How many days do you want to "autify" every month? Everyone could be like this
As long as these emotions do not affect our normal life rhythms, they are still within the normal range. We don’t have to panic too much. It’s no big deal to lose a moment and lose a moment.
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"Recently, I don't want to talk. Don't talk to me unless necessary."
"Why is 2020 so difficult? Restart now!"
At half past one in the morning, Little A who clicked on Moments saw the two Moments sent by Little B. Little A is a little puzzled: Little B usually seems to be alive and kicking, why is he suddenly so depressed in the middle of the night?
Emotions also have cycles
Under normal circumstances, we are not “very happy” or “extremely depressed” all day long. Positive emotions and negative emotions are not either one or the other. They are more like two independent coexisting dimensions. We can be both afraid and Fortunately, it is both angry and funny, and I can be happy during this period of time, and be lower in the next period of time.
Seeing the beautiful scenery, tasting food, and just in time for the green light will make us happy for a while, while being criticized by leaders, traffic jams on the road, and hearing about accidents will also make us feel bad for a while.
Such changes are normal, and negative emotions also have meaning. We know that being criticized by the leader will be uncomfortable, so we try our best to improve our work and avoid criticism; we know that traffic jams are bad, so we go out and plan ahead; we heard I feel frightened and sad in an accident, so pay attention to safety and protect yourself-negative emotions are an important signal to keep us away from danger.
"Autistic" at night
Emotions change and appear alternately. You may have also woke up in the middle of the night, then picked up your mobile phone, clicked on the circle of friends, and found that your friends who were full of energy during the day began to think "Life is not worth it."
Psychological research has found that people are more likely to feel confident and motivated in the morning, but negative emotions will emerge late at night.
Some people ridicule that people only think about life when they go to the toilet and in the middle of the night. This sentence has a certain truth. Statistics show that the later the time, the more "lost" the dynamic content people post on social networks, three or four in the morning. When you click, the circle of friends will be full of "survival anxiety", "meaning of life", and "life is not worth it."
Change in rhythm is easy to be empty
Whether it’s just relaxing after the last final exam, or just having to wake up early on Monday at the end of the weekend, we are likely to feel a sense of loss and emptiness.
The final exam is a relatively high-intensity activity, accompanied by a certain level of stress. After this activity is over, the stress suddenly disappears, just like a high-speed car suddenly brakes. This relaxing effect can lead to immune system imbalance. On weekends, we can relax and rest, gather with friends, check in at the Internet celebrity venues, and do a series of things that are out of the daily schedule. Monday means that these "privileges" are gone, and post-holiday depression is also a normal reaction.
Lower in winter
Short-term frustration may also be related to the season, and severe cases may be regarded as "seasonal depression."
The shorter light hours in winter, the more frequent cloudy days, and the office with no sunlight make people receive less bright natural light every day. Bright light can promote the balance of brain chemicals, such as serotonin activation, lack of light , Decrease in serotonin activity, it may induce depression.
The December downturn is not only related to nature, but also to year-end summary and turmoil. It is conceivable that a friend who wrote “If 2021 is as difficult as 2020, then don’t come” may have just finished the year-end summary, and then found that compared with the beginning of the year, the goal set by themselves has not been completed, or maybe The year-end summary work is too much, and I can’t help complaining about working overtime too late.
How to get along with emotions: acceptance and attention
How to deal with such "autism"? We have to look at different situations.
For us, even if we have a few minutes every day to lie down on the spot, a few days a month to be "autistic", and a period of time every year to be buried in the bed-as long as these emotions have no effect When our normal life rhythm is reached, it is still within the normal range. Everyone has negative emotions, and no one can eliminate them. We don’t have to panic because of this. It’s not a big deal to lose a moment and lose a moment.
Even if it cannot be eliminated, there are many adjustment methods. Regulation is not about repression and elimination, but to change emotions by adjusting the situation and cognition. We can get rid of or change the situations that make us depressed, and create some happy situations, such as listening to our favorite music after working overtime. We can also change our evaluation of the situation. When we feel that work is for improvement and for future accumulation, it is better than feeling that "work is all squeeze".
But if this kind of emotion keeps us from thinking about anything, unable to work and study, or even for a period of time, we only have negative emotions and cannot feel happy at all. This may require our attention: at this time, maybe you need to follow The professionals had a chat.
Yin Jinxiu Source: China Youth Daily