China News Service, May 9th, according to the report of the "Huawen School" on the WeChat public account of the "Huawen Weekly" in the United Kingdom. Recently, British schools have launched online teaching during the epidemic. Many Chinese parents in the UK work at home while tutoring their children. Some parents also make their children's schedules colorful.
Unlike many British Chinese mothers who are tired of tutoring their children, He Yue laughed and said that he has been very relaxed recently, "the whole state is like a vacation", because he does not need to get up early every day to send children to school, nor to send them to interest classes.
He Yue is from China. She has lived in the UK for 16 years. Her husband is an Englishman, which makes her feel that she is on the "front line between Chinese and English." She used to be an uncompromising tiger mother, but later, she gradually tried to change, letting her children do what they wanted, and giving them love and encouragement. After many rounds of ideological struggle, she now prefers a more relaxed education method. In the process, she also found herself back.
He Yue said that she has two daughters, one 10-year-old and one 8-year-old, both of whom are attending public schools in the UK. As the child grows, her educational outlook gradually changes. When the eldest daughter was 4 years old, she felt that she could not lose on the starting line. "We will start at 4 years old, so that we can sprint fast and rush early, so that we can succeed."
At that time, she arranged many activities for her children every day, including piano, swimming, and drama lessons. She also supervised her learning Chinese at night.
She said, "I watched my child sleeping, and I was still thinking: child, you are so happy. I have a mother like me to help you arrange your growth path, arrange your good test scores, enter Oxford Cambridge, and then stand out as a British Elite. "He Yue was tired every day, but she believed that it was the mother ’s responsibility to supervise the child ’s learning and progress.
She said that once she chatted with the vice-principal and complained to the vice-principal that the school had no homework and no exams. Then the vice principal looked at her with a smile and said that there is no scientific evidence to prove that doing homework and exams can improve students' academic level. He Yue said that at that time he thought he had heard it wrong.
He Yue ’s husband is an Englishman, and he has a big disagreement with her throughout the child ’s growth.
She said, "At that time, I also discussed this issue with a Chinese mother who was also married to the British. At that time, we believed that the Chinese education concept is correct, and the British education concept is also correct, but it is not good on both sides. Place, the best way is to go to the middle. "
He Yue believes, “First of all, British parents do n’t have such a heavy heart for their children like Chinese parents. Their biggest wish for their children is to wish him health and happiness.”
Now, she believes that the most important thing for parents is for their children to let them find out what they want to do, and then give him love, encouragement, and support, which is fine.
She said, "I have no reason to ask my child to succeed because I don't need her to succeed at all."
She believes, "This society has always been walking in a fairer and fairer direction. My child is following the trend. She only needs to follow the trend in the future and work together to create a fairer society. She does n’t need to be an elite. It ’s tiring to be an elite, unless the child wants to do it herself. If my child wants to do it, I let her do it, and I encourage her to do it; if she does n’t want to do it, it ’s no problem to be an ordinary person. ”
The interest classes that He Yue ’s children are attending now are all for them to attend, not for their parents. The boss reported the dance class and the gym class. The second child is now learning to play drums, He Yue actually feels boring, but her daughter likes it, she also expressed her support and paid her tuition.
She explained, "Of course there is a Buddhist system like me, there is also a prerequisite. Our boss is very independent. She does n’t need me to manage it. She is too mature. She knows exactly what she wants, and she can do whatever she wants to do. I feel that she has taken responsibility for her life. So for me, I just need to give her a sense of security and love. "(Peng Lin)