“Damage to the molester” told me on November 18 at 16:08
“When I was a high school student, I encountered molesting everyday on a commuter train. I was scared and regrettable.”
This is an email from a molester victim posted on the “Close-up Hyundai +” website. The woman who sent me the e-mail is a mother of three children in their 30s. There was a reason that spelled the painful experience of having a lid in my heart. (Kuro present + director Yoko Tobita)
70% of women experienced damage
Close-up In modern times, there is a site called “Thinking about positive sexual violence together”, and voices from people who have suffered damage are received every day. There is not a lot of damage caused by molesting. Women also wrote their experiences on this site.
There is a result of a survey announced in January by the platform “#WeToo Japan” that acts to create a society that does not allow violence such as sexual harassment and power harassment.
70% of women and 30% of men said that they had suffered damage such as “touching their bodies” and “pressing their bodies” on trains, buses, roads, etc. .
However, according to a 2010 investigation by the National Police Agency, nearly 10% of women who suffered damage were able to consult and report. Most are crying.
Yukino (34 years old, pseudonym) wrote the damage experience on the site. The mother of three children from 1 to 10 years old. When I contacted me, I was trying to raise my child and responded to the interview by saying, “I want to change the situation as a person, a woman, and a parent.”
“Do not speak” is not a positive sign
Yukino often suffered from molesting when she was in high school. It was when I was going to school by train alone.
(Mr. Yukino) “In the morning crowded train, I felt like I was able to touch the area around my hips.”
“The inside of the car is crowded and I can't move, so it may be misunderstood. If you leave it as it is, the handle will be obviously frustrating and it will turn around. Was put into the shorts. ''
Yukino was suddenly stiff and shocked, and couldn't even speak up.
In addition, there were people who talked about the damage of the molester like a joke at that time, so it was embarrassed to say "I was a molester" and I couldn't confess my fear and anxiety to anyone.
While not being able to consult, the pervert damage will continue to escalate. A man who touches Yukino's face while looking into it. It seems that there was a man who kept talking until he changed trains and asked, “Hey, do you have time after this?”
One day, about a year after I started to suffer frequently. Yukino, who was a molester not only in the morning, but also on the return train, felt the limit and finally raised her voice.
"Please stop. Did you touch? I'm not on the train to be touched!"
The man ran away
It was a word that squeezed out all the courage while being terrified of what to do if it was upset by the opponent and violated. However, the opponent is a single point of "I do not touch". As soon as the train arrives at the next station, it seems to have escaped.
Yukino said that she was encouraged a little by listening to the voices of the girls who were watching nearby, saying, “That girl is cool”. However, even though the nerves were worn out and raised, the molester quickly escaped, leaving only regret.
(Mr. Yukino) “What I disliked when I was a molester was that I was treated like an unintentional thing. While I was being touched, Such a heart has nothing to do with molesters. ''
“I was always afraid, frightened, and hard,“ I am a perverted person ”
The last day I encountered a molester
He told me about the last day of the molesting. On that day, Yukino was molested and raised a voice. A nearby man caught a molester trying to escape and allowed him to act on the spot.
However, Yukino said at the police that he was persuaded, “Molesters are difficult to prove, and it ’s not easy to win even after trial.”
(Mr. Yukino) “A third party caught me perverted, and after half a day I was interviewed and admitted that she was a molester. It ’s regrettable and regrettable ... ”
“I went home while crying, but strangely, from that day, I no longer suffered from the pervert. I don't know the causal relationship. But I remember the faces of the perverts. Maybe ... "
“The reason I told you about the damage”
When I asked Yukino about the reason for confessing the damage of molesting, one of them was a hashtag “after the sex victim” made by a woman. With this hashtag, people who have suffered sexual harmony talk without having to say that they didn't have various troubles and worries after the damage.
(Mr. Yukino) “Until I knew the hashtag, I couldn't say that I didn't like it. I also covered the damage of the molester in my heart and covered it.”
“But I was touched by the voices of people who confided various damage experiences, and I felt that what I was feeling at that time was not wrong.
Yukino says that now that she has become a parent with a daughter and son, she also has a strong feeling that “societal consciousness must be changed”.
(Mr. Yukino) “When I gave birth to a girl, I was worried about what to do if I suffered damage like myself. Next time I think my sons were born and I should think about how to raise them so that they would not be perpetrators. became"
“I am also worried from my experience that molestering is treated lightly like entertainment in adult videos. It is a sneaky action that hurts the victim's heart for a long time. I want you to"
I was used to
Until I read Yukino-san's email, I remained in memory of the pervert damage. Through this interview, I became accustomed to “a society where molesters exist” and realized that my senses were paralyzed.
“Frequently” was not “little insignificant”. I have to keep telling how hard it is to have a stranger do something I don't want to do if I don't know it.
I don't just touch my body, but I have to keep telling that the heart of the person in front of me is hurting so that it won't heal over time.
I continue to report on molesters. Please tell us about the damage experience. Also, if you have evidence such as a video that captures the actual situation of the damage, please send us information. We will not disclose your information without your consent.