China News Service, Beijing, August 16 (Liu Yue) Friends, have you heard of "social slang"?
Social slang, that is, the social slang in interpersonal communication, the subtext that everyone agrees on.
Drawing Liu Yue
Before starting this topic, let me first take a few questions for you to send points.
Question 1: In the workplace, a leader asks you "what are your plans for the weekend", what does this mean?
Question 2: A junior high school classmate who has not been in touch for many years sent you a WeChat message asking "Are you there?" How should you reply?
Question 3: A friend who has met several times and told you, "We will have dinner together next time", when is the next time?
With these few questions, let's walk into today's "modern social slang" classroom.
The first lesson of social slang: Context
"Contextualism" is an important part of "social slang".
The same sentence can be very different in different contexts.
First of all, this is a compulsory question - "are you there".
"When you're in a relationship, ask the other party 'what are you doing', and the subtext is 'I miss you'." - vernacular from a media practitioner.
"Ask 'are you there' at work, or just take a pat on WeChat, which is equivalent to 'I have something to call you'." - Chicken Wings, the publicity staff of the drama variety.
"After the project is over, send 'Are you here' to Party A, which means 'It's time to pay back, when will you call me?'" - Public Relations Xiaomeng.
"Classmates and friends who haven't been in touch for a long time will send you 'Are you there', either because they are going to get married and ask you to raise money, or they want to borrow money, or they want you to help with Pinduoduo." The procedure of being persecuted by "Are you" for many years Yuan Daewoo found a simple and rude but very effective solution: "If someone I don't know just says 'Are you there?' without the cause and effect, I won't pay attention to him, and I will reply to him when he says something. Because I'm not sure if I should be there."
Customers eat in the outdoor alfresco area of a restaurant in Toronto, Canada.
Photo by China News Agency reporter Yu Ruidong
Key knowledge points often require candidates to draw inferences from one case, for example, the upgraded version of "are you there" is "do you have time?" - the latter has a clearer purpose and a stronger sense of oppression than the former.
Public relations Xiaomeng teased: "If a colleague or a leader suddenly pats me on the shoulder and asks 'do you have time?', I will be stunned, which means that I have to arrange a job for you."
"If you don't want to do this, you can do it like this. For example, he asked me if I had time at noon, and I said no now, maybe after 10 pm. This will make him feel embarrassed, and secondly, it will delay his progress. If If you are in a hurry, you will not come to me, and if it is not urgent, it doesn't matter if you leave it to me."
There are also some special words in "contextology", which are like the roots of English words, and with different suffixes, they will have different parts of speech. For example, "um um" is more enthusiastic than "um", and for example, this word—— "it is good".
"Okay" - mostly when the speaker is depressed or forced to help, because he doesn't want to say a word.
"Ok" - a reply under normal circumstances, similar to the all-purpose golden sentence "received" in the workplace.
"Good drop" - It seems that the speaker has a lively personality, a positive state, is willing to accept this matter, or has the need to have a good relationship with the other party.
If it goes further, he will add a wavy line at the back - "Okay~"
Conversely, when the speaker is in a bad mood and resists, he will reply "1", and if he replies "oh" - there may be a fight right away.
The second lesson of social slang: fooling
In social networking, how to distinguish whether the other party is fooling you?
"Fucking" is divided into low-level fooling and high-level fooling. Low-level fooling mostly uses a single tone particle + repeated keywords to perfunctory each other.
"If I'm not interested in the message, I'll just reply 'um'." - Jennifer, Creative Design.
"You share your life with him, and he always replies to you with a string of 'hahahahahaha', which proves that he is not interested in this topic, and even when I say something very angry or very sad, he also gives it to me 'Hahaha'." - Writer Xiao Guan.
Dada, who works in a unit in a certain system, shared her "fooling" experience with reporters: "Every time someone tells you something, you just need to grab the key words and ask it back, and it will appear that you are listening very seriously. "
"My boss always forces me to work overtime." - "Ah? Overtime?"
"I want to break up with my boyfriend, and he is cruel to me." - "What? He is cruel to you?"
"My son is smart, and now he can memorize the nine-nine multiplication table." - "Wow, the nine-nine multiplication table!"
Young people talking on a blind date.
Photo by China News Agency reporter Liu Wenhua
Correspondingly, advanced "fuck learning" is roughly equivalent to polite words, making it difficult for social rookies to distinguish the real meaning.
I try - best not to count on me.
Say it again - never mention it again.
Next time for sure - there is no next time.
Let me think about it - I disagree.
You eat first, I'll see the situation - I'm not coming.
On the way - not out yet.
"I said that I will invite you to dinner next time, and I will definitely not make an appointment." Reporter Wang Han teased: "This sentence is just a polite ending to the chat. If you really want to have a meal, you will propose a time and place, for example, we will go next time. Eat coconut chicken."
The third lesson of social slang: workplace studies
Knock on the blackboard!
Classmates, we are about to usher in the most difficult lesson in social slang - "Workplace Studies".
It is said that the workplace is like a battlefield, chatting and laughing while sieging the city and conquering the land, calmly; a few lines of dialogue in a brief confrontation, and the soldiers are not bloody.
How to quickly understand the potential meaning of a seemingly mundane sentence, and take one step to see three steps, is the top priority of the course.
"Subordinates don't mention the specific progress, and reply 'in progress', that is, they haven't done it yet." - Teacher Lu, the leader of Ben Xiaoxin.
"When we say to the leaders 'great harvest', it is equivalent to 'I've listened to your crap 800 times'." - Director Mao Yu.
"During an interview, if the interviewer asks the other party 'our unit is not far from your home', it means that the company needs to work overtime." ——Senior HR Keke.
"My colleague said to you, 'You are more professional and experienced in this matter', don't doubt, he will push this job to you." - Singularity, the original artist.
"When a boy tells a boy, 'Go, go out and smoke a cigarette', or a girl tells a girl, 'Go out and buy a drink', it is likely that there is something that you can't say in the office to share with you." - Media Han, an advertising agency Ling.
South Korean citizens gather at a cafe in Mapo-gu, Seoul.
Photo by China News Agency reporter Liu Xu
Interestingly, among the respondents, “leaders” and “subordinates” understood social slang quite differently.
The leadership's perspective is based on euphemistic hints, a conventionally conveyed intention.
What's up for the weekend - I want to make arrangements for you.
Try to get it done today - work overtime if you can't.
Great leaders attach great importance to this - you have to pay attention to this matter.
"Are you busy (testing the other party's schedule), this project determines the company's future (no money to pay wages next month), and Party A is very satisfied as a whole (but there are still a lot of small opinions)." Creative industry project director Li Wei shared. His common workplace social slang, and he talked about an interesting anecdote that made him laugh and laugh.
"One time the project was in the delivery stage, and the time was very tight. I wanted a new colleague to work overtime on weekends, so I asked him 'what are the arrangements for the weekend', thinking that he should understand what I mean. I didn't expect him to say that this project is too stressful When I am old, I don't want to think about any work at all on weekends. I just want to sleep for two days and hope that people in the company don't look for him. After he said this, I can't continue to say that I work overtime. As a result, I was alone in the company on weekends. Two extra days of work."
For subordinates, the "social slang" in the workplace is more inclined to a hint that is difficult to penetrate and illusory, and even listen to it in reverse.
We're not right about people - I'm going to start targeting you.
I have a question - be prepared to be questioned.
Can you overcome it? - If you can't overcome it, you must overcome it.
You can make comments - but I don't necessarily accept yours.
"Once the leader asked me, are you in a hurry to broadcast this film, and I said not too much. The leader said, there are some small details that we can discuss, you can also think about it." Director Mao Yu complained: "'Think about it again' It's like under the guidance of the leader, I made a completely different film again."
Therefore, Mao Yu commented on the social slang in the workplace: "It's very useful, it's really good, don't say it next time."
Young people generally dislike "social slang"?
It is worth mentioning that among the interviewees this time, middle-aged people tend to adapt well to "social slang", while most young people prefer that everyone can "speak directly".
"Social slang represents a kind of tacit understanding, which can not only achieve the goal but also promote family harmony." Mr. Liu said after the 60s that all friends in the circle are "strictly controlled by their wives", so they developed a set of "team building secret codes": "Drinking tea is equal to an appointment, a meeting is equal to drinking, and a long distance is equal to more than two events."
"We have a tacit understanding between us, the old 'guerrillas'. If parents or wives are at home, they will ask 'what meeting will be held tonight and where will the meeting be held'. Telling slang words to each other will not make other people lose face."
Data map: drinking, drinking, partying.
Image source: Visual China
And Xiaoxin's leader, Mr. Lu, believes that "social slang" in the workplace has its value and can leave a little leeway for each other: "It's not a life-and-death conflict, so there's no need to confront each other head-to-head. Let's be polite and show respect for each other, and it will be easier to deal with each other in the future."
Correspondingly, although the vast majority of young people among the interviewees affirmed the necessity of "social slang" and admitted that it can play a role in moderating, paving the way, and leaving a step for the other party, they also said that it is a way of letting go. The unspoken rules that people can't do anything about.
"'Social slang' is a hint that people who understand won't tell you." - Song Yuxin, a fledgling post-00 girl.
"There are some slang words filled with a lot of words that seem to be professional but are actually meaningless. In fact, it is not necessary." - 25-year-old media practitioner vernacular.
"Life is already very hard and tiring, I still hope that everyone can speak straight, and don't have anything to do with me!!!" - 24-year-old drama variety publicist Chicken Wings.
"As a post-90s generation with a straightforward personality, I don't like social slang. This is a retrogression of human civilization. Why do we rely on feeling to guess things that can be communicated directly in work and life? I can't understand this kind of behavior." - Birth Xiao Chen, a high school teacher in 1997.
The picture shows South Korean citizens dining at a restaurant in Mapo District, Seoul that night.
Photo by China News Agency reporter Liu Xu
In communication studies, the meaning of language is never determined by the literal meaning, but the result of convention in a general environment, so it can never exist independently from the actual situation.
As an indispensable means of communication at the moment, "social slang" is on the one hand the glue to maintain the relationship, conveying well-known politeness to each other, and on the other hand, it is indeed a threshold and trap for "social novices".
However, perhaps all the gifts from fate have already had their prices secretly marked.
After young people use Internet slang such as "YYDS", "XSWL", "XFXY" and other abbreviations to confuse middle-aged and elderly people, and feel that they are out of fashion, one day Qianlang will also be able to raise a load of social slang, bad He smiled and said, "Children, welcome to the world of adults." (End)