Reporter Qi Yunlei Zhao Changchun An Xiaodong

　　In everyone's traditional impression, it is undoubtedly a good boy who listens to his mother's words.

But with the growth of youth, "listen to mother's words" has become more and more derogatory.

In 2022, at the main venue of Jinan, the main venue of the "One Point of Heart Qilu Blind Date Conference" and the 16th Qixi Qianfoshan Blind Date Conference, "Not Mom's Treasure" and "Not Mom's Treasure" have become the most frequently described descriptions in the criteria for choosing a mate for girls.

So, why do the girls born in the 1990s dislike the "mother boy" so much?

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　　"Ma Bao Nan" is actually a buzzword on the Internet, referring to men who listen to their mothers and always focus on their mothers. It also refers to men who grew up under the doting of their mothers.

　　It is understood that "mabaonan" generally appears in two kinds of families, one is a family with better family conditions.

"Ma Baonan" is not well versed in the world because of his superior family conditions and being cared for by his parents.

"Mama Baonan" has a poor career spirit, but usually he will follow the arrangements of his parents and get a good job.

The second is the family in which the mother is in power and the father is the "hands-off".

Men who grow up in such families are extremely dependent on their mothers, their thoughts and behaviors are greatly influenced by their mothers, and they are overly dependent on their mothers.

　　For girls, the most fearful thing is to meet the "mother boy" object.

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Hate "Mom and Boy" so much?

　　"No Mom's Treasure", "Not Mom's Treasure", "Mom's Treasure Don't Disturb"... At this blind date conference, such mate selection conditions became the most frequently described descriptions in the mate selection criteria for girls.

Why do the post-90s girls in this blind date so dislike "Mother Boy"?

At the blind date, the reporter randomly interviewed several girls.

　　In 1993, Xiao Wei couldn't accept that the other half was "Mother Boy".

Because she feels that "Mother Baonan" has no opinion, so in the process of getting along with two people, the boy will be led by the family, which may cause her feelings to be ignored.

　　"A lot of people who get divorced now are 'mother boys'." Ms. Liu, who was born in the 1980s, told reporters that she had come into contact with many "mother boys" in her life, and she always said "what's wrong with my mother?" He always talks about "what's wrong with my child" and doesn't look down on his daughter-in-law.

It is precisely because she has seen various problems of "mother's baby boy" that she clearly asked the other party to be "not mother's baby" during the blind date.

　　Similarly, Xiao Wu, a post-95s girl, also clearly asked the other party to be "not a mother's treasure" when she wrote the blind date information card.

"Because the last one is." Xiao Wu said that her ex-boyfriend was a "mother boy", and it was easy to give up when he encountered a small problem, and he didn't take responsibility.

Little things accumulated. Although she was constantly compromising, the two broke up when they were about to get married, which made her very hurt, so she was determined not to look for "mabaonan".

"Mom's baby boy" intensifies the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

Make girls feel insecure

　　Wang Hui, deputy director of the Women's Research and Development Center of Shandong Women's University and dean of the Family Research Institute, believes that "Ma Baonan" does not have his own independent thinking and understanding, but takes his mother's decision and mother's will as his own decision and will. In China, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been in a relatively tense state. After the combination of girls and "mabaonan", the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may intensify, and "mabaonan" cannot treat his lover well, resulting in many girls lack of safety sense.

　　Wang Hui said, "'Mom's baby boy' still appears in the mind of the baby, not only listening to the mother's words, but whether it is right or wrong and has no ability to judge whether the mother is right or wrong.

　　"Mama Baonan" is more and more disliked by the female group. How can they change and adjust their own problems?

Wang Hui said that the character of "Mom's Treasure" can be changed, but it will be difficult for an adult, requiring both mother and child to change at the same time.