In the group "Lie Flat and Stand Up Mutual Aid Alliance", 1,8 netizens encouraged each other
Huddle and try to find yourself along the way to fight monsters and upgrade
Editor's note
In a group called the Lie Down and Stand Up Mutual Aid Alliance, 1,8 netizens encouraged each other. Here, people who have been lying flat actively share ways to regain courage and try various ways to cope with stress and challenges.
Lying flat has become a hot word, expressing the helplessness of some young people in the face of pressure and difficulties, however, in reality, most young people still persevere and struggle.
On the occasion of May Fourth Youth Day, we launched the theme "I am young, do not lie flat", focusing on students, blue-collar workers, white-collar workers, second-generation youth and other backgrounds, focusing on the non-lying flat group in the Internet era and a director dedicated to Generation Z documentaries. They bravely face challenges and continue to improve, interpreting the fearlessness and steadfastness of youth.
May these stories full of vitality and depth stir up ripples of thought and action in the hearts of young people.
In the busy modern life, the phenomenon of "lying flat" has quietly emerged among young people, causing social concern. After experiencing a phased "lying flat", some young people are working hard to regain confidence and strength, and they support and encourage each other in Douban's "Lie Flat and Stand Up Mutual Aid Alliance" group.
Over the past decade, the changes in the Internet have also reflected the changes in the mentality of the younger generation. As the preface of the group "Lie Flat and Stand Up Mutual Aid Alliance" writes, "After a short period of lying flat, the younger generation begins to miss the brave and strong self that was once brave and strong, and chooses to summon up the courage to find the self that has fought monsters and upgraded along the way."
This group of young people "seek medical treatment" online to tide over the difficulties
In the "Lie Flat and Stand Up Mutual Aid Alliance" group, members support each other and tide over difficulties together. In the two sections of "Ask a Doctor" and "I Have a Prescription", netizens raised questions and sought solutions to their respective lying dilemmas; At the same time, many people also provide advice and support to others based on their own experience.
In the "Ask the Doctor" section, members asked many questions about how to face emotions, change the status quo, establish good habits, improve work efficiency, etc. Netizen Ge Tu asked, "Which books can help us return to reality?" "There were many responses. Group leader Jenny Whale suggests re-reading what you once liked and then gradually transitioning to other writers. Other netizens recommended a series of Chinese and foreign masterpieces such as "Blade", "Plague", "Ordinary World", "A Brief History of Mankind", "My Genius Girlfriend" and so on.
Among them, it is particularly worth mentioning the detailed advice given by netizen Carpe Diem. Based on her own experience, she pointed out that the short-term motivation brought by reading chicken soup books will quickly fade, so she recommends choosing deep and inspiring works for deep reading, "Since you are determined to change, do not feed your spiritual world with shallow and simple food." In the comments section, she recommended some books she had read, such as psychologist Victor Frank's "Living the Meaning of Life" and Rilke's "Letters to Young Poets", and also shared the content of the books, reading feelings and reasons for recommendation.
When recommending "Letters to Young Poets", she wrote: "Through the dialogue between poets and youth, my own confusion has also been solved. Especially when reading the explanation about the victory, deeply ashamed of your arrogance and laziness, in short, it is worth watching! ”
In the "I Have a Prescription" section, members offer a richer variety of "stand up" methods. Some people feel the urgency brought by the flow of people in the café, some insist on practicing Baduan Jin and Vajra Gong, some people relieve anxiety and insomnia through MOODA Mood Diary (an emotional recording app) during the preparation for the exam, and some choose to start by sorting out the details of life, such as cleaning the room, updating the refrigerator food, repairing broken furniture, etc.
Among them, the "uninteresting" "prescription" of netizens is quite original, and she shares her experience of planting mint. Starting from the seeds, watering every morning and the mint grows tenaciously. She closely associates her state with the growth of mint, and watching mint thrive every day, she also seems to feel that she is living a full life. "Peppermint's ability to recover is amazing, and even after being cut off all the branches, it can quickly shoot new shoots from the roots, which is excellent for people who often 'sit ups' and gives you new hope every day." She also shared Yuan Longping's inscription below the post: "People are like seeds, to be a good seed." ”
Since May 2021, netizens have been posting their experiences and experiences in the "Ask a Doctor" and "I Have a Prescription" sections. Many posts have nearly 5 comments, and some posts have been "refined" by group leaders or administrators to make it easier for other netizens to find and read. To a certain extent, this shows the ability of netizens to self-diagnose, self-help, and the spirit of mutual help.
The Lie Down and Stand Up Mutual Aid Alliance helped them regain their courage
Nowadays, there are people who choose to "lie flat" in the face of pressure and see it as a way to fight unfair competition. "I found that some friends around me, once they chose to lie flat, looking back at themselves who had fought monsters all the way and upgraded, they would sigh 'How did you survive!' Absolutely not possible now! In May 2021, netizen Jenny Whale created a group on Douban called "Lie Flat and Stand Up Mutual Aid Alliance", aiming to regain courage and deal with life's challenges with those who once lay flat.
Jenny said that she and her friends have the same feeling, that is, after refusing to memorize words, refuse to brush up on questions, refuse to write papers, refuse to find a job, although they feel relaxed for a while, they also lose the courage to face "hard work but the end is blurred". Therefore, she started the group "Lie Flat and Stand Up Mutual Aid Alliance" from the inspiration of the "social rehabilitation group".
A few months later, Jenny shared her "rehabilitation diary" with the group. She pretended to be bad at home during her online classes at home to escape for an entire semester, and that's when she began to indulge herself. Later, in the graduate school interview and GMAT test, she did not do well because of procrastination and lack of effort. Looking back at the diary in her third year of high school, she realized how hard she had worked: she would be unwilling to fall first in her class because of an exam; Due to unsatisfactory math test results in freshman year, he will go to the library every night to summarize the questions, so that the practice notes after class are thicker than the books. But the year she lay flat she found nothing.
For the first two years of college, Jenny had a book for daily planning, on which she would list things to do almost every day and cross them out when she was done. In order to regain her past hard work, she formulated a "rehabilitation plan", from focusing on "what to do every day" to focusing on "what to do tomorrow", and also began to reformulate the "daily plan", buying a new book to record her "rehabilitation cases".
Jenny also shared in her diary that her math teacher encouraged her in her freshman year: "Take the method, only get it; Take the middle of the law, only get the bottom; Take the law, nothing is gained. Learning cannot be passed, you should know the difficulties, ask more, think more, there will always be experience. ”
As of April 2023, more than 4,1 netizens have joined the "Lie Down and Stand Up Mutual Aid Alliance". The group has sections such as "Rehabilitation Diary", "Rehabilitation Success Cases", "Ask a Doctor" and "I Have a Prescription", in which members post in the group for self-analysis, share ways to regain courage, and encourage each other and huddle together through messages and likes.
"Lie flat" and "stand up" again They face challenges positively
In the group "Lie Flat and Stand Up Mutual Aid Alliance", the "rehabilitation diary" and "rehabilitation success" cases make people feel a sense of brave power. In the lives of these young people, they have chosen to "lie flat" under the pressure of school, work, interpersonal relationships and so on. However, after regaining strength, they bravely analyze their own problems, work to make changes, and begin to try to "stand up".
18-year-old Xiao Yi once went home to recuperate due to depression in the third year of junior high school, and after entering the first year of high school, she returned home again due to academic and interpersonal pressure. At its worst, she even tried to commit suicide by swallowing medicine. Later, the turning point occurred during a trip with her mother to Dongfudao in Zhejiang Province.
In the past, Xiao Yi always felt that it was difficult for her to insist on completing one thing and achieving results, but in the process of hiking and climbing around the island, she unexpectedly realized the meaning of life. "The sun is very sunny, climbing the mountain is very difficult, sometimes when you see some boulders, you think it is the top of the mountain, but the real top is still ahead." When faced with the choice of whether to continue on or return the same way, Xiao Yi chose to stick to the end. The experience was like a metaphor for her life, giving her the courage to face life's challenges again.
"Don't lose hope easily, just stand up tomorrow if you fail today, every small effort is worth encouraging, we must take it step by step." Now, more than a month before the college entrance examination, Xiao Yi has her dream school, she wants to study literature and history, and decided to work tirelessly for her goals.
24-year-old Xiaozhu opened a sugar water stall in a small county town in Jiangxi in 2022. She summed up her state as "repeatedly lying flat and repeatedly standing up". After graduating, Xiaozhu was diagnosed with bipolar disorder due to emotional problems, and after graduation, she went to Shanghai, Yunnan, Nanchang and other places to work and travel, but her condition often recurred, and she was repeatedly forced to "lie flat".
In November 2022, she decided to change her "way of living", bought small carts, wrapping paper, ingredients, learned to make desserts such as snow meiniang, double-skin milk, cupcakes, etc., and set up a sugar water stall in the alley in front of the school. At first, even she did not expect that this sugar water stall would not only become a way for her to make a living, but also revitalize her life.
When busy, Xiaozhu only takes 4 days off every month and works 8 hours a day, which can sell about 800 yuan; When relaxed, he works 5 hours a day and sells for about 200 yuan. During the Spring Festival, Xiaozhu earned 6000,<> yuan in just half a month. Because of the good ingredients and cheap price, the snow mei made by Xiaozhu is especially popular. In half a year, she has accumulated the next batch of regular customers. Every time she hears guests praise her good craftsmanship, she is sincerely happy.
As young people who used to lie flat and are now standing up or have stood up, 18-year-old Xiao Yi and 24-year-old Xiao Zhu both feel that they have become more determined, brave and clear about their direction in the midst of setbacks. At the same time, they also have some views on the phenomenon of "lying flat and standing up". Xiao Yi believes: "Some people want to find other 'ways out', which is not necessarily lying flat, but just exploring themselves inward, trying to find a more suitable way for themselves." Xiaozhu feels: "Everyone's life issues are different, and encouragement and tolerance are very important." The sugar water stall is her longest-running job, and she feels that she can continue to do it, "Maybe I will get sick, fall, stagnate in the future, but I will not lose the courage to stand up." (This edition/reporter Chen Jing)