Every Sunday this summer, starting at 10 am, find on Europe 1 your health magazine presented by Mélanie Gomez. Sexuality, feelings, personal fulfillment ... Catherine Blanc, sexologist and psychoanalyst in Paris, responds without taboo to the more or less intimate question of a listener (ice). Find his sexo advice of the day:
The question of Sandra, 44
"My husband and I have been together for 19 years, and he has been making foot calls for me to go to swingers clubs for a while, and he says we need to put a little bit of spice in our relationship. What should I do? "
The advice of Catherine Blanc
"The accepted idea is to think that sexual freedom amounts to doing everything ... [...] Sexual freedom is conquered day by day in the most intimate of oneself.It must first be rid of the ideas inherited from our education, it is that is to say the relational relationship that we could have imagined between our parents, the ideas of the micro-society in which we have evolved and the macro-society with all the images and the sexual propositions that we send back , cinema, pornography ... [...]
We are organized to be faithful, to sustain a relationship and the security of a family unit. For all that, we are in the curiosity of feeling at the edge of each other, which are different, revealing and awakening things different from ourselves. In each of us, he has the sexual idea of going to taste other beings than the one for whom we have the deepest love.
When one is in a relationship with one's partner, one is also confronted with the construction of the other. [...] But the freedom of one stops where the one of the other begins. This is the difficulty of the sexual relationship and the relationship. There is always one that sets a limit, which is what he is able to do or not. How to shake the inhibition of the other without rushing it?
In some cases, there is one who claims it and the other who adheres to it with the idea that it will make him discover things, but that breaks his teeth. Suddenly, he blames his partner for taking him to places that did not correspond to his psychic construction. There, it starts to slip seriously. Sometimes, there is one who initiated, the other who did not want, sulked the adventure, and then who finally took a liking to it. Whoever initiated it can feel completely dumped in the story.
It must be said that this is not an obligation of experience. Stop thinking that to be fun, modern and say our sexual freedom, it should have tested everything, all sexes, all attitudes, all meetings. Sexual freedom is fundamentally the welcome of our impulses, of our eroticization, and the ability to write the day-to-day relationship, to nurture it. But there's no need for that to necessarily put yourself at the mercy of other people, other looks. "