"Dolsing men and women" said "they fought the most during holidays", what is the number one reason for fighting?

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: When did you and your ex-spouse often fight?

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: Holidays (male 35.8%, female 36.2%)

According to a survey, an average of 36% of male and female dolsing (returned singles) had quarrels most often during holidays.

When asked what issues they mainly quarreled with, men ranked '

' and women ranked '

' as the number one priority.

The number one reason for holiday couple fights...

Dolsing male 'staying time with both families', Dolsing female 'role division'

Remarriage marriage information company OnlyU and marriage information company Vienarae recently announced the results of a survey conducted from the 9th to the 14th of 536 men and women (268 men and women each) who wish to remarry at dusk nationwide.

When asked what issues they usually quarreled with their spouses during the holidays, 32.1% of men said 'time spent at both families' and 34.3% of women said 'participation of roles in preparation for turns'.

The second place that men chose was 'uneasy relationship with family members of wife's family' (27.2%), followed by 'visiting wife's family' (21.3%), and 'preparing gifts for in-laws' (11.2%).

In the case of women, the second place was 'time spent in both families (25.0%)', which men ranked first.

Then there were opinions such as 'uncomfortable relationship with family members in the city (18.3%)' and 'whether or not to visit the city (14.6%)'.

To the question, ' Which

', 35.1% of males answered '

' and 38.1% of females answered '

'.

Proxy filial piety means that men try to entrust their wives with preparations for holidays and ancestral rites.

In second place, men are 'excessive food preparation (26.1%)' and women are '

In third place, both men and women gave the same answer as 'preparation centered on women (18.2% male, 18.3% female).

In 4th place, males chose 'the in-laws' abuse of power (13.1%)' and females chose 'excessive food preparation (14.5%)'.

An official from ONLYU said, “As gender equality and dual-income culture spread, the idea that men and women should equally share food preparation during holidays is growing. he explained.

Emphasis on 'simplification' for Lunar New Year's Day...

"Resolving Family Conflicts"

'Excessive preparation for the holiday table' is one of the main causes of holiday stress for both women and men.

In fact, due to the preparation of the ancestral rites for the holidays, it has spread to family discord and generational conflicts among men and women of all ages.

Sungkyunkwan, who said before last year's Chuseok, that it is not necessary to send Jeon, advised again on the 16th ahead of this year's New Year's Day to keep the table simple.

The table of contents presented by Sungkyunkwan as an example is as follows.

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▲ An example of a New Year’s table prepared by the Sungkyunkwan Rite Establishment Committee

On New Year's Day, rice cake soup is served instead of songpyeon served during Chuseok, and nine other foods are served, including vegetables, grilled meat, kimchi, alcohol (glass), and four kinds of fruits.

Sungkyunkwan added, “There is no fixed type of fruit to serve on the charye table, so you can choose comfortably, and you don’t have to make it difficult to fry the pancakes.”

In fact, according to the ancestral rites specified in the Jujagarye, which is a guideline for ceremonies, the original charye food was simple.

Kim Mi-yeong, senior researcher at the Korea Institute for the Advancement of Korean Studies, said, "With the economic leeway, the thought of treating and serving ancestors well has gradually led to excessive ancestral rites." I was wary of that,” he pointed out.

He said, "If we revive the original appearance of the table, we can keep the etiquette and resolve the family conflict over the preparation of the table," he said.

(Photo = Provided by the headquarters of the Sungkyunkwan Judo Association / Yonhap News)