New ways for young people to socialize 72.6% of the interviewed young people have "partners" in their lives
68.9% of the interviewed young people believe that finding a "partner" is a brave step out of the social comfort zone
"Rice matches", "game partners", "fitness partners"... During this time, the related topic of "hook-up socialization" aroused the discussion and attention of netizens. As long as the interests are the same, you don't have to be very familiar, as long as the rhythm is in tune, you can travel together... In life, do you have your own "partner"?
Recently, a survey of 1335,72 respondents conducted by the Social Survey Center of China Youth Daily (wenjuan.com) showed that 6.68% of the interviewed young people said that they had a "partner" in their lives, and 9.<>% of the interviewed young people believed that finding a "partner" was a brave step out of the social comfort zone and seeking a new social model.
72.6% of the interviewed young people said that they have a "partner" in their lives
Peng Tao, a post-80s civil servant, found a "partner" on social software this Spring Festival and drove to Mangshi, Ruili and Weishan Ancient City in Yunnan Province together.
In the survey, 72.6% of the interviewed young people said that they had a "partner" in their lives, 20.0% said that they had not yet and would find it if they needed it, and 7.4% said that they did not have it and would not look for it.
Su Zelin, a graduate student in a university in Beijing, especially likes to visit the park, and originally made an appointment with her roommate to go together every week, but then her roommate had her own affairs, so she could only find a "partner". "When I visit the park, I like to let others take pictures for me, so I posted a post on my social account, looking for girls who are about my age and can take pictures, graduate students or college students, and in their free time, everyone goes to visit Beijing's parks together and take pictures of each other. Finally, I found two suitable 'partners' and played well. Now we go out once a week if we are free. ”
Chi Yukai, associate professor of the School of Psychology of South China Normal University, believes that young people have the desire to make friends, and "hitching socialization" is a normal phenomenon that reflects the diversification of dating methods in the new era. Relying on the advancement of technology, weak connections on the network are easy to establish, and young people, especially single young people, will be keen to find a "partner".
In the survey, there were mainly rice partners (52.9%), sports partners (43.4%), travel partners (37.7%), learning partners (34.2%), game partners (31.1%), and others: baby walking partners (22.4%), shopping partners such as group buying, making orders, and shopping (24.8%), movie watching and drama chasing partners (19.9%), outdoor partners such as camping and picnics (17.1%), and campus life partners such as toilets and water fetching (8.6%).
"I had a 'partner' who studied English together, we both gave English speeches, and we needed to practice beforehand, so I decided to take time out of my free time to practice together." Su Zelin and his study "partner" have been riding up since last semester until now, and they meet and practice almost three or four days a week.
In the process of finding a "partner", people usually consider hobbies (70.1%), moral character (60.8%), whether the rhythm is in tune (48.5%), consumption concept (46.5%), personality charm (43.7%), etc.
Liu Yumeng, a female graduate student of the University of Electronic Science and Technology of China, feels that female "partners" are better, the safety factor is relatively high, and it is also very important to find "partners" personalities, and it is necessary to find people who get along well and facilitate communication. "I value hygiene habits, location distance, free time, etc. Because looking for a 'partner' is to hope that you can do something offline together, if it is too far away, the time cost is relatively high, and it is a bit unbearable. ”
"First of all, you must find someone in the same city, the second is whether the interests and hobbies are the same, whether the other party has more free time, and the third is to be easy-going." Peng Tao had previously made an appointment with the movie "Partner", "I originally wanted to watch a movie together, but after meeting that person, I found that the other party smoked, and I didn't talk again after watching the movie once."
In addition, whether there is enough time (34.2%), appearance (29.5%), and whether there is help (15.3%) are also factors that people will consider when looking for a "partner".
68.9% of the interviewed young people believe that finding a "partner" is a brave step in seeking a new social model
Liu Yumeng believes that "partnering social" is a more open and free way to socialize, and will gain a lot of fresh and unique experiences. She suggested that because she didn't know much about "partner" at first, her expectations were not too high, and the probability of disappointment was relatively small. However, she also feels that "partnering" belongs to a shallow social interaction, and if you do not actively maintain it, it is easy to disconnect from it.
For "matching" socialization, 68.9% of the interviewed young people believe that it is a brave step out of the social comfort zone and seek a new social model, and 53.7% of the young people believe that it is an efficient interpersonal communication and even learning lifestyle.
Chi Yukai said that we consume too much time on mobile phones, but there is still a difference between brushing mobile phones and real feelings and real interactions in life, playing games on mobile phones, making friends, watching videos, when you withdraw from, there may be a relatively empty feeling, so people need to go offline communication. Now many people may have only a few good friends, and far away in different places, in this case need to meet the needs of life, "partner" This way of making friends is very suitable, is a supplement and enrichment of current interpersonal communication.
Su Zelin found that "partnering" is also slowly becoming an emerging way to "get rid of singles", boys will find girls "partners", girls will find boys "partners", the process of getting along is similar to blind dates. "But in this process, everyone must have a strong sense of security and not be deceived."
"Offline deep dating requires a lot of time to accompany, and the current pace of life is fast, it is more difficult to establish such a deep relationship, in this case, there is 'partner socialization', I think it is a good thing." Chi Yukai believes that young people should be allowed to have a variety of ways to make friends, and new forms are constantly emerging, so that society can be more vibrant. Young people should try all kinds of possibilities.
"But if all one's social interaction is in the form of 'tie-up', it is also inappropriate." People must have deep interpersonal communication and must have close partners who can be trusted. For example, if you are sick and hospitalized, the operation requires general anesthesia, at this time you have to hand over your identity information and bank account number to a person, do you have such a friend? This is a deeper level of communication, and we need to trust each other. Chi Yukai said that this kind of quality interpersonal communication is an important source of our happiness.
In the survey, 49.3% of young people believe that "matchmaking social" may lead to a lack of awareness and emotional ability to establish deep interpersonal relationships, and 45.8% of young people believe that "matchmaking social" can not only help each other and achieve needs together, but also may be transformed into intimate relationships.
"When we're looking for a partner, I feel like we're looking for the place where we've least grown. For example, when I am chatting with my two 'partners', I will subconsciously compare their experience with my own, and in the process I will think about what would happen if it were me. Su Zelin said that "hitching socialization" is also a way of self-exploration in disguise.
Can "partners" be good friends? Su Zelin believes that it takes a long time for two people to become friends and investigate each other and experience some things together. But "tie-ups" are simpler, coming together purely to do something together. Therefore, "if you want to transition from 'partner' to friend, it takes a certain amount of time to accumulate."
"I have a 'partner' who usually doesn't talk much, but I just play, which can only be regarded as a 'partner'. If we get along happily during the game and talk about other things, we will gradually develop from 'partner' to friend. Peng Tao said that "partnering" can be an opportunity to make friends, but don't expect too much from becoming friends, just follow the chance.
Among the interviewed youth, 00.27% were post-9s, 90.49% were post-9s, and 80.22% were post-2s.
(At the request of the interviewee, Su Zelin and Peng Tao are pseudonyms)
China Youth Daily / China Youth Network Reporter Wang Pinzhi Intern Sun Liping Source: China Youth Daily