In "Sans Rendez-vous" this Friday, sexologist Catherine Blanc replies to Tina, who does not know what to think after her husband has announced her intention to leave her once the confinement is complete. 

Normal within a couple, and inevitable during confinement, can marital disputes lead to separation? This is the question that arises this Friday Tina, 37, who has seen arguments ensue with her companion in recent weeks, to the point that he announces that he wants to leave her once the confinement is complete. Troubled by this announcement, she wonders if she should take it seriously. For the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc, who replied in "Sans Rendez-vous" on Europe 1, if the couple was doing well before confinement, it could "be a blunder". 

>> LIVE - Coronavirus: follow the evolution of the situation

The question of Tina, 37

The tensions in my couple increased during confinement, the other evening my husband announced to me that he no longer supported me and that he intended to leave me. Do you think I should take this seriously, or will he change my mind when this period is over?

Catherine Blanc's response

One does not arrive in a period of mad confinement of love to emerge exasperated by the other with the sole desire to flee from it. I think it is something else: either we are simply in a time of exasperation to be locked up, and the partner finds himself responsible for the suffering of this man, or this couple was already in difficulty, and the confinement doesn’t will have improved nothing. It is a bit sterile to say to yourself that 'I am leaving now', because it is impossible, which makes the moment even more unpleasant.

CORONAVIRUS ESSENTIALS

> Partial unemployment: the parents' situation clarified

> A new inflammatory disease affecting children linked to the coronavirus?

> What will shopping be like after May 11?

> The French will have to go on vacation near their home

> Why going to the hairdresser will cost more after confinement

Rather than taking it on itself, or exchanging with it to think about the sustainability of the relationship, saying it sounds like a clumsiness or a burst of great exasperation as there are heaps in all couples. It is a sentence that one can throw away when too much is too much inside oneself, but not necessarily in fact.

But what surprises me about Tina's question is that she wonders if this will be repaired with distance: in a way she remains very passive and a little heavy in the relationship. If she thinks that it is the lack of space which is at the origin of this situation, she does not give it to him, she is not an actor of the relation.

>> PODCAST - Coronavirus: find all the answers to your questions here

One is perhaps a little more fussy during confinement, should we not just let go of the other person's faults?

It must be said that this confinement is a time of sharing territory, and a way of functioning. There cannot be one master on board while the other escapes and loses his free will. He needs to regain his momentum and his desire. That said, between letting go and always letting go of everything, there is a difference and it can also represent a great choking. Finally, it is a deal to find: that everyone has their territory to manage. And I very much doubt that confinement is the good start of a separation, it will take a lot of organization to leave.