Considered a disorderly pleasure by many religions, oral sex has long been banned. But in the twentieth century, the advent of pornography gave the impression of systematizing the practice for each sexual intercourse. Often appreciated by men because it directly stimulates the penis, it can however be little raging for the one who executes it. On Wednesday, in Sans rendez-vous , the program Santé d'Europe 1, the psychoanalyst and sexologist Catherine Blanc explains why this sexual practice is not so innocuous as it looks.
The question of Lucas, 26
"My girlfriend is disgusted by the blowjob, how do you make her understand that it's not unhealthy, as she seems to believe?"
Catherine Blanc's answer
"This is a problem that affects women as well as men, since it is a practice that also concerns homosexuals.It can be understood - the penis being the organ of sexuality but also of urination - that It's not necessarily easy to get close to your nose, your mouth, or even your eyes, that the other is not in tranquility with the body of his partner is quite normal.
The idea of what the other contains is not always comfortable. In the 17th century, with the theory of moods, leeches were brought to 'take away evil', as if we had black and dirty things in themselves, which we confused with the disease. We can still keep this kind of relationship with the body of the other.
Does stressing intimate hygiene, taking a shower right before a report or shaving the pubis, for example, help to end the nausea of his / her partner?
Approaching the body of the other by a fellatio is a process that must be heard by the one who wants to be solicited in this way. All men are not circumcised, the foreskin keeps the smell of secretions, since there are glands at the base of the glans that produce a kind of fragrant and lubricating cream. This is not pleasant for everyone. Washing is the first thing to do, because men can forget that their penis is fragrant. Without falling in fear of body odor, a minimum of hygiene remains the best invitations.
But that can be useless. If pornography suggests that oral sex is obvious, and that all women must like it, it is the desire for an erotic game that makes oral sex or cunnilingus exists. This genito-oral report is a psychic construct.
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Can I help my partner to cross this course by guiding them?
When it comes to showing the way ... men are pretty talented! This hand on the head, many women have suffered, or felt arrived before intervening. It did not come very well. When a woman is disgusted, she is disgusted. It is in the registration of the relationship and the quality of the relationship that things are done. It is also, perhaps, daring to do a cunnilingus she will see that, if his partner is not afraid - the female body also has its secretions - it can also dare. But this must not become a compulsory counterpart.
Fellatio is not a preliminary, it's already sexuality. However, she is by no means required to have a fulfilling sexuality. "