From Xia Donghai to Hu Yingjun, what are the "dream dads" of each generation?

　　China News Service, Beijing, June 19 (Liu Yue) Today is the annual Father's Day.

Admiration and natural nature make us have the same respect and love for "father", and the different growth environment of each person causes us to have different longings for "father".

　　Some people think that a father's love is like a mountain, and the head of the family must be unsmiling, steady and reliable; some people yearn for the kindness and compassion, and feel that this is the best template for a father; some people hope that they can become a "big friend" who can get along with their children... Then, in In the eyes of people of different ages, what kind of father can be called a "dream dad"?

Screenshot of "Family with Children"

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　　For Jun Jun, a primary school student who is still in the first grade, "the best dad" is not a well-understood concept.

The immature little girl tried to express herself with the characters in the cartoon: "I don't like the father in "Dinosaur King", he said that his son is useless, if the father says that the child is useless, it is very bad, and he should care about the child. "

　　"The father in "Big Ear Tutu" is very good, and the small head father is also very good. They will reason with the child and respect the child's ideas." The little girl murmured in a milky voice: "But they are still not comparable. My own father."

Screenshot of "Big Ear Tutu"

　　In Jun Jun's eyes, his father is a towering tree that is stable and reliable: "My father is a very good father. He worked hard and made us a lot of money and bought us rice to eat. When I was sick, my father He will take my temperature, pour me warm water, give me antipyretic patches, and take care of me."

　　"I like a kind father, a brave father, and a very hard father."

Junjun and his father take a photo.

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　　It is also my father's little padded jacket. Compared with the innocent and pampered sister Jun Jun, my sister Xiao Chen's expectations for "father" are completely different.

　　"I feel that my dad raised me as a boy." Xiao Chen dresses neutrally and has short, refreshing hair. He has been on his own since he was a child. He is the "child of someone else" in the eyes of the neighbors.

Such an independent and dashing girl, the "best dad" image in her mind comes from a girly love anime with pink bubbles: "When I was a child, I watched an anime called "Guardian Sweetheart", in which the heroine's father was close to My ideal father is a slave to his daughter. He will praise his daughter unconditionally and give her confidence."

Screenshot of "Guardian Sweetheart"

　　If replaced by the screen image that the audience is more familiar with, Xia Donghai in "Family with Children" and Fang Yuan in "Little Farewell" are closer to Xiao Chen's description.

In big matters, she can help her daughter decide the direction of her life. In small matters, she pampers her daughter, and at the same time guards against all the "stinky boys" who are close to her.

　　This is the fatherly love that Xiao Chen longs for, but the reality is exactly the opposite of the ideal: "My father's education method is the opposite, and because of this, I hope that the ideal father should be mature and stable, and can give children confidence."

Screenshot of "Little Farewell"

　　Compared with other girls, Xiao Chen didn't have a princess car, pleated skirt and long melancholy hair during adolescence. Her father raised her as a boy and believed in "suppressive education".

The burden of the family fell on her young shoulders prematurely. One thing she remembered for many years: "Our family used to be a botanical garden, and I needed to carry the goods with my father. At that time, the plants we carried were taller than people. , nearly 1.7 meters, no elevator, abruptly lifted to the 7th floor, this happened when I was in junior high school."

　　Later, Xiao Chen went to school in the northeast, which is thousands of miles away, and there is no need to do heavy physical work in school.

"One time during the summer vacation, my father and I carried gas to the roof of our house, and I was particularly weak. He kept joking me and said, you might as well carry plants up to the 7th floor with me when you were in junior high school. "

　　Fortunately, the arrival of the second sister, Jun Jun, made the middle-aged daughter's father become softer: "Dad has a second growth. Now he is much better, and he cares more about me."

Xiao Chen picks mangoes with his father and sister.

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　　Today's Xiao Chen has already become a young man who is "on the shoulders of the wind and rain", but it seems that we can still see the girl who once longed to be treated gently in her long youth from her casual and relaxed narrative, at a loss as to what to do shadow.

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"Caring about love, a little more patience"

　　Interestingly, the next interviewee, Mr. Ou, happens to be a "daughter slave".

　　The little girl is six years old this year. She looks like a glutinous rice cake, and has the nickname "cake".

When talking about his daughter, Mr. Ou is both doting and helpless: "In front of my daughter, I am dignified but not majestic, kind and not kind enough, it's embarrassing."

A group photo of Mr. Ou and his daughter.

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　　Mr. Ou and his wife are childhood sweethearts from school uniforms to wedding dresses. In terms of family education, the two have a clear division of labor, one sings the white face and the other sings the red face.

He laughed and said that after his daughter made a mistake, she usually confessed to her father, because "her mother is fiercer than me".

Once, my daughter took Mr. Ou's important information and scribbled it. After being murdered, he was very aggrieved. Looking at his daughter's pitiful sample, Mr. Ou could only admit it.

　　"There is only one way for me to clean up my daughter, basically raising the volume to scare her, and I won't do it." Mr. Ou likes Deng Chao's father Ma Haowen in "Galaxy Tutorial": "The relationship between their father and son is very touching, He trusted his son a lot, was always encouraging, patient, and a good father."

Screenshot of "Galaxy Tutorial".

Drawing Liu Yue

　　"Patience" is the key word for the best father in Mr. Ou's mind, but he thinks he still needs to practice: "Occasionally I can't control my temper. If I ask my daughter to do something, she will never go. If you do, if you don't obey, my patience is not enough, I will start to kill her, and I have not done a good job in guiding the child."

　　As a novice father born in the 1980s, Mr. Ou also self-examined the reasons for his lack of patience: "Compared with the previous generation, fathers born in the 1980s want to try to enter their children's lives, participate in their children's learning, and are willing to listen to their children's ideas. But when I get home from get off work, I often use my mobile phone for entertainment, I don’t have good self-control and patience, and I don’t set a good example for my children.”

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"Companionship is the longest confession of love"

　　Xiao Lu, a post-00s boy who just finished the college entrance examination, has similar movie viewing tastes to Mr. Ou's post-80s, and he also likes Ma Haowen in "Galaxy Tutorial": "He was imprisoned because of an accident and missed the child's growth. My dad is more similar. Because of his busy work, my dad spent less time at home when I was young, but later he would always be by my side and solve many difficulties for me, just like the dad in "Galaxy Tutorial"."

　　Xiao Lu and his father are father and son as well as friends. The two talked about everything. They cheered excitedly in the football auditorium together, cooperated tacitly on the basketball court together, and winked together in front of the runaway mother.

After the college entrance examination, the father and son stayed up in the middle of the night, sitting on the balcony and drinking beer. The hearty laughter was as pleasant as the cold beer.

Xiao Lu and his father drink and make skewers.

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　　"For children, I don't deny that material support is very important, but I think company should be more important than material." In Xiao Lu's view, company is the most affectionate confession: "I like being with me very much. Dad was hanging around. He would play basketball with me, pass me the ball, encourage me if I didn’t score, praise me if I scored, keep passing me, keep assisting me, and that moved me.”

　　According to the standard of "best father" in his mind, Xiao Lu gave his father Lao Lu 80 points, and the 20 points deducted were due to his father's strength: "My father likes to help me plan my life, but I don't like this kind of thing very much. way, but sometimes he follows my advice, so I think he's a good dad."

　　Xiao Lu, who has just entered adulthood, began to draw inferences from other facts and draw a blueprint for his future life: "First of all, I will respect the wishes of my son or daughter, and it will be their safe haven. Even if they are rebellious, I will try my best to be a good father. ."

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"Tell your son that responsibility is important"

　　Regarding the deducted 20 points, Xiao Lu's father, Lao Lu, shook his head helplessly, raising a child is difficult: "The best father should be responsible for society and the family, and be strict with himself."

　　Lao Lu admires the hero Chris Gardner in the movie "When Happiness Comes Knocking": "In the face of despair and adversity, he can be optimistic and enterprising, shoulder the responsibility of the family on his shoulders, and finally let his children live a happy life. a happy life.”

Screenshot of "When Happiness Comes Knocking".

Drawing Liu Yue

　　As a post-70s born under the red flag and growing up in the spring breeze, Lao Lu has a traditional and strict father: "My father's people were more traditional in that era, he was very strict, and I hardly felt his kindness when I was a child."

　　Therefore, Lao Lu neither believes in the violent method of "a filial son from the stick", nor does he like a free education that is completely free-range. "Strict and kindness" is his policy: "My position is to be both a loving father and a strict one. Father. At the same time, we must urge him to be motivated, ambitious, and pursue, and also hope to be a father and friend with the child, who can speak his heart.”

Lao Lu drove his son home.

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　　Why interfere with a child's growth?

Lao Lu believes that the information explosion in modern society, and the information that children have access to on the Internet is mixed, so it is necessary to speak up from time to time.

He will take his son to watch "Changjin Lake" to cultivate patriotic enthusiasm, and he will also forward social news to the family group, reminding his son to be an upright and good person.

　　Speaking of which, Lao Lu shared an interesting anecdote that made him laugh and cry.

Xiao Lu has been very fond of girls since he was a child. After the college entrance examination, a female classmate called Lao Lu's mobile phone: "I was shocked, thinking that my son did something wrong to other girls."

　　The girl on the phone said in a crying voice that because she had done some drastic actions to Xiao Lu, now Xiao Lu ignored her and wanted to ask Old Lu to talk to her.

After hearing this, Old Lu immediately asked his son. Although he later learned that it was a misunderstanding, he still warned Xiao Lu repeatedly that a man must never bully a girl.

　　"There are too many temptations in the society now. Without the guidance of elders, young people are easy to learn badly. It is what a father should do to discipline his son well, and he emphasizes the importance of responsibility and responsibility. I hope that my son will grow into an indomitable man. man."

It's hard to leave, I want to hold tighter

The vast life is like a wilderness

As a child can lie on the shoulders of daddy

who's going to get off

　　As Eason Chan sang in "Bike", in this journey of life, we sit on the shoulders of our father and walk forward, but one day, we will also become the arms of others.

　　People are made up of memories and futures.

The good or not-so-good memories that our father gave us in childhood will become the nourishment for us to go on.

The so-called "dream dad" is not so much a vision of an ideal father's love, but rather reflects the life we ​​yearn for.

　　Then become a better person than your father.

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