"Don't want a red envelope, but an aunt." This Spring Festival, a video of a 33-year-old single uncle in Neijiang, Sichuan, being urged to marry by six nephews went viral.
On January 25, the "protagonist" who was urged to marry declined the reporter's interview. Ms. Liu, the older sister who took the video, told the reporter that the younger brother was introduced by a friend to go on a blind date that day, but there was no match.
A few years ago, my younger brother had a relationship, but because the woman was rushing to get married and the bride price was relatively high, the two separated.
"After this video (became popular), someone contacted me and said they wanted to go on a blind date." Ms. Liu revealed.
In this video taken by Ms. Liu on January 22, a man is sitting on a plastic stool, and several children surround him to pay New Year's greetings, shouting "I want an aunt" incessantly.
Ms. Liu told reporters that her 33-year-old brother is still unmarried.
"This matter has been urged for many years, and the family also urged it before." Ms. Liu, who is from Gaoqiao Street, Neijiang City, said that on the first day of the new year this year, she took her younger brother and a bunch of children to her elder sister's house to pay New Year's greetings.
"A bunch of children were arguing for my uncle to 'want an aunt', and I took a picture with my mobile phone." Ms. Liu said that her younger brother was urged to "want an aunt" by six nephews. The oldest of these children was 28 years old, and the youngest Also 7 years old.
After Ms. Liu uploaded this video to Douyin on January 22, it quickly became popular.
Some netizens said that this is a "large-scale forced marriage scene" and that the uncle is "under great pressure", and some netizens hope that their nephew will not be like this.
"There is a lot of hype on the Internet, and he has a better attitude, saying 'it's okay'." Ms. Liu said, but a bunch of children were arguing for his brother "to ask for an aunt", and he said "the ears are annoying".
Ms. Liu, who was on her way back to Guangzhou, said that on January 25, her younger brother went on a blind date through a friend's introduction, but they didn't fall in love.
In her opinion, her younger brother is not talkative and has a more introverted personality.
"Nowadays, it is difficult for boys to find a partner if their mouth is not sweet." Ms. Liu said.
"(After the video became popular), someone on the Internet has already contacted me, saying that they can find out more about it." Ms. Liu said, and her younger brother also said "yes".
"We can get to know each other, and we can meet if we think it's appropriate."
Zhang Jing, a lawyer at Beijing Lianggao Law Firm and an expert in marriage and family law, said in an interview with a reporter from CCTV that the main reason young people resist being urged to marry is that they don’t like others interfering in their major life events, coupled with the condescending attitude of some parents. It is difficult for children and parents to reach a consensus on the issue of starting a family and getting married.
In addition, urging marriage will also involve other issues such as whether to buy a house, whether to have a stable income, and so on.
But Zhang Jing suggested that children should not let the topic of urging marriage become a minefield, "Don't 'get it right away', as if this issue cannot be raised at all. In addition, don't be afraid of this issue, even because you are afraid of renting a boyfriend or girlfriend, Lying to parents, fighting, I think it's avoiding the problem."
Jiang Hong, a sociology teacher at Mianyang Normal University, suggested that young people listen to the advice of their elders when interviewed by reporters.
At the same time, in the context of changes in the concept of marriage and love, family members, especially parents, must understand young people, strengthen communication, and understand young people's plans and difficulties they face.
Chengdu Commercial Daily-Red Star News reporter Yao Yongzhong