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Just like love, friendship is made of beautiful stories and ruptures. Delphine, 46, from Lyon, knew both. His relationship with his best friend lasted a decade, before gradually deteriorating. Until it becomes unlivable, as she tells Eve Roger Monday.
"It quickly became my best friend"
"I met this friend because our children were in the same class as soon as they entered kindergarten, I do not know exactly how it was done, but we found each other. We lived within 40 meters of each other, so of course it helps us get closer to each other, and then, by crossing each other and talking, we got better and better very quickly became my best friend.
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Every Monday morning, we had coffee together before starting the week. Very quickly, we saw each other almost every day, our children all the time. During the summer holidays, we spent at least a week together, it was great. "
All this lasted about ten years. Then things gradually degenerated.
"In fact, it's a friend who had some pretty tough couple problems, because she had a husband who turned out to be a narcissistic pervert, I helped her, but very quickly the relationship became It was always in the same direction: I was listening and she was telling, and it was still heavy with what was happening to her, it was not a friendship that was evolving towards a great lightness, but, well, that did not pose a problem.
"Very quickly, the relationship became unilateral"
Except that after a while, she went to the provinces. We did not live next door. It was hard, but we continued to talk to each other, to see each other, to spend holidays together. The problem is that when I did not call him every day or every other day, I began to have blame. It became a stress for me, it was guilt.
Besides, she did not listen to my advice at all. When I advised her to let go, to stop everything with her husband and to leave, she listened to nothing, she replied that it was out of the question.
"I felt a little betrayed"
And I realized that in addition, she had lied to me. For several months she had been doing things she did not tell me. (...) It was something that I could not stand. She denied all but I had proof. There was no confidence in fact, I felt a little betrayed. Above all, I was completely choking.
I put an end to this relationship after the last argument we had: I stopped calling him, I did not answer his calls. And one day on Facebook, by message, I explained to him why. I told him that I was not breathing, that it had become toxic.
Sometimes we are a little mistaken about people, but not so much anyway ... I think it was revealed as and when his suffering. But the more she revealed herself, the farther away she was from me. "