On Wednesday, in Sans rendez-vous, the program Santé d'Europe 1, the psychoanalyst and sexologist Catherine Blanc talks about foreplay, and especially about cunnilingus.
The question of Anna, 37
"I'm not very comfortable with cunnilingus, yet my friend seems to love it, I do not know, I'm embarrassed, I find it long, what do you think?"
The advice of Catherine Blanc
"There are those who do not like and those who, like Anna, say 'I do not know too much.' There is the notion of being alone to have to live something and to do something about it. perhaps, with gluttony, while the woman is going to be forced to ask herself: 'Do I feel things?' 'It's nice, but do I have to make noise? partner what is he seeing is okay, what is he seeing, what does he understand about me?
It is often this worry that makes women feel uncomfortable instead of being in themselves. Women are often thinking about the place of the man instead of being in the situation that concerns them ".
Is there a "good" way to do cunnilingus?
"There are as many techniques as there are women, some will like it to be done in a very delicate way, other very penetrating, with plenty of saliva or the opposite, others helped with fingers .. It's unique to every woman and every relationship, and women will enjoy the pleasures of cunnilingus with different men, who are totally different.
Often, when a woman finds it long, nothing happens to her. So she worries and would like to move on. And the partner, all excited, will end up not looking too much at home.
Should we force ourselves when we do not like it? Will the pleasure come eventually?
"As far as I'm concerned, I consider that the appetite does not come with eating.It is not by forcing that we end up taking pleasure, we can shake his modesty, but not force. to trigger a defensive psychic process that will on the contrary aggravate the side of inhibition.
A man who loves blowjobs but refuses cunnilingus, is it weird?
"It's not weird, it's difficult to get into each other's body, a woman's sex is secretions, lubrication, sometimes it's a question of the smell of the body of the other ... Similarly, there are women who do blowjobs and can not imagine one second having to do with the sperm of the other.Even in kisses, there are people who do not want to have anything to do with saliva ".