“I do n’t want to win” for my wife? Nov 22 20:11
One day.
A husband who comes home after work and drinks a can of beer while watching TV. A word from my wife who was next door.
"Are you listening to me?"
"Now, please tell me what you said" "..."
Some people have this kind of scene.
November 22 is a good couple's day. Is it near and far? Do n’t you understand? Well then, why don't you cover the theme of a couple?
(Network reporter reporter Yoshiyuki Gun, Aya Noda, Naoya Saito / Tokyo Metropolitan Broadcasting Center reporter Mayu Ogura)
What is "good couple's day"?
In the first place, “Nice couple's day” on November 22 was advocated at the leisure development center of the foundation, the current Japan Productivity Center, which was in 1988.
Long working hours have become a social issue, and the government has suggested taking vacations and a comfortable lifestyle, but now it is time to send marriage registrations and enjoy leisure time for couples. There is a feeling that is completely familiar when the is done.
50% husband and 50% wife?
That said, a good couple is not easy.
There are various types of fires between couples, but one of the daily problems is the division of housework.
People often ask me, “I am working part-time, but my wife is doing it.” How do married people actually feel?
Click here for the latest survey conducted in October by Macromill, a marketing research company that investigates the sharing of housework between two working couples every year.
* Answer: 1000 married men and women aged 20-49 nationwide (547 men, 453 women)
About the ratio of housework sharing for couples working together,
“Ideal” was “Husband 50% / Wife 50%” (43.3%).
In contrast,
Only 13% of respondents answered that “Reality” was “50% husband and 50% wife”.
The most common answer is “husband 10% / wife 90%”, and the wife's burden of housework seems to be shared by both couples.
“Nameless Housework”
It seems that you can hear a voice saying “My husband is doing housework”, but it is said that there is a gap in recognition between couples about “housework” in the first place.
The image of general housework is “cleaning”, “laundry”, “cooking” and so on.
But that's not all.
There are countless “unnamed housework”.
For example,
"Go to buy when toilet paper runs out"
"Shoe polish"
“Attend meetings in towns and apartments”
"I'll put away the glass that I'm drinking"
"Replenish and exchange seasonings" etc.
To be sure, there are many men who are stuck in words when asked who is doing these small details that are indispensable every day.
What is the “non-winning three principles”?
So, for a “good couple”, is my husband just doing housework? Things like a more fundamental “posture” or “extreme”…
As I was thinking and continuing the interview, I found something unfamiliar to my eyes.
"Three principles of non-winning"? ?
When I looked into it, an organization called the “National Teikan Sekipaku Association” advocated. Speaking of the owner, Sekipaku is a composition that my wife follows her husband.
When I applied for the interview while thinking, "This is a group of old days," Sekihaku was originally the role of assisting the Emperor. The correct interpretation is that her husband is Sekihaku and always supports it. Chairman Shuichi Amano explained.
According to Amano, what are the three non-winning principles?
“I ca n’t win, I ca n’t win, I do n’t want to win”.
When listening to the real intention, there is an unexpected word that "Dan-san must win the couple!"
Amano originally lived with his wife in the way of “rice, bath, and sleep”, but one day he changed his mind after being divorced, and about 20 years ago, he joined his association with friends. It is said that it was launched.
Mr. Amano “I want my wife to have a pleasant day by day, so I thought it would be a good idea to be laid on my hips well.”
“Even if you win the chance, your wife will get you back 5 or 10 times on the next occasion. For the husband,“ withdrawal of honor ”is important.”
Resonating with Mr. Amano's idea, the number of members of the association, which was about 10 at first, has now increased to 25,000.
Temil principle of love
I also found these words.
1. Try doing one of the chores that my wife is pleased with. Try to put out words of thanks when you notice 3. Listening to the world and today's events 4. Throw it away Mie, Tele, Tatemae, Sekentae 5. I feel like I ’m in love
The “Japan Wife House Association” is advocating.
It seems that they are working to spread the culture of taking care of their wives to the men of the world, saying that “sustainable marital relationships seem to lead to world peace and conservation of the global environment”.
We spoke with Mr. Muneyuki Kubo, a member of the secretariat and a staff member of Tsumagoi Village, Gunma Prefecture.
Mr. Kubo: “In principle, it may be normal for recent young people. However, there was a time when it was normal for Japanese men to“ work outside and earn money ”. It is certain that something should start by raising it as a rule again. ''
The Japan Aisuma Family Association has designated January 31 as “Love Wife's Day”.
Every year on this day, I got up early and returned home, and called for a campaign to thank my wife, titled “Man's Returning Home”, and the number of participants increased every year.
Mr. Kubo “I think that if we close too close with our husbands and wives who are closest to us, we will not be in a bright world. I will continue my activities.
My husband is doing my best
Yes, there are people who are trying to do their best even on the husband's side.
In fact, when you look for your husband's voice on the internet about housework ...
"Making garbage out in the morning, cleaning the toilet, cleaning the floor, washing, and laundry"
“Part-time work and half-day pick-up at nursery school. Cooking and laundry are also shared.”
“It is most efficient to share housework in the field of specialization. My wife is good at cooking, I am good at cleaning and household management. It is better to leave it to work than to help.”
The couple is "One Team"
"I won't win"
"Thank my wife"
"Do your housework"
In this way, even if there are many good couples “compared to the past”, it looks good. However, why is my wife complaining that my husband won't help me at all?
We spoke with the president of Kuniko Otsuka of the NPO “Marriage Life Counseling Association” that has dealt with various consultations between couples for over 30 years.
Mr. Otsuka, who has spoken with many husbands and wives in counseling, feels that “While working together, gender equality, and childcare participation are becoming commonplace, the demands of wives for husbands are increasing” The
Otsuka's woman complains that her husband doesn't help enough.
On the other hand, her husband complains that “I was tired because I was asked to cooperate more than necessary for housework and childcare”.
I feel that it is easier to ask my husband to share roles at home than in the past.
The reason why you feel you are not satisfied even if you get some cooperation, or that you are not satisfied even if you intend to share a certain percentage.
Otsuka-san believes that the cause is that each couple imposes “individual values” between the couple.
Otsuka-san: “I am this, I am this, I ca n’t play as a couple as I ’m pushing my personal values against my partner. The important thing is to talk and know how each other feels. Isn't it important to think about how best to live in a shared life with compassion?
I'm wearing ...
Husband who did not hear his wife at the beginning.
Actually, I am one of the interview team.
The words of Shuichi Amano, Chairman of the National Teikan Sekipaku Association, are impressive.
“Do you think your wife belongs to Dansan?”
"Originally, the couple is red and others. I think it's a secret to staying with gratitude."
"Gratitude"
It is important to say “thank you” with a smile, looking at your eyes, without being overwhelmed.
The life now that my wife's existence has become commonplace since I got married.
“Let's take the lead in daily housework. Of course, I wo n’t listen to you on Uwa no Sora.”
November 22nd, the story of seniors heard in the interview.
Once a year, I felt that I needed a day to look back.