According to psychology and Sharia, this way you get rid of the husband’s nervousness in Ramadan

Larissa Slaei - Beirut

Many women complain of the nervousness of their husbands in the blessed month of Ramadan, which increases the burden on the wife to satisfy her husband and improve his mood and avoid his anger resulting from quitting smoking or stimuli due to fasting, and the tension increased more staying in the home quarantine due to the outbreak of corona.

The wife is usually keen on preparing the cooks and sweets that her husband loves, and she works hard to provide an atmosphere of calm so that he can sleep and rest by being fasting. How can the wife protect the nervous man for a peaceful pass today?

The adoption of silence and non-provocation
Hana Al-Rifai complains about her husband's nervousness, especially in the month of Ramadan, as he loves calmness and avoids the noise of children in this month, as he is used to leaving the house, but changing this system very disturbed him in the home quarantine, and he started making problems due to great social pressure That has become his responsibility.

Therefore, Hana resorted to another method in dealing with this nervousness, and trying to satisfy him by preparing the dishes he prefers, and she adopted silence and absorbed all the anger with wisdom and wisdom, and always resorting to remembrance, praise and supplication, and the most important thing is not to provoke him until things calm down, as it reduces many of the requests that would exhaust With her husband during Ramadan.

Rayan Al-Badawi Al-Najjar, a positive specialist in mental health, offers a set of tips that help the wife absorb that nervousness, and convert the husband's negative energy into positive energy, to avoid conflict and disputes in this holy month.

Changing the daily routine in this month and avoiding stimuli or smoking necessarily leads to changing the husband’s behavior and increasing his nervousness, because his body is used to specific quantities of those stimuli, and its lack leads to increased intensity of stress and nervousness, so adjusting the usual morning routine in Ramadan so that the time of suhoor is a date Have coffee and tea.

Ryan advises wives to avoid engaging in intense discussions and respond, or be quiet and not raise the volume, and postpone dialogues that need decisions after breakfast.

Ryan Al-Najjar stresses the importance of not going into a discussion if the couple is angry, and it is better to move away a little from each other - with prior agreement - and return to discuss the matter calmly. Discussing topics during anger is totally unsuccessful, and it can aggravate discussion and discord.

Share feelings and activities
Ryan sees the importance of performing religious duties with the family, and the participation of the husband and children in preparing food, in addition to preparing food items with what is in line with the financial situation, including preparing sweets to ease material burdens, taking into account the husband's opinion on the type of food he desires and ensuring Prepare it.

Talk to the husband after breakfast and find appropriate solutions for his psychological state, in addition to talking about the psychological pressure that everyone is experiencing as a result of not being able to know how to deal with him without disturbing him, and trying to enjoy spending a period of rest after breakfast, as this gives positive energy to the couple.

Sharing the feelings that we are experiencing as a result of stress gives us positive energy, and the wife must take into account the psychological situation in which the husband lives, because there are husbands that are increasingly concerned about their psychological and physical health due to the inability to take their medications, or their anxiety about the deterioration of health during fasting.

Mental and physical
health Mental health care is a very important skill and mechanism that helps us deal with the psychological state of the other.

It is preferable to rely on cooking on balanced foods according to a complete diet that maintains energy storage during the day to avoid feeling tired and stressed by fasting.

It is preferable to exercise after breakfast and not before it, and it is preferable if it is in common. Sport has a role in reducing stress and nervousness, and it is an opportunity to practice it together and use it to spend time together due to the crowding of the day in Ramadan.

God Almighty mentioned that the
preacher Dalal Mansour considers that the stability and continuity of marital life is one of the goals that Islam is keen on, just as resorting to God Almighty by the permanent mention is happiness in itself, and the key to solving all problems and quarrels between spouses.

Dalal Mansour advises a Muslim woman to organize her time between her work, her children, her husband and worship, especially in the blessed month of Ramadan, so that everyone takes their right by mutual consent, provided they do not neglect themselves.

Mansour focuses on the importance of seeking help from God Almighty, as it gives patience and endurance, and when quarrels, tension and nervousness occur, the wife's role comes with the help of remembrance of God wherever she is, because it resolved all worries and calamities and filled hearts with tranquility and reassurance. 

And she adds that when the husband is angry, the wife should not meet him with the same anger, which makes the matter worse, and she has to wait, and when he calms down, she can dialogue and discuss with him until friendship and mercy between them prevails.