failure of the marital institution as a result of the increasing quarrels resulting from the difference in opinions, convictions, viewpoints, ways of thinking and outlook on matters, especially since after marriage the spouses encounter a set of obstacles and challenges on various levels - including social and emotional Economic and subsistence - requires from the two parties to agree on joint fateful decisions.

After marriage, the spouses face obstacles and challenges that require both parties to agree on joint fateful decisions (Getty Images)

influential factors

Specialist Al-Khatib points out that there are a group of factors that play their role, including the degree of conviction and satisfaction of each party with the partner and everything related to him, and that each complements the other, or the control of one of the parties over the other as a result of ignorance and lack of knowledge, or the desire of one of them to cancel the opinion of the less educated party and belittle it. Just because the former has a higher level of education and education and his belief that he has a monopoly on knowledge in all fields.

In addition to the emotional factor, the extent of its persistence and its nature, some of them consider love to be the possession of the other, and some of them consider it as a positive space and reflection of hope, and “we cannot overlook a fundamental factor in our eastern societies which can have a direct impact on the success or failure of the marital partnership related to sex. The person with the highest cultural level, is it the woman or the man?

The specialist adds that the boundary in this matter remains the awareness of the two partners and their perception of each other and of the marital institution, and their conviction with the partner regardless of the cultural, educational and other differences, as marital life may continue without the presence of the elements of the intended cultural difference in the daily life of the two partners. It is present and constitutes a factor of failure or success for life and the marital institution, according to her saying.