Fantasy specification

Amal Al-Minshawi

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December 22, 2022

She dreams of him as a little girl, and wishes for him as a prince. She waits for him to come every day, and searches for him in the middle of her eyes. She draws his pictures in her simple dreams, a loving knight in love, then a handsome young man whom others envy, then a capable man who is able to fulfill wishes, then a complete model that has no deficiency to satisfy ambitions. Then a fantasy that does not exist except in stories and anecdotes, then loneliness, suffering and deprivation until death.

The girl’s beauty, youth, and strength impose his dominion and arrogance at the beginning of the path, so she refuses as she wishes, and creates reasons for rejection out of nothingness, and she says with all her will a thousand “no”, and ignores all the basic and essential advantages and virtues of religion, morals, and good origin in exchange for a deficiency here or there that life can be correct without. And with her practical and material success, the terms and conditions are multiplied, so she searches for the subtleties and defects in every door tariq and student of affection, so how can she be satisfied with this or that after all this obstruction?

Then the years pass quickly and terribly, so ideas change, specifications recede, and calm down until all the conditions fade away.

A sad short story experienced by many girls who needed awareness and support from their parents, and unfortunately they did not find it. This awareness, which should start very early and be formed properly, far from the imagination of the diaries of social media celebrities and what they depict of fabricated events and prepared in advance about marriage that contains all the specifications of imagination. While reality is bitter.

Marriage is not only flaming love, nor is it show-off, nor is it bragging about money, furniture, and homes, nor is it bragging about one’s origin, family, or position, even if all of that is important, but it is not the foundation on which homes are built and is given precedence over anything else of moderate religion and good morals.. They are really the key to true happiness. .

Marriage and building a family must be based on strong pillars that last and withstand difficulties, and what are the most and most complex of them, it must be based on acceptance, good choice, understanding, respect, and a desire to cover up, and all of this that most girls cannot do alone;

There must be real participation from the parents and a logical and permanent dialogue with them in order to rehabilitate them, and sincere fear for their psychological and emotional stability before taking into account the opinion of relatives, friends and neighbors.

Many girls draw imaginary pictures of the man they would like as a husband and reject better men who deserve acceptance, mental pictures that are far from an eternal reality that confirms that perfection belongs to God alone, may He be glorified and exalted, and all of us - men and women - have shortcomings and imperfections, and this is what every girl should understand from an early age. So that her heart does not break and she wakes up after a lifetime of delusions.

• Marriage is not only blazing love, nor is it show-off, nor is it bragging about money, furniture, or homes, nor is it bragging about one's origin, family, or position.

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