This forty-year-old tells Olivier Delacroix, on Europe 1, how his day-to-day work has turned on the brink since one of his colleagues abused his kindness and his inability to say "stop".

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Solène, 48, lives in Meurthe-et-Moselle. She feels that her natural kindness has become a burden. At work in particular, her benevolence turned against her when she failed to oppose the abusive behavior of one of her colleagues. At the microphone of Olivier Delacroix, on Europe 1, she explains why the kindness is, according to her, a quality which can quickly handicap the one who owns it.

"I think I've always been kind, I've been raised like that, it's in my nature, and today I pay for it because I have worries in my work. , all because I did not know how to rebel, to refuse certain things, to defend myself.

Thanks to this story, I discover myself, and I realize that I am a hyper sensitive person, things touch me a lot. If I was not so sensitive, so nice ... I have empathy for people. I think it's a quality, I really think so, but when I see my current situation [...], I think that finally, being nice is not that easy, there are consequences.

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Solène was manipulated by one of his colleagues, who was eventually fired for harassment.

For talking to the occupational physicians, I think it could be said that my colleague who was fired was a narcissist. She had a bad behavior with me [...]. I have a colleague who left after a year because she could not stand it anymore, and it was thanks to her that I realized that I was also harassed. I was always told: 'You are too sensitive, you are too anxious, you have ideas ...'

This colleague [who has harassed me], I always saw her as a person: she's a mother, someone who had problems in her life ... It's not that I found her apologies, but I have always seen a person behind the function. I did not know how to tell him, at one point: 'Stop, that's enough.'

From now on, Solène has the impression that her other colleagues make her pay for what happened. What to push her to wonder about her professional future ...

There have been a lot of resignations. We have been several to testify but of all these people I am currently the only one who remains in the service. [The others] make me pay, because they feel that what happened was not true. Right now, I'm not put away, but I only have one function in this department. As a person, I no longer exist.

I think being kind, having empathy, is more of a quality, but I'm also trying to tell my son that you should not be too nice because people can be very mean and aggressive.

I'll have to leave my job, it's been a year since I live in an atmosphere that is not possible and I say to myself, now, that I deserve better than that. Too bad for the job! "

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