It is traditionally called solitary pleasure, yet some adolescents practice group masturbation. This was particularly the case of Océane's husband with his friends, in front of a pornographic film. A confidence that disturbed the latter, not understanding the interest. In "Sans Rendez-vous" this Friday, sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc explains that "this is part of the boys' games".
The Océane question
The other evening my husband told me that when he was a teenager, he masturbated with his friends in front of a porn. However, he is not attracted to men. Why do some boys do this?
Catherine Blanc's response
Boys have always compared themselves, it can be measuring their gender, playing who will urinate the furthest, or who can masturbate the longest. It's part of their games, their contests, a bit like the showdown. But there is also a pack effect and I believe that unfortunately there is a pressure from the boys between them: we force or we are forced by the other members of the group to participate in the discovery of sexuality with pornography ( become very accessible).
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So it's not a question of access to pornography?
Not really. Before there was one who had a magazine or a cassette that he shared, while today everyone can do it on his own. But there is always this evaluation report, a sort of extremely deleterious hazing that is terribly lacking in relation, if not that of performance in relation to the other.
Why don't girls do it?
Because they do something else, but always with that pack effect. It could be for example a lascivious dance. The boys, they are more in the demonstration and the exhibition.
How can we save our teenagers from doing this "stupidity"?
It is not stupidity, except to go where you do not want. This is all the difficulty when you are young, since it is not easy to perceive your own consent. And all the more so when the other members of the group are older: we don't want to be stupid, unfinished. We also find this pressure in the verb, using a particular language to be part of a tribe, and this is where we do the most harm.