Safe rebellion .. How to raise a strong girl without imitating males?

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Parents usually encourage their male children to venture, while warning young girls about the potential dangers. Despite the instinctive fear in the parents' heart, you often find them giving instructions to males to play longer.

So what is the indirect message for girls and boys? Well, girls are more fragile, more in need of help; boys can do the tough things themselves.

The irony is that at this early age, girls and boys are physically similar, and often girls are more mature;

This is the message that children understand, and this is the message that permeates the inside of the girls.

1. Cultivate courage
Fear is an important feeling, which is why we remain safe, but the problem is when fear becomes our primary reaction that we develop and encourage in girls when they encounter something outside the usual and logical safety range.

Girls should be educated not to be shy, which happens unconsciously when we warn them of physical dangers, and convey feelings of fear to them from experiences we have never had before, such as balloon rides, helicopters, climbing mountains, and water games, so that the girl gradually abstains from adventure.

The alternative in these cases is called risky play, which is important for children because it teaches them to assess risk, resilience, self-confidence, and reward for effort; know that the next time you say to your girl: "Watch out," "You hurt yourself," and " Don't do it "and" this game is dangerous ", you push it to feel that it is not good enough, and you should be afraid.

2- Your child is not perfect
We seek to raise our girls to be perfect, and take what they want effortlessly. The boys play rough games, climb the hills, fall from their peaks, run and crawl on their faces. By the time they reach the young age, the boy becomes accustomed to exerting effort and risk for reward, while the girl grows up and feels that others should reward her effortlessly.

In a study by psychologist Carol Duck in the 1980s, about how smart fifth-graders cope with very difficult calculations, I found that girls quickly succumbed to the crisis as their IQ increased; on the other hand, difficult calculations posed a challenge to boys, and they were more Multiply for their efforts.

This loss of self-confidence does not end with adolescence.

Such data is often used to indicate that women lack self-confidence, but this is in fact evidence that women are raised to look for perfection and caution too much, and this education makes them vulnerable to risks at work no matter how ambitious, because they did not learn Risk and failure are integral to any major achievement.

3 - Scientific your daughter refused to oppression
Parents may put too much pressure on girls to do many things that we see as good and will teach them a lot, such as visiting a patient and helping a needy person.But be careful about how often you have pressured your daughter to do things you don't want to do, because you risk understanding her right to say 'no' to others' requests.

Our girls should not agree to do whatever we ask them if they are not happy to do it;

The girl's rejection of parents' orders here should not be dealt with sharply, or judged harshly because she is a girl and she has to be gentle.

According to a report by Parents, this worries her and the need to suppress her feeling of rejection or anger, so accept your girl and know that she does not need to be perfect to accept, so as not to ask herself after every situation: "Am I able to do the right behavior? Am I able to please my parents and friends at the same time? ".

To avoid repressing your girl, learn not to suppress your feelings first, and empathize with yourself, including your anger and revolution.

4. Don't say "behave like a boy"
A girl does not have to behave within a certain framework to protect herself, such as talking like boys, dressing like them, or acting like a boy.

On the other hand, the girl should know that her role in life is not to look beautiful all the time to be a "girl", she does not have to be beautiful to satisfy you and others, so as not to think that her value as a person is determined by her form, especially that preoccupation can reduce The girl's self-confidence, and harms her creativity, problem-solving and using her mental skills to advance in life.

5. A brave mother
The mother must also have the courage to raise the girls, so the girl must be taught that feelings of fear and happiness go hand in hand.