>> Confinement against the coronavirus complicates our daily lives and prevents us from doing a multitude of things. He has a mechanically constraining, even frustrating side, and this can be even more difficult to live when he intervenes in the delicate period of first love. Sandrine has a teenager in this situation and is worried about the consequences that it could have on her emotional development. In "Sans Rendez vous" this Monday on Europe 1, the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc wishes to reassure her: "Once the confinement is over, the stream will inevitably go towards the ocean."
Sandrine's question
My 15 year old son is very shy and he never went out with someone until he met a girl in late February. This story just started when containment was put in place. I am worried about him and his emotional development, what to do?
Catherine Blanc's response
"Sandrine is certainly afraid that this young man, who was struggling to come out of his shell, will find a good excuse to return there. Obviously, this is a question that arises and which can often cause mothers to worry, because let them fear that suddenly the child will lack confidence to approach the world, harbor fears, and become depressed. When he is practicing an attempt to meet, he is brought home by society. The risk is indeed that he thinks that this impulse was guilty and that he is punished for it.
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Sandrine can therefore worry about her son's interpretation of this ban, but not of her shyness. It concerns us all: either we defy it, or we listen to it too much. Whatever happens, once containment is complete, like the stream, it will inevitably go to the ocean, like all of us.
But this teenager remains connected to the world through social networks, in our time it was not the case
Yes, before you had to dare to go on an adventure, it was difficult. But it remains the case today, even if social networks allow to hide. The risk is that this confinement will put him back in his comfort zone. From what I understand, Sandrine noticed that her son dared to meet him, and he will be able to maintain the link with this young girl. It will give him space to move forward little by little, to exchange ideas so that there is more confidence in his relationship, and to move forward without a mask.
Sandrine specifies that he is only 15 years old, he still has time ...
Of course. But I think that if she says that, unless she is too mother hen, it is perhaps because she fears a propensity for a somewhat depressed state. Containment, and this concerns all adolescents, is a time when we risk being in an anxiety-provoking proximity to parents. So let's be vigilant, but there is nothing to worry about.