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The binomial that unites men and

still jars many , ignoring the fact that it is possible to feed a baby with formula milk and that, surely, such leave can be dedicated to other care (of the many that a family with children needs).

This is the case of

who in 2016 committed the "boldness" of asserting his rights in order to take his eldest son to school while his wife cared for his second newborn daughter.

He did, although it did not come for free.

His testimony now acquires special relevance because a few days ago the news broke that the Supreme Court recognized another father's right to enjoy breastfeeding leave even if the minor's mother did not work.

Her company, claiming that she could take care of the baby, denied it, which triggered the judicialization of the conflict.

The Social Chamber of the Court, therefore, issued a ruling that

, while "disconnecting it from motherhood", insofar as the Law does not impose that the mother must enjoy it or that it disappear if one of the parents is unemployed.

Another of the aspects observed was that "co-

advises a favorable interpretation to the indistinct exercise of the right".

Article

establishes that with this permit, one hour of absence from work is enjoyed until the baby is nine months old, or a reduction of half an hour, or the accumulation in the equivalent of whole days.

This option, in general conditions, supposes about 15 days in addition to maternity and paternity leaves.

Nursing leave is not transferable and can be enjoyed by either parent,

"I'm not a super dad"

Nacho Caballero

(Madrid, 47 years old) studied Political Science and is currently a writer, trainer and 'storyteller', occupations that allow him to take care of his children

, in conditions of co-responsibility.

In his old company, this task was an impossible mission, with very long hours that did not leave room for much else.

Now, he prefers to do without great luxuries if, in exchange, he can be where he wants: taking care of his own.

"In 2014 my first child was born and with him I already asked for 15 days of vacation and the 13 that corresponded to me for paternity at that time," he explains.

He, with 20 years of experience in his company and a managerial position, saw how his bosses barely accommodated that request, but he was clear that

"Later, when my daughter was born, I went a step further and also applied for a nursing permit. I wanted to use it to take the eldest to school and my wife was at home with the baby," he recalls.

His decisions generated tensions in his company, which ended in a

Caballero is an exception and, in fact, in his environment he is the only case of a parent who has exercised the right to breastfeed.

So much so that he had "friends who did not even complete the 13 days of paternity leave claiming that they were essential in his work."

"I imagine there are some out there having a hard time with the current four months of leave," he says sarcastically.

He does not regret it and insists: "I am not the typical intense gentleman, who goes with his children perched nor am I a super father. What I have done is normal.

, nor my work nor my hobbies, but my father He was a waiter and our life was lost. We lacked nothing, but we lacked him," he says.

'I am not typical', precisely, is the title of one of his books that, together with 'Couple and team', gathers his vision on parenting, co-responsibility and the family.

And he throws another dart: "If you can't or don't want to take care of your children,

."

Courtesy Nacho Caballero

He does not share the discourse that avoids individual responsibility: "At some moments you have to risk it. You cannot wait all the time for the laws to support you."

It refers to choosing a life model that allows conciliation and looking for it wherever it is.

"

and I haven't come back into the fold of working 40-hour weeks for anyone," he says flatly.

Caballero does not agree with the model of working more and

of their children, nor of

of their grandchildren."

He acknowledges that this approach to life is not understood by everyone and that yes,

: "You have no choice but to make an ERE of friends," he jokes.

And it ends with an anecdote that is in itself a paradox: "Years ago I was invited to a round table on conciliation that

also attended . It was at 7:30 p.m., on a Thursday! I didn't go, of course."

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