When friendships face a problem, girls and women often apologize. In general, they do not attach much importance to what happened or the wrong party, since they wish to communicate again with each other.

But this approach does not go well with men in different types of relationships, such as friendship or fellowship, because men do not express their apology.

In a report published in the journal Psychology Today, writer Amanda Rose said that if I hurt my friend's feelings and apologized to her, she would accept my apology and apologize in turn, and we will go ahead and forget what happened.

These apologies are not confessions of guilt or error. In most cases, they are offered to repair the feelings of misunderstanding left by the other side.

Women grow up in a context where asking for an apology is not expensive, whether they make a mistake, her friend, or both.

As female or male
Girls and boys do not play much together in elementary school, often forming groups for girls and boys. There are also differences in the nature of the activities of both girls and boys.

In fact, girls interact more than boys in small groups and spend time in social conversation and collaborative activities. Boys interact more with larger groups and activities such as sports and competitive games. These gender differences are reflected through conversation styles. Children tend to develop an interactive approach to protect themselves and avoid showing or recognizing their weaknesses.

Risks and benefits
Women arise in a context in which an apology is not expensive. Whether it is her fault, her friend's fault, or both, they often apologize and have a good relationship again.

In return, men arise in a context where apology is risky. This is evidence of recognition of error or weakness.

Since apology is not a very common issue among boys, a person who says "sorry" can be likened to the girls' approach. So for boys, an apology is risky because their friends don't expect them to.

This does not mean that children never apologize. Apologies for them may have a different meaning. They usually keep their apologies when they make serious mistakes.

Gender styles in dealing with different apologies (Deutsche)

Meaning of apology
Eleanor Makobi, a gender and relations specialist, suggested that girls and boys learn and practice methods of interacting with their peers as children, and these methods continue with them to adulthood. This can generate challenges and conflicts when men and women communicate with each other.

A number of researches have supported her proposals, with a recent study finding that young people expect their peers of the same sex to be more responsive to their communication patterns than their counterparts.

She added that the apology is a good example of Makobi's proposal. When a woman apologizes, she often means "I don't accept the idea that we are adversaries and I want things to be fine between us."

When a man apologizes, he often means, "I made a serious mistake and I take responsibility for it." Therefore, when a relationship is interrupted by some bumps, the partner may not even think of apologizing, even if his partner apologizes. How should women and men deal with these attitudes?

Men who want a smoother relationship should know what women mean when they apologize (Getty Images)

For women .. Do not apologize as a reaction
Women need to learn to stop apologizing just for being a reaction. While doing so seems normal to others, in other contexts they are seen to be responsible for the problems they have not caused.

Apologizing for work may result in women being considered less competent. It is essential that women avoid apologies in order to receive a corresponding apology. If she really meant to apologize, the apology would be considered appropriate. If what you really mean is "Are we okay?" Or "Can we get past this?" That's what you should say instead of apologizing.

For the man .. just apologize
Men who want to make their relationships smoother should know what women mean when they apologize, and when to expect an apology in return. In good relationships, women are unlikely to use this apology against men. Instead, they will probably be grateful for it. However, men may choose not to apologize and say something different reassuring instead.

Men may choose not to apologize and say something different.

Do they always speak different languages?
Although men and women belong to the same planet, it sometimes appears that one gender belongs to the east coast while the other to the Midwest.

In fact, men and women speak the same language, but their different dialects and expressions can sometimes lead to misunderstandings.

In today's society, we are witnessing significant change in terms of gender and sex, and there is more attention than ever to raising children in a gender-neutral manner. The challenges of gender communication will probably be reduced within a generation or two. For now, addressing each other's views will certainly help us reach a compromise.