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Who else and who least knows the story that is shaking the 'pink' news these days.

promised to marry each other and the symbols that sealed the good news were a wonderful ring that he gave her and a kiss of love.

The daughter of

and the late Marquis de Griñón posted the sweet image on her

profile (with the kiss and the ring, we mean) and posted her premarital happiness.

So far, all very well and very XXI century.

Capture of Tamara Falcó's IG

But the leak of an untimely video of him kissing another has wrecked what seemed like a fairy tale.

Tamara has deleted the photo of her Instagram engagement announcement and they have stopped being friends on that social network, once a channel for exposing her love story.

Her reaction, however, has gone further and since the labels that linked them no longer appear, everything indicates that

She is not the first nor the last person who, in the face of a sentimental breakup, puts her foot down at all levels, physical and virtual.

Is it convenient to do it?

Put 'virtual land' in between

The psychologist Gabriela Paoli, author of the book 'Digital Health', has few doubts about it: "I consider deleting your ex or blocking him healthy and very convenient."

Paoli maintains that it is of little use to put land in between while keeping other communication channels open, such as those related to interaction through social networks.

"If you don't, you are in their day-to-day and see if the other is with his friends, if he likes a girl, if he writes a comment to her... None of this is going to help you and it will probably be a source of much discomfort".

So much so, that she recommends completely breaking contact with the ex-partner, in order to

and be able to focus on getting ahead.

"If not, that process is contaminated", she ditches her.

Most likely, he continues, is that we do not fit well the information we see about each other on social networks and it hurts us.

"For this reason, if there is any type of communication with that person to close issues or clarify something, I recommend that it be

," says the psychologist.

However, he acknowledges that it is a brave decision that can cost, because it involves cutting many ties, but it is a lesser evil: "You can spend all day

and what he does not do and that can also be very painful."

So the recipe, which we do not know if Tamara Falcó has followed to the letter, is: "I recommend managing this situation with dignity,

, so you can inform the other person that you are going to delete it so that make the breakup healthier and more practical. It's a perfect way to tell your ex that you've decided to move on," concludes Paoli.

3 to 6 months of zero contact

Elsa Debra, a coach specializing in women, puts a minimum on that emotional firewall necessary to go through the mourning of a breakup: "The optimal thing is 3 to 6 months of

with the other person so as not to be

. Not even you have to see each other to return possible belongings. It is better to use a courier service than to spend the whole afternoon crying," he says.

Debra explains that sometimes we don't cut the thread in networks because (in the case of taking the initiative) we feel guilty about breaking up.

But she insists: "If it hurts you to talk to your ex, you should delete it or block it from your networks. If it doesn't affect you at all, then you can keep it."

But why do you have to be so radical?

The coach doesn't doubt either: "You can be

. And if nothing has changed, the same thing will happen again."

I mean, it's a step backwards.

"It is better to keep the decision firmly and focus on oneself. Besides, he can

and complain publicly, or vice versa, and thus the wounds are reactivated," she says.

Keep in touch, something good will have...

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The psychologist Rosa Armas, from Psychologist at home, cites a study by Tara C. Marshall, from Brunel University in London, who agrees on the obstacle that networks pose to recovering from a breakup.

However, not everything is counterproductive if one maintains that virtual thread.

Thus, these are the

that she details:

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