Many harassment cases have exploded in the past few days, after the testimonies of girls and women spread about harassment incidents they exposed and revealed the harassers by name. Among the most prominent of these cases is the case of the Egyptian youth, who was accused by more than 200 victims of harassment, sexual assault and rape, to be arrested, and the file remains open until now.
In a parallel direction, many women have condemned the social media or the accused, accusing her of failing to raise him and covering up his actions, especially that he was dismissed from more than one university because of the harassment and harassment of his colleagues. What kind of mistake might she make, or when raising her child, which would turn into a harasser?
What is harassment?
The concept of harassment expands from action to electronic comments on social media, according to Reem Mustafa Omran, educational consultant and specialist for modifying children's behavior and learning difficulties.
The specialist stresses that harassment is any speech, verb, hint, references or audio or visual materials of a sexual nature imposed on a male or female without their consent from an adult, whether male or female, regardless of the nature of the relationship with him.
She explained that the electronic harassment includes calls, "chat", comments, written and audio messages, photos and videos, of a sexual nature, that the victim receives without her consent.
Breeding makes a harasser
Erroneous pedagogical methods may make the child a harasser, and the specialist - Al Jazeera Net - explains that the defect that occurs in education may change the child's instinct and turn him into a violent, aggressive and harassed person.
The educational advisory lists a number of those mistakes that may contribute to turning a child into a molester:
1- Corporal punishment
Using the beating method as a tool to raise and punish, or even threaten him, turns the child into aggressive, bullied, and an adult in harassment.
2- Excessive fear and exaggerated attention
Excessive fear turns the child into a person with a bad character, whether arrogant, aggressive, or selfish, or an aggressive, irresponsible and bullying child, and in the end he becomes an adulterous person who hurts others and does not bear the consequences of his actions.
3- Failure in sound sexual education
Sex education for a child is a very necessary matter that rests with the parents from a young age, starting with the education of the child for his body and privacy, respect for the body and privacy of others.
The school also has an active role even in restoring the mistakes of parents or treating the deficiency in education, as well as society with all its educational and educational institutions must be present in all social awareness, educational and educational in order to avoid spawning harassers due to failure in proper psychological education, according to the aforementioned consultant.
4- Encouraging violent behavior
In adolescence and early adolescence, some think that harassment of girls is a sign of masculinity and self-assertion. Violence between parents, or domestic violence in general, affects the child's personality and behavior and sometimes simulates this violence in the form of harassment.
5- Pampering and ignoring wrong behaviors
Excessive pampering and meeting all the needs of the child without reckoning, in addition to not paying attention to his behavior and neglecting his actions without punishment or educational discipline, creates an adolescent's inner desire to attract the attention of others, and in order to achieve this desire may act in a violent manner including harassment and sexual assault.
6- Discrimination and entitlement
In a large number of Arab families, a qualitative distinction is made between education between the boy and the girl in the same family, such as if the girl serves her brother, and the male child gets privileges, rewards, and gifts that his sister does not receive, that preference makes him feel superior to her and his entitlement to tolerate her dignity when he matures, and then Taking possession of any woman’s body and harassing her.
7- Exposure to violent media content
Some mothers underestimate her child's follow-up to violent cartoons, the content of which is superiority and obtaining anything by force and violence, to develop the child believing that violence is the easiest way to get what he wants, in addition to the serials and films that deal with harassment as a material for ridicule and laughter and that women are reprehensible, making them believe that they deserve exposure A female and molested her.
8- Underestimating it
Some mothers make mistakes when they think that focusing on the flaws of their baby makes him change, such as telling him "you are weak, your body is weak" or being ridiculed in the family and family for his or her body or body.
The teenager searches for a way to take revenge for the bullying that he was exposed to, and uses harassment as a reaction to feel himself confident and restored, and sometimes harassment is an attempt by him to restore control and a sense of strength.
Do not get involved in bringing up a harasser?
With the increase in cases of sexual violence and harassment, it has become necessary for parents to review the methods of bringing up with a child from an early age, and changing the misconceptions of raising a normal child.
Social worker Rim Mustafa says that the mother should avoid any disruption in raising her child, and that she should develop it from a young age to take responsibility and respect the privacy of others, respect for the girl and equality in education between males and females.
"Raising the child in the arms of a good family, working, educated and responsible, is the true guarantee of delinquency and of raising a harassed youth who does not know the value of a woman and does not value her."