【Contemporaneous】Crystal couple Zhang Bing
After a while, we felt like she was the kind of person who was worth giving her life to.
【Contemporaneous】Pearl couple Wang Jinxia
I think that this kind of dullness in life is a kind of happiness.
【Contemporaneous】Diamond couple Zhang Fenglan
I feel very happy.
【Commentary】These three couples are from Arshan City, Xing'an League, Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region. In recent years, as one of the first pilot counties and cities for marriage customs reform, the local area has been committed to building a new marriage culture. The concept of marriage between three couples from different generations is also constantly changing. When reporters visited recently, they told their stories.
【Contemporaneous】Diamond couple Shang Guiqi Zhang Fenglan
We didn't have anything at that time, so we went to buy 4 small bowls and 4 large plates when we got married.
【Commentary】Shang Guiqi, who used to be a lumberjack, has been married to his wife Zhang Fenglan for 61 years. The hometown of the old couple is in Liaoning Province, in the 20s of the 50th century, the development and construction of Daxing'anling in the Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region required a large number of workers, and in 1960, Shang Guiqi took Zhang Fenglan from his hometown to Arshan City. The old man Zhang Fenglan said that at that time, two people and relatives had a meal at home to be considered married.
【Contemporaneous】Diamond couple Shang Guiqi
She (at that time) took care of these children at home, and I earned money on the mountain field, and I had to support these people to earn money, I felt that it was not hard, it was my responsibility.
【Commentary】Compared with Shang Guiqi and his wife, the wedding of Wang Jinxia and Liu Yan is envious, and they were born in the 70s of last century, and they are about to usher in a pearl wedding.
【Contemporaneous】Pearl couple Wang Jinxia
I put up a shed in the yard, I borrowed pots and bowls from house to house, and then at that time it was just becoming popular to ask for three gold, but I didn't mention any conditions at that time, and I didn't ask for it.
【Contemporaneous】Pearl couple Wang Jinxia
At that time, because the conditions at home were not very good, the classmates and friends around me did not wear skirts to get married, I was the first to wear a red skirt to get married, and in our rural areas, I was the first to take that kind of big wedding photos. I feel that although there was not much bride price at that time, I felt that as long as the two people were in the right mood, they would earn it themselves in the future.
Since 2019, China has successively introduced a number of policies and measures to promote the change of customs in the field of marriage, and Wang Jinxia, as a community secretary, said after knowing that Arshan City implemented the reform of marriage customs, saying that the pomp and circumstance of weddings is not big, and it cannot determine the happiness of married life at all.
【Contemporaneous】Pearl couple Wang Jinxia
The source of happiness is from the mutual tolerance and mutual support and understanding of two people, not those stories of wind and snow, but in this kind of plainness, you can really feel the happiness of that life.
【Commentary】Compared with the first two couples, Li Jing, who crosses 1600 kilometers to pursue love, has a brave different from others, as a "post-80s" she and her husband Zhang Bing chose to marry naked, Zhang Bing quit his job as an interior designer 10 years ago, returned to Arshan City from Jinan City to start a business, Li Jing fully supported her husband's choice, and resolutely brought her 1-year-old son to Arshan City to pursue love.
【Contemporaneous】Crystal couple Li Jing
We got married in 2008, and it's been about 15 years now. The most difficult period came through by relying on one's own willpower and mutual encouragement.
Li Jing told reporters that at that time, in the rural areas of Arshan City, the woman would require the man to have a house, and also prepare a bride price of more than 10,<> yuan, as well as cattle and sheep and other livestock. Regarding the marriage reform, Li Jing and his wife said that no matter how big the banquet is and how much the bride price, the life will eventually be lived by themselves.
【Contemporaneous】Crystal couple Zhang Bing
In fact, at that time, it was the bride price, we did not have this concept, you get married, you must live a life for two people, every stage has difficulties, that is, there may be difficulties every day, there is no need to be afraid to enter marriage, this courage is very important.
For Shang Guiqi and Zhang Fenglan, marriage is responsibility; For Wang Jinxia and Liu Yan, marriage is a dull life; In Zhang Bing and Li Jing's view, marriage is the courage to defeat all difficulties.
When interviewing three couples in the forest area, the reporter learned that at present, Arshan City mainly rectifies bad customs such as wedding and funeral extravagance and waste, and organizes civilized and thrifty collective certificate collection ceremonies for newlyweds, so as to make the marriage registration work special. And these three couples, who span different generations, are also amazed by the current civilized and simple newlywed customs.
【Contemporaneous】Pearl couple Wang Jinxia
I am particularly in favor of this marriage reform, and for my children, I feel that they should not be given all the worries about everything, so that they can also have their own goals.
【Contemporaneous】Crystal couple Li Jing
I think that the reform of marriage customs is like a clear stream, guiding people not only to pay attention to the ceremony, but in fact, the happiness of both parties is more important.
Zhang Wei Ma Danni reported by Xing'an Meng in Inner Mongolia
Responsible Editor: [Lu Yan]