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The status quo of posting babies in the circle of friends: Crazy posting babies before going to school, and "evaporating from the world" after the fourth grade...

  Crazy sunbathing before going to school, evaporating after 4th grade... Recently there is a hot topic of "4th grade evaporating phenomenon"!

Someone surveyed more than 3,000 parents and found that more than 70% of their children disappeared from their parents' circle of friends after the fourth grade.

From "Baby Babe Crazy Demon" to "Calm Ancestor", what happened?

The Yangzi Evening News/Ziniu News reporter interviewed several mothers to hear what they had to say.

 It is said that the parent-child relationship also has a "seven-year itch"

  Some netizens found a rule of sunbathing: the baby before school is C in the circle of friends; in the first and second grades, he often bubbles when he performs well; in the third grade, he occasionally basks in the sun; The itch of the year", the photos of the babies are slowly disappearing from the circle of friends...

  For this phenomenon, the parent Ms. Wang strongly agrees.

"When I was young, I was exposed to the sun every day. No matter how cute I looked, I would hate cats and dogs when I grew up. The baby before school stimulates motherhood; the baby after school, irritates motherhood. Now that I'm about to enter the fourth grade, the circle of friends is rare. No. I know from when, there are not a few satisfactory photos of the child in the mobile phone album in the past two years. Ms. Wang said with a smile, "Let's take the summer vacation to lobby this time. After spending money and time, the child not only does not appreciate it, but also Also popular enough.

"If you don't go on a good road, you have to climb a tree. The scenic area asks him to take a photo. Usually, he can't see a person. He always rushes in front of the big army and explores the world everywhere. He often complains: 'You adults. , you know how to take pictures!'"

 "Small conflicts" with children have increased

  "It's too expensive for a mother to raise a baby. I really don't have the mood or energy to show off the baby." The parent, Ms. Huang, said that when they were young, the children were cute and cute. Now the baby is still the same baby, and the relationship has changed. Flying dog jumps.

"My baby is the kind of person who is very slow at homework, playing with rubber for a while, eating some snacks for a while, and going to the toilet for a while. Whenever there is any movement in the house, he will run out to see what's going on. It will catch fire when he sees it."

  Ms. Li, the parent of twins, said that she has stopped posting babies since the fifth or sixth grade.

"I haven't had so many extracurricular activities for a long time, and I have the pressure of going to school. Two days ago, my child's primary school teacher suddenly asked me how my child is now, where is he going to school, etc." "Recently, a best friend was in The circle of friends posted the admission notice of Peking University. The next time you post your baby may be the day you receive the admission notice from a key university." Ms. Li said with a smile.

You have to get the baby's consent

  The child is old and has his own opinions. Taking pictures and posting on the circle of friends must be approved by the child.

The parent, Ms. Gao, said that after the first year of junior high school, she could see her in the morning, and she didn't finish school until 8 p.m., and she had to do her homework when she got home, so she didn't have time to take pictures and show her baby.

"Sometimes in the morning when my child was combing her hair, I secretly took a picture for her. As soon as she heard the sound of the camera, she was even more reluctant to get up. She grabbed my phone and deleted the picture."

  The parent, Ms. Li, also said that after her child entered junior high school, as long as she took a picture of her, she would solemnly declare: taking pictures is okay, but not in a circle of friends.

 Expert advice:

  From drying the results to the drying process, encourage children to grow up

  Yin Fei, Vice President of Jiangsu Family Education Research Association and Professor of the School of Psychology of Nanjing Normal University, said that children are at the core of family life, and they have become an important sharing topic in the circle of friends without exception.

As children go to school, especially after a few years of school, their development tends to stabilize with little change from appearance to performance, and the level of surprise for parents decreases.

When schoolwork becomes the theme of children's life, the level differences based on schoolwork begin to form. No matter what level, it will become a burden for parents to share.

Coupled with the awakening of children's self-awareness, it is impossible for parents to post their babies as they wish.

  Yin Fei suggested that parents can show the process of their children's hard work and life from the results to the process, which can not only inspire children, but also inspire friends, and allow friends to witness their children's growth process together. .

  Yangzi Evening News/Ziniu News reporter Wang Ying