When home office encounters home schooling, we need a little "insensitive force"
When the epidemic hit, the unit announced to work from home, and the school started online teaching.
It is rare for adults and children to gather at home 24 hours a day. Is this unexpected "parent-child time" a surprise or a shock?
Is the parent-child relationship becoming more harmonious, or is life and work a double crit?
As a working mom who has been working from home for 2 months, I can't say enough.
In the past, "flexible work" and "work from home" were all words of "high-level", and people in the workplace wrote their yearnings on their faces.
Unexpectedly, an epidemic made me "dream come true" by surprise.
However, when working from home meets school at home, it can be a sour taste.
Working from home is also work, and you should do as much as you can; online classes are not just classes, but if you really want to go to school, you need to pay for your mother.
Especially for children in the lower grades, who have poor self-control ability and no experience in online classes, and suddenly start online classes, it is called a situation.
For a while, he shouted: "Mom, I can't hear the teacher's voice!" For a while, he asked anxiously: "Mom, how do you raise your hand to speak, hurry up!" Another moment: "My workbook is missing, help me find it. Come out!" Everything was in a hurry, on the verge of going wild every minute.
At the same time, the child's mother is also at work. Colleagues communicate and leaders explain. Everything needs to be answered in seconds, and no one should be delayed.
As soon as the online class shouted, he wished he could split himself in half.
In the past, it was enough to send the child to school, but now he has to become a 24-hour learning assistant.
Not only to assist in online classes, but also to urge children to do homework, help take photos, and upload videos.
From time to time, panicked parents flashed in the parent group: "Help! Where is the video of art class?" "What homework was assigned in math class today? The baby said he didn't know."
Therefore, it is not difficult to understand why some hotels have launched "online lessons and child care packages" some time ago.
The first reaction of the mothers I know is: a little excited!
If it's just a little busy, it's okay, the key is that the parent-child relationship is still facing severe challenges.
24 hours of seamless intimacy will undoubtedly maximize the strengths and weaknesses of both parties.
When the teacher asks a question in class, why do other children answer, but my child does not raise his hand?
After-school small exercises, why some children are praised by the teacher, but my child is not?
Anxiety continued to build up, and gradually she felt that she was not doing well either.
And the child complained: Mom, you are too long-winded!
go away!
The feeling of being disgusted by looking at each other can be felt quickly after only two or three days at home.
But, calm down and think about it, my child is not perfect, isn't this something I have known for a long time?
As an adult, I can't be the best at everything, and it's normal for a child to have deficiencies in one way or another.
Intimacy between people, especially with children, sometimes requires a little "insensitivity".
The so-called "insensitive force" refers to a dull force.
Don't magnify every detail, don't care about everything, otherwise, it is very likely that you will exhaust your energy in the trivialities of life.
Let go properly to get along happily.
This principle actually applies to both adults and children.
Of course, home life has its troubles and unexpected sweetness.
Online classes have increased my daughter's free time. Seeing her mother doing housework, she will suddenly develop a passion for housework.
Take the initiative to pick up the mop and mop the floor, although you still need the mother to mop it again after mopping; automatically help the mother to choose vegetables, although the selected dishes are very wasteful... However, the child's efforts cannot be denied.
Learning to do housework is also a way for children to explore unknown areas, and it is an expression of their willingness to share labor with their parents.
Maybe not every child is like this, but staying at home gives us an opportunity to step out of the routine and do something that was previously overlooked or difficult to achieve.
For example, some children will fall in love with sports, some children are keen to do handicrafts, and some children spend a lot of time on painting... We might as well take advantage of the situation and let the children take this opportunity to do more interesting things, maybe There will be unexpected gains.
After taking online classes for a while, I discovered a strange thing: after class, the children were reluctant to leave the live broadcast room for a long time. Even if they just listened to a few words from their classmates on the computer, they were very happy.
Children can't express, but I know - it's loneliness.
The same is true for children, and the same for adults.
Being locked in a house for many days without social interaction, people will feel lonely and depressed more or less in their hearts.
Home is not only a concept of space, but also deeply affects all aspects of life.
Both stress and depression tend to strain intimate relationships.
On such a special day, tolerance and mutual support among family members are more needed, less scruples, more forgiveness, and use of "insensitive force" to fill in the potholes in the parent-child relationship.
Source: China Youth Daily