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Having sex can be, in principle, a good recipe to endure confinement. Hug first, maybe kiss, have a roll more than acceptable, smile and sleep. A couple of hours, depending on the case, in which the pandemic jumps from the head to stay in mental limbo, and the body relaxes enough to have an orgasm. After an orgasm, even the most aseptic feels a little better.
But it turns out that these are times of asepsis and not of sex . And that for not alarming, and also for ignorance -there are no studies on the matter- the professionals of the matter, sexologists and urologists among others, do not dare to alert excessively on how to manage sexual desire during this global epidemic.
Decision making will be determined by our sentimental state. If we are in a couple and live with it, the recommendations will be one, especially if we believe we have the virus or our partner believes it. If we are single and do not have a stable partner, the medical suggestions will be completely different.
In New York they gave guidelines very quickly and produced a guideline that recommended masturbation first . "The safest person right now is you," they said in the first lines. The second guideline referred directly to abstinence , something that seems anachronistic for the time being, or seemed, because we were used to living sex freely, or at least presumably. The star theme before the coronavirus was the clitoral sucker, for example.
In Spain, a similar guide has been produced by Dr. Carlos Rodríguez , urologist at the Fundación Jiménez Díaz in Madrid. Dr. Peinado, also a urologist, also agrees with the recommendations coming from the United States and, in addition to masturbation, suggests an intermediate option that would be remote or technological sex, a joint masturbation but physically distant. By contrast, sexologists prefer to qualify the recommendation situation by situation and not in its generality. The questions remain many for everyone.
Here is a series of guidelines for having good, healthy sex during the coronavirus pandemic, prepared in collaboration with the indicated urologists and sexologists Martina González Veiga, Iván Rotella and Diana Fernández Saro ..
Do I have to wear a mask? Can I kiss with my partner?
If you live with your partner and she is ill or you suspect that she has the virus, the best option is to have sex with precautions or directly not to have it. Then opting for joint masturbation is a possibility. But, in the end, and as the sexologist and Iván Rotlla point out, for example , if you live with that person, sex is not the only possibility of contagion. Better not to kiss, in principle, but better still to scrupulously keep all the preventive hygienic measures. If you can't take it anymore, wear a mask, although it can be strange or suggestive, according to each one, as always.
"Sex implies closeness and intimacy and, through breathing or kissing,
They can transmit respiratory drops with viruses. For this reason, sex is not recommended in
couples who are not sure that they are not infected, "says Dr. Peinado." In the event that they do have sexual relations, it is advisable to adopt postures that avoid face-to-face and the use of masks when faced with the slightest doubt, thus like hand washing before and after. "
Dr. Carlos Rodríguez points out that "the use of masks and postures that do not face the mouth (from behind) are not going to prevent airborne contagion in a safe way." So if you choose to have sex you have to take a small risk because the masks are not designed for intense physical activity. For them to work well they require to completely seal the nose and mouth, and be separated at least two meters apart.
If you want to have a closer contact in a safe way, you must use professional personal protective equipment with waterproof gowns, waterproof glasses, FFP2 or FFP3 masks, hat, gloves ... "But it is better to reserve these equipments to the toilets so that they can treating the sick, "says this professional.
If my partner is a person at risk, can I have sex with her?
Doctors recommend not to do it, not to have sex with our partner if they have previous pathologies to protect them. Especially if they have cardiovascular disease, diabetes and immune diseases "because if they were infected, their prognosis could be more serious".
If I am infected, can I have sex?
Experts recommend not to do it. This is indicated by the New York guide and various professionals consulted by this newspaper. If you suspect that you are infected or have it confirmed, refrain from having sex and opt for masturbation if you need sexual intercourse during confinement, or try remote technological sex, an option in which the latter's sex toys can help. period, some made to enjoy as a couple.
Is it recommended to have sex with someone new during the pandemic?
Absolutely not. There are still many asymptomatic and infected people without detecting, so the most advisable thing is to have relations with whom we already know and if we know that they do not have the virus. Otherwise, the golden recommendations at the moment are masturbation and abstention.
If I am locked up with my partner and none of us have symptoms, can we have normal sex?
Yes. But taking into account that the incubation period for the virus is about 14 days.
Is anal and oral sex recommended?
There is no evidence of the virus in vaginal fluids or in semen although, in these sexual practices, keeping social distance is very complicated. The virus can be transmitted through the feces of infected people, so oral-anal sexual practice should be avoided.
In most infected patients, the virus is present in the faeces. It is less frequent in urine, where it is present in approximately 7% of infected patients. In semen and vaginal secretions, so far no data has been published on its presence.
Can it be used to improve sexual relations if we are confined and healthy?
Sexologists recommend it. Says Diana Fernandez Saro , member of the Spanish Association of Sexology (AEPS) and the front of the cabinet of sexology Aphrodisia, in this situation two things can happen which unite us with our partners or to the thread of times, we end up distancing ourselves, even if we are locked in the same walls.
In order to take advantage of the time in a healthy way, this sexologist proposes "generating appointments in her own home, getting handsome, cooking something special, staying at a specific time to care for herself" and living sex in the most playful way possible: "sharing photos, videos, readings ... ". A recommendation that Iván Rotella also makes.
Besides abstention and masturbation, what else can help?
Self-care. Taking care of yourself would be the great option at this time. This is highlighted by the psychologist and sexologist Martina González Veiga, who urges as follows: "Connect with you, sit down, come along. If you have a partner or partners, have face-to-face or virtual encounters but take care of yourself emotionally and take care of the other as well. It is normal that it costs us more now connect with pleasure, but we are still sexed beings, so we have to talk about this. "
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