Christophe had a fantasy: that of making love in a country car, far from the marital home, with his friend. But when the forty-something man tried to realize this fantasy a few days ago, it went wrong for him and he is now wondering about the reasons that made this experience turn into a fiasco. The sexologist and psychoanalyst in Paris Catherine Blanc answers him Tuesday in the program Sans Rendez-vous on Europe 1.
Christophe's question, 46
"Last weekend, I went with my girlfriend to the countryside, we experienced sex in the car, but I did not enjoy it at all, whereas it is a fantasy that I had since quite a lot how to explain it? "
Catherine Blanc's response
"This fantasy is the idea of being able to do this anywhere, in an outside place, but in the protection of the car so as not to do it outside in nature, perhaps wrongly d What’s fun is the idea of doing it outside your home. It’s a kind of freedom, because sexuality seeks absolute freedom. Making love is freedom.
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We are forced by our neighbors, children, relatives or friends, possibly. All of a sudden it's possible. There is the car, in the water, in an elevator, in the fields ... Wanting to do it somewhere other than in a bed and in your house, under the stars or under the sky, it's pretty classic. "
But it's not practical in practice, is it?
"This is exactly what happened. The seats do not lower as it should, there is a steering wheel, we bump right to left, there are buttocks that protrude above speed, there has the gear lever… It's funny, so it can be sexy, but in reality it's not comfortable. "
Isn't there a desire to show off, even to be seen?
"Of course! That being said, Christophe talks about the countryside, but we are not in the middle of nowhere, in the middle of the night. In nature, there is less chance than if it were in a city. But c "It’s this possibility that makes things a little exciting, from a fantasy point of view since technically it wasn’t quite that."
Should you take clothes that are easy to remove?
"It is better not to be very dressed so that it is very easy to undress. It is better to do it in summer than in winter. Men still have pants, socks, shoes ... Not only are there the paraphernalia of the car, but there are the pants stuck at the bottom of the calves, with the socks and the shoes, it becomes very folk, very funny, but very unfeasible. "
It's a little sad to be disappointed with a fantasy, right?
"Sometimes it sucks, but it sucks if you don't take it in a funny way. The problem is that he takes it too seriously, -to say that it was his fantasy, he lived it and he missed it because obviously, in a fantasy, we have all the flexibility in the world and we forget that in real life, we are a little more The interior of a car, even if it is a utility vehicle, it is not necessarily very comfortable. It can work, provided you remove the car seats for children, and have arranged that in a dormitory , behind !
Basically, it doesn't matter if you missed it because it was funny. It gives a lot of eroticism to the marital bed or to the usual position, so it's not bad to try things that are a bit twisted to say that everyday life is ultimately quite delicious. "