INTERVIEW
From cuddly toys to moving through romantic separation, our life is dotted with physical, sentimental or symbolic ruptures. Caps more or less difficult to pass which, if they can prove beneficial in the long term, are most often scary. Guest of "Sans Rendez-vous" this Monday, the therapist and author of These separations that make us grow, Anne-Laure Buffet, explains why we have such a hard time separating ourselves from certain people, but also sometimes from objects.
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Leave "a part of ourselves"
Whether it's a friendship or a love story, when a relationship ends, we "leave a part of us" to this friend or lover ( e), advance the specialist at the microphone of Europe 1. A moment all the more delicate "that one is never ready to separate, when one knows rationally that it can happen". But whether it's leaving a person or a place, like the parental home, "we know that we will never find this situation again, it represents the end of an era. And I believe that the idea of the end is terrifying for many people. "
Confronting the "void"
Especially since if we can "be helped, accompanied, the only person who can really take this step, it is ourselves. And at the time when this happens, we are not necessarily able or ready to face the void "of a rupture. But this situation can also be an opportunity to learn more about yourself, says Anne-Laure Buffet. "It is the possibility of growing up by saying that it is up to me to fill [the emptiness], it is necessary for that to question ourselves about what is in me, the resources that I can develop, the dreams of childhood still unexplored ... "So many elements that allow you to (re) build and be stronger alone.
Objects as symbols of a slice of life
But getting rid of business can also be painful. Whether it's a guitar full of dust lying around in a cupboard, a game console that we turn on more for lack of time or even an aging car, these are all symbols that are "the realization of an important period of your life", details the therapist. "The first separation that can be futile for a child is the cuddly toy. Yet we see that some are in pitiful states and we can be surprised by their attachment, but it is very difficult to get rid of it. "