How not to be negatively influenced by pornography? In the program Sans Rendez-vous , on Europe 1, Doctor Damien Mascret gives keys to avoid the three pitfalls linked to watching adult videos. Because according to the specialist, this can have harmful consequences on the conception and the practice of sexuality, in particular in terms of imagination.
First trap: a fixed scenario
"We must first be wary of the normative effect of pornography, because it is both the same thing and different. It is the same thing because there is really a fairly classic scenario, which will preliminaries to male pleasure. In general, everything stops afterwards. In reality, we can start to forget this idea of preliminaries. We must also forget this notion that everything must necessarily follow this order, such as the starter, the main course, dessert. You don't have to follow such a frozen scenario.
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However, many feel that this is the right thing to do. Sexuality is normally one of the areas in which, in principle, you are completely free with your partner to do what you want. In reality, this is one of the areas where we are sometimes the most traditional to follow what has been recommended to us. There is therefore a very strong normative effect. Many will eventually have a limited variety in their sexual repertoire. It can however have a useful effect since we are going to offer things to our partner. Consent will be essential because, when one proposes, the other has. "
Second trap: an unrealistic course
"There is a double face in porn: it is both realistic and unrealistic. The realistic side is that the man is obviously in a state of excitement. We cannot pretend to have an erection. Now there are products like intra-cavernous injections sometimes used in porn, which can actually lead to completely unrealistic erections that will last a very long time. the viewer says that it works.
This is where it can actually be dangerous: sometimes, we can have patterns and scenarios that will prevail. For example, partners will have fun with things that are not at all pleasant or pleasant. It can be pain, disrespect or humiliation. It obviously happens that some people develop a sexuality around these practices, but it must be remembered that it is rather rare. Most people do not like this kind of practice. In any case, those who do not like it should not indulge in it simply because they think it is the norm. So you have to be wary of this double face of porn that is both realistic and unrealistic. "
Third trap: a blocked imagination
"The biggest flaw of porn is a little bit there: we're going to block creativity, in a way. Even if some will vary the pleasures, many tend to be a little monomanic. Porn consumers will always look the same things and therefore instill in their minds an erotic education completely targeted to a practice, a type of relationship, or a situation. They leave no more openness either to the creativity or the imagination of their partner. "