In the show Without appointment on Europe 1, the sexologist Catherine Blanc responds to an listener who confesses to have bought naughty objects to spice up her couple, but who found herself uncomfortable with her partner when they were use.

Couples are often on the lookout for new ideas in bed to try to get out of daily routine, such as using naughty items. This is the case of one of the listeners of the program Sans rendez-vous on Europe 1 who confides in the sexologist Catherine Blanc about the discomfort felt after trying this experience with her companion.

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Florence's question

"A friend had advised me of naughty objects to spice up the sexuality in my couple. I dared to take the plunge and offered some to my companion that that amused. However, in front of the box we found ourselves very embarrassed. we too stuck? "

Catherine Blanc's response

"First of all, sexuality is for fun so we can have fun with anything we want. We can acquire it as we can make it as we can have fun in all scenarios Freedom, darling freedom ... There, there is no subject. When we were small, we played doctor. That was to discover our bodies, to discover our specificities, our excitations, but we can playing a much improved doctor once you're an adult.

Is this a solution to spice up your couple?

It is not that it is a solution. From the moment we say to ourselves, "it's routine so let's go and look for objects to repiment, revive the mechanics of our relationship", that means that we have lost a little creativity. So, we are going to look outside for something to be confronted with this novelty which will call upon our creativity or justify a creativity, because it is not easy to say to the other: "Would like if we played that or hold on if we did that. " Whereas if this is the game that we introduced into the relationship, well, in fact, it will force a different positioning. "

Is it the object that can make you feel uncomfortable or using it with your partner, especially the first time?

That is what is interesting. Often, I was told about it, I was asked: "Is this interesting?" "Isn't that right?" And besides, I don't really like to advertise, but there is a company called lesjeuxpolissons.com, which are pretty cool games with short routes around a subject of sexuality and which are pretty well done with a lot of psychology. But the question is always: once you have the objects, once you have something like a Cluedo box, how do you play with it? But in fact, you cannot give the complete manual. You will have to develop your own manual and reveal yourself. We will have to play with the feather, the wolf and it is not simply to put it or to make a small caress which makes the eroticization if we do not tell a story.

With age, don't we lose this ability to play a little bit?

That's it. When you were a child, you could, with three sticks, say that they were little characters. We made them talk to each other kiss and that meant things. When you are older, you have the feeling that playing is stupid and particularly in our French culture: we must be intelligent, we must think, we must develop, but playing is stupid. Whereas in certain countries, for example the United States, if you take an American to Disney, he plays like a 14 year old kid whereas we, we have our posture of adult and it sometimes serves us because it does not not allow us to go into the field of play.

Maybe we should go step by step?

Exactly. But even a feather, I challenge you to find a way to do something with it. If you are going to have a picnic, you catch a small grass and you cuddle your little ones discreetly to your wife while your children are playing ball, she will give you a wink and this is what will lead to evening eroticism. It's a thing. But when you're there, in a bed, and suddenly you take out the pen, it's complicated. So, if it's already complicated with a feather, as soon as it looks like a penis or nothing and we wonder what it's for, actually, it gives us the impression of being quite awkward and apart a good laugh, which is already the beginning of the orgasm, it is not always very easy. "