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"I am very happy for you." "I hope you forgive me all the abuse." "I don't think tomorrow I'll be able to look you in the face." "You'll want to punch me for the bastard I've been with you." "If you want to forgive me or punch me in the face, anything will seem fine to me." «If I see you suffer I die». "I give you my house keys." "Something is going to happen to you that will twist you in pain." «I've been waiting for the woman of my life for 23 years». «I am in front of your portal, I only ask for 5 minutes».
The last day that A. was under the authority of his boss at the Complutense University (Madrid), on March 29 of this year, the woman, already medicated daily, terrified only with the prospect of leaving home, psychologically annulled and recently separated from her partner - as is often the case with victims of these situations-, she wrote the following for herself.
«That day, although I try to escape, he is very interested in us talking because he says that in 10 minutes my depressive state will take me away. He tells me that the day he brought me the glove box and I thanked him, he really liked how I gave it to him . That when he went home, in bed, he realized that he was very happy for me. I drool down the corner of my lips, I was terribly disgusted. When I got home I didn't know how to react, I was mute, dying of fear, helplessness, trembling to know that I had to see him on Monday. I have not returned ».
The two-year "torment" suffered by A., a worker at the Complutense Medical School and victim of harassment, ended there, according to the meticulous 67-page report and a dozen interviews issued on July 29 by the Equality Unit from the center, to whose content Paper has had access.
He is obsessed with her because she is a very cute girl
An ordinance to the Equality UnitThe body recommended sanctioning the teacher, Laureano Lorente, Professor of Surgery, but the Complutense has limited himself to transferring the facts to the Madrid Public Prosecutor's Office and removing the worker from another place, despite the alleged harassment admitted the mistreatment in the messages between them and that in their maneuvers around her, apparently tormented by harassing her - in the classic stick and carrot strategy -, she sent him a Guide on harassment at work so she could defend herself against him. Lorente is still in his job and denies the major: he argues that he is simply very demanding with his way of working, which was really trying to motivate his subordinate.
"He is obsessed with her because she is a very cute, very colorful girl," an ordinance told the Equality Unit. "He is a wolf in sheep's clothing," said a former worker. "It has given me a hand with the students, it is with the girls who drool, the disgusting uncle," said a cleaning woman.
All this appears in the meticulous report, in fact a perfect manual of how to harass in the workplace. What happens inside the mind of a harassed woman? This is the story of A. and Professor Laureano Lorente, as collected by the Complu Equality Unit.
A. joins his new job, as interim, in February 2017. At the outset, Lorente, who takes his "farmhouse" in a totally personal way, tells him not to talk to anyone: «They might think that there is a mess between us » .
A. will be the only teacher's assistant with the classroom materials, and that kind of vassalage, in a very closed environment soon becomes claustrophobic: it is customary to have breakfast in the locker room so as not to discourage the teacher.
First warning: coincides just a few weeks with another worker who has been doing the same job for years and observes how the professor does not even address her.
The woman, who returns from a casualty due to depression and takes "one pill" every day before working, does not support a new quarrel of Lorente: another casualty is taken from the Complutense will admit later that several previous workers have requested transfers for «Feeling uncomfortable with him» - and ends up declaring the Equality Unit later, regarding A .: «It made my life impossible because I wanted to be alone with her» .
A month later, A. is already in the exact mold of her former partner: it is she who Lorente does not speak to, who inflicts the so-called ice abuse , which consists of bathing her in silence. It is she who takes "a lorazepam" before signing. The journey towards cancellation has begun.
The forensic psychologist Ana Gutiérrez Salegui puts the context, for which the case of the Complutense is "book, manual" : "The first reaction is always disorientation , the victim does not know what happens. Then comes disbelief , refuses to believe it. After this comes the avoidance , try to avoid contact, and also the change of image: the woman tries to get rid of what she thinks is causing the problem: her physical attractiveness. In this phase, too, the helplessness of the victim is learned: he knows there is no solution . The stalker is regretful, makes him see that it was his fault, that he has done things wrong, or simply victimizes himself ... But it is only a strategy to get back on the charge.
In December, months later, through a whatsapp , the teacher asks A. sorry for his "bad faces", which he attributes to "the tension", he loaned him with a "no worker who has worked more in the classroom", and he concludes: "When you think I don't behave correctly, tell me or ignore me."
Those same days he returns to the streets and she, fulfilling what Lorente has asked him, throws that bipolarity on his face. «The truth is that I don't think I'm able to look her in the face tomorrow. I hope he will ever forgive me all the abuse, ”Lorente writes again, supposedly regretful.
"Weird messages are starting here," A. tells the Equality expert. Start the cascade of your boss's post office, in full vacation , because "I recommend waiting for January to tell you," he writes. In one of them, Lorente "refers again the shame for the mistreatment", he attached a Guide of harassment at work , "if you want to report him", and tells you that, "otherwise, in January we start from scratch ». A. begins to "worry about the intimate tone , with family references, to alleged institutional persecutions or intimate issues of third parties."
Lorente, in short, begins to cross red lines towards the person, not the worker. The sexual innuendo is also drawn. The professor, allegedly tormented, tells him in a confused way that in the past he helped "a friend" who "suffered ill treatment" and that she "began to take off her swimsuit" and that he saw that "he had bruises on his chest and the hips ». He writes to A .: «Twelve years later, I have become that person that I hated so much, who physically mistreated my friend. And although I have not hit you physically, many times psychological abuse is a thousand times worse. Again, victimization : “Now that you know better what has really happened, if you want to forgive me, ignore me or just punch me in the face , whatever you do will seem fine to me, if only for what I have offended you during these months ».
On the day back from vacation, he does not appear. He says that "he will try to recover, and if he does not unsubscribe and seeks treatment." She replies that she doesn't want trouble, just "work seven hours and go home." He, who suddenly insists that he treats you and not you, forces her to do some talks with him every morning, tête à tête , which he calls "communication sessions between the two . " "My hair was getting scarp," says A. the expert. «The tension of the jaw, I no longer knew how to clench my teeth, but I was forced to do so. I felt great authority over me. Every day, at 7, when I arrived, I was waiting for the communication session ».
«He closed the classroom door and I was sweating my hands, my armpits and everything » in sessions that «sometimes lengthened more than an hour», and in which in the end «who spoke that day asked the other one a question to see if I had heard him. In the first session he tells her about "a nightclub that young boys go to."
I know you are suffering, and if I see you suffer, I die!
Laureano Lorente, professor of the ComplutenseHe suddenly hangs in her closet, for her to see, a plasticized photo of an image that she had previously uploaded to Laura Luelmo's social networks (the young woman raped and murdered in Huelva last December), replacing the No es no for the phrase If you love me, why do you mistreat me . A. writes then: «I've been getting ready for a few days, the simple fact that he can see me attractive makes me sick. As soon as I arrive in the morning at the locker room I take off my lipstick ». She just wants to disappear. Then he says: "Although I worked with my back to him, I felt his eyes fixed on me."
She talks to him all the time about "my partner, my partner" as "avoidance strategy," says the expert. On January 24, he tells her, as she reflects in her diary: «I know you are suffering, and if I see you suffer, I die! I have thought of a family doctor, in case you want to take three months off. I give you money if you need it, ask me anything: 300, 500, 1,200 euros ... I will never ask you to give it back to me. If you need to talk to someone you can call me at any time of the night, if it is two as if it is three o'clock, as if you ask me to go for a candy to Cuenca . I would die if I see you suffer. I'm going to give you the keys to my house, you go there, you listen to music and you relax ... ».
"It was as if he was in my life and driving it," she says later. At the end of February she takes a day off; he writes 10 whatsapps at 5.30 in the morning telling him that he does not have to return the next day, that he will already find someone who signs for her. She uninstalls Whatsapp.
On March 21, as she writes in her diary, he tells her that “something is going to happen to me that will twist me in pain . Then I see that on the computer he puts Genesis 22 and talks about God ordering to kill Abraham's son, that he himself kills him because he loves him so much. I shit and say: but what is this man about?
A few days later, on an unusual climb, Lorente tells A., "in tears," that "he has been waiting for the woman of his life for 23 years." On March 29 " he told me that the day I put a picture on my profile kissing with my partner, his guts turned over ."
It is A.'s last day at work. He takes a low and does not return. Two and a half months later, he writes again: «You can't get an idea to what extent I am worried about you. Please, tell me something". Before her silence, a few days later, on a Saturday, she stands at her house . He writes: «I am in front of your home portal. I just want to talk to you for five minutes. You're not going to be worse for wasting that time with me, but maybe they'll help you for something. I only ask you for 5 minutes, you don't have to say anything, nor do you need to change ». Lower the son of A., who asks Lorente, to whom the woman never communicated where she lives, what the hell is she doing there: «Your mother can lose her job, I don't have much life left» , the teacher gets out the tangent
The kid goes up and the teacher is still hanging around the portal «at least one hour». A. denounces a few days later before Equality. It provides a medical opinion that accredits your psychic conditions. He wants to cry "all the time." His emotional and personal life has been devastated, with data that this newspaper cannot reveal to preserve his privacy . On Saturday night when he went to her house, she, medicated and "horrified," is tempted to "get out of the way."
The Equality Unit interrogates the teacher. Lorente alleges that he only wanted to help her because "she is very depressed." That he went to his house because "he was close" and "my cables crossed". He admits that he said he thought she was pretty: "I think she's a pretty girl and I told her . " Did he give you the keys to your house? "Yes, to help her."
The psychologist describes how Lorente refuses to admit that the worker does not want more contact with him than the strictly labor . It even tells how the teacher tries to act with her as with A. "At one point, he gets up and says: 'I am going to do something that is going to seem a little obscene but it is not going to be.' He stands up and begins to unbuckle his belt a few centimeters from the face of this expert, while I say 'no, no, no'. He repeats: 'I just want you to look at this, look at this' He puts his hand in his waistband and asks me to look inside.'
He wants to show him that he has lost weight due to the tension of his work, but the psychologist illustrates how Lorente invades his personal sphere as, he maintains, did with A. Lorente also admits that he had a previous lawsuit for a similar situation , “that he did not reach any". This newspaper has tried unsuccessfully to contact the teacher.
We return to the psychologist Gutiérrez Salegui: «It is a clear case of vertical harassment, from chief to subaltern. I approach, you reject me, I destroy you, I save you: you belong to me . Punitive behaviors are interspersed with supposed affections, all unwanted by the victim. The message is: 'You depend on me.' That first generates anxiety, then sleep and eating disorders. Then depression.
The Madrid Public Prosecutor's Office is currently studying the cause.
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