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The psychoanalyst and sexologist Catherine White discusses Monday the desire for men in No appointment , the show Health Europe 1. She discusses the misconceptions about male sexuality and distills some tips to better understand his partner.
Sophie's question, 24 years old
"I have never read anything about male sexuality, so I do not know what a man may want, this ignorance inhibits me, what can I do?"
Catherine Blanc's answer
"It is not necessary to read because any reading reflects the sexuality of the author.But all men are different: they have different emotions, fads or fantasies.What I find interesting in this question is the idea that we should absolutely know how to do what pleases the other.First, sexuality is not pleasing to the other.This female concern is deeply rooted and can, in addition, I feel that we enter into sexuality driven by our own desire, the curiosity of ourselves and the body of the other.
Sexuality is learned outside of sexuality. It is discovered in our connection to the pleasure of food, in our way of moving, in the sport too.
Do not men just want to have sex?
It's pretty reductive and it's a shame to limit yourself to that. Often, it is a way of escaping sexuality. Most of the time, men do pretty basic things. Which can be a good thing! However, they deprive themselves of strong emotions to protect themselves because, according to them, to feel too many emotions is to be feminine. But when a partner touches us, we kiss, caress, he shows us what his wishes are. We must be attentive to the gestures of the other to understand his expectations.
Why can we feel inhibited by the ignorance of the desire of the other?
To too much want to be loved rather than to love, we become too attentive to the desire of the other, to a silent desire that remains to be discovered. This young woman believes that she is built in the love of the other, a love that is subject to the satisfaction of a desire that does not account for his own.