Farida Ahmed
The marriage quarrel during the Eid is a seasonal ritual, and it may not be without a house, and many people are keen on it during the last days of Ramadan. And with the different circumstances this year due to the isolation measures imposed by the repercussions of Corona, specialists expect that marital differences on this holiday are more and worse .. But why do marital disputes spread on the holiday?
Reham Shaheen, counselor for marital relations, explains that there are multiple reasons for the holiday differences between husbands, which may develop into a great quarrel that the two parties may not be able to accommodate and leave negative effects on marital relations. Among the most important of these are:
1- Financial problems
Among the most common causes of marital disputes in the feast and a few days before it, are the material.
The holiday requirements, including clothing, banquets and material gifts, "Eidiya", need an additional budget, which puts financial pressure on many homes, with high prices and difficult living conditions.
2- Pressure during Ramadan
The wife suffers from great pressure during the month of Ramadan, in preparing food with his appointments at Iftar and Suhoor, taking care of the home and children, in addition to worshiping fasting and sleeping at night, and her inability to sleep normally, which makes her vulnerable to exploding and making trouble for the lesser reasons.
3- Family disputes
In light of differences between the spouses or with the family of one of the spouses, the holiday becomes an opportunity for a major dispute, especially with family visits.
And people are psychologically prepared before the visit that there is a problem that will happen, and indeed it occurs, and there will be a kind of surveillance and phishing errors on the look and the word and gesture, or even on the problems between the children of the family.
4- Different views
Perhaps one of the spouses tends to rest and take advantage of the Eid holiday to sleep, and the other side tends to stroll and go out, visits and family and social events, and with the inability of this in the current situation because of Corona, the climate may become more difficult and ready for battles and quarrels.
The lack of agreement between the two parties on how to spend the days of Eid, creates a bad climate that causes many problems.
5- Inherited habit
When children arise between the parents of the permanent quarrels and disagreements on the days of Eid, the subconscious is rooted in the link between Eid and the problems.
And without any deliberate or feeling, the subconscious regains that bond, and the children, after their marriage, begin to continue the practice of their parents in the fight during the Eid period.
Corona increases the holiday differences
In light of the current conditions imposed by the Corona epidemic of isolation, anxiety and psychological and nervous pressures experienced by many people, Reham confirms to Al Jazeera Net that marital disputes on this holiday may escalate more and get worse.
"The wives suffer from the obsession with sterilization and cleaning, the children are isolated, and the couple has been spending very long periods of time at home for more than two months, and everyone is ready to explode because of the psychological and nervous pressures of Corona."
Reham explains that the material differences may not be strongly present, due to the lack of the need to buy holiday clothes or give "Eid" to children because of the measures of social separation, but the dispute may be due to salary cuts or loss of work, or even due to lack of family visits and the psychological and mood, " Everyone will look for anything to the odds to bring out the negative energy accumulated inside it. "
How to avoid it?
The couple needs to be calm and quenched before embarking on a fight, and Reham recommends that you take the following steps to avoid the seasonal "Holiday Brawl".
1- Calm and quiet, and understand each other.
2- Understanding and agreement on how to spend the Eid period, whether in family visits, singles, hikes and hikes, or even a time for rest and quiet.
3- Agreeing on the requirements and supplies for the holiday, taking into account the budget and living conditions, meaning that if the number of beds is large enough, the father buys only one piece for each son so that he feels the joy of the holiday.
4- Keep children in mind, and understand that this seasonal quarrel will be linked to their minds for life, and they will expect conflict with each feast and practice it in old age.
5 - Dealing with family differences intelligently and understanding, and realizing that differences occur in every home and must be contained, and there is no need to engage in controversy or disagreement in front of children, as it is necessary to absorb any disagreement at the beginning so that things do not go wrong.
6- Understand the current situation, the bad conditions that everyone is going through at the moment because of Corona, and try to overlook any lapses that occur and not pay attention to them and make them a big problem.