Marriage and love confusion has led to the postponement of the age of first marriage. Can college marriage and love education courses help young people "know more about love"?

  A few days ago, civil affairs departments in many places across the country released the marriage registration data for 2021.

The data show that the average age of first marriage is generally delayed.

Some experts said that the confusion of young people about marriage and love is one of the important reasons for the delay in the average age of first marriage, and the confusion of young people's marriage and love has become a social problem that cannot be ignored.

  In this regard, Zhang Xiaobing, deputy director of the Youth Development Institute of the China Youth Research Center, believes that marriage and love education can be incorporated into the education system of middle and higher education institutions to reduce young people's confusion and even fear of marriage, and guide young people to establish a healthy concept of marriage and love.

Yu Xinwei, member of the National Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference, vice chairman of the Guangzhou Municipal Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference, and chairman of the Guangzhou Municipal Committee of the Revolutionary Committee, also believes that a good marriage and love education course can play a positive educational role in improving the current social problems such as the declining marriage rate.

  At present, some colleges and universities have opened marriage education courses.

Can these marriage education classes help students "know more about love"?

What are the attitudes of the students towards the marriage education class?

The reporter interviewed relevant experts, teachers and students.

Some colleges and universities have opened marriage education courses

  "Currently, there is a lack of education on marriage and love among college students in our country, and their understanding of feelings and sex is still at the level of physical hygiene knowledge. When faced with emotional and love setbacks, it is easy to go out of control and even make extreme behaviors." Yu Xinwei has long been Paying attention to the healthy growth of young people, she called for the establishment and improvement of the value system of marriage and love in colleges and universities, and making marriage and love education a compulsory course for college students.

  At present, some domestic colleges and universities have opened marriage and love education courses, and the courses are mostly in the form of special lectures or electives.

As early as 2013, East China Normal University opened an elective course called "Marriage and Love". The course set 84 people to attend the class, and the actual registration was close to 500; in 2015, Zhengzhou Normal University opened a course "Love Psychology" In 2016, Tianjin University's love course titled "Theory and Practice of Love Studies" was officially launched, which was warmly welcomed by the students; Compulsory course", which is still the school's "popular" elective course...

  In Guangdong, there are also some colleges and universities that offer love courses.

For example, Guangdong University of Foreign Studies offers the course "Psychology of Love".

Lingnan Normal University offers special lectures on marriage and love and elective courses on marriage and love in the mental health education course of college students. The mental health education and counseling center also pushes articles on marriage and love education through its official account to provide counseling services for students' love troubles.

  Love online courses have also attracted a lot of attention.

The elective course "Psychology of Love" offered by the School of Public Administration of China University of Mining and Technology has more than one million hits on the MOOC platform; after Zhang Xiaowen, a teacher from Wuhan University of Technology, put her "Psychology of Love" course on the MOOC platform, the number of people who took the course Nearly 20,000 people; from 2018 to 2020, the "Psychology of Love" lectured by Chen Qishan, associate professor of South China Normal University, was launched on the online platform from time to time, and the course was widely praised.

  Associate Professor Shen Yifei, director of the Family Development Research Center of Fudan University, also gave a lecture titled "Why is it So Difficult to Get Rid of a Single - Hot Love and Cold Marriage from the Perspective of Sociology".

This less than 100-minute lecture was made into a video and uploaded to the Internet, garnering millions of views.

Some netizens commented "It's so good", "I'm here to listen to knowledge, it doesn't matter if I can't get off the list", "If only I had seen this video earlier" and so on.

Some students are looking forward to the love class, and some students are worried about the burden of the course

  The popularity of the course reflects the needs of college students for marriage and love education.

In 2020, the China Youth University Media launched a questionnaire survey on 1,028 college students across the country.

The survey results show that 88.23% of college students support the opening of love courses in universities.

Among them, how to resolve the conflicts and differences in love and how to face the end of the relationship are the contents that college students most hope to learn in love class.

  "I support setting up love courses in universities, so that you can learn about love, such as psychology, interpersonal skills, etc." said Yu Xing, a student from a university in Guangzhou who is in love, "'Sweet love' often Along with 'a touch of sadness', conflicts and frictions will inevitably be encountered in the relationship. If two people let their emotions develop without knowing how to deal with them correctly, both parties will be hurt in the relationship and eventually break up. Lessons may teach us how to properly deal with emotional issues.”

  "I think there should be a love class. Now many young people neither know what love is nor how to express it." said Lin Ye, a student from a college in Guangzhou who is currently in his freshman year. The media marketing account is "brainwashed", and the pursuit standards and expectations of love partners are too high. Relevant courses can give young students correct guidance on marriage and love.

  But some students think that when love becomes a "course", love may become a burden.

  Although Zhang Qi, who is currently studying in a university in Guangzhou, hopes to fall in love, he still hopes to focus on his studies at this stage.

He said: "The task of university courses is not easy. If you add another course, the pressure will be even heavier. If you don't get good grades, it will affect your grades, so I don't support it."

  And Xiaolai, who doesn't want to fall in love at present, thinks: "I don't think it is necessary to change everyone's view of love through courses. Love is very subjective to everyone and cannot be conveyed to everyone through so-called objective knowledge."

  In addition, there are some students who think that setting up love classes is a good thing in itself, but not all teachers are suitable for classes, and inappropriate classes may be "disadvantaging".

"I think how to determine the qualifications of teachers and the purpose of teaching is a big problem. Teachers in other disciplines may be doing research in related fields, but how can teachers in love courses do research? How to know if the teacher is suitable for this course? What? And I feel that there is no absolute right or wrong in a relationship, so it’s hard to tell clearly.” Another student Zhang said.

 The formation of the concept of marriage and love is a systematic project

  "The formation of the concept of marriage and love is a systematic project, which is formed by interaction in many aspects." Zhang Jiangxing, director of the Center for Mental Health Education of Jinan University, said that from the perspective of pedagogy, there are three major factors that affect the formation of an individual's concept of marriage and love: Physiological factors , environmental factors and individual subjective initiative.

If you want to cultivate students' correct concept of love, an education system built by multiple systems is necessary.

  "At present, college students basically do not receive systematic and comprehensive education on marriage and love. Some college students are troubled by emotional problems, and the consequences are more serious, ranging from abandoning their studies and future, to breaking the law and committing crimes." Yu Xinwei said that he hoped that colleges and universities will open The marriage and love class imparts systematic knowledge of marriage and love to college students, such as choosing a partner, getting along with husband and wife, and having children, cultivating them a correct view of love and marriage, and promoting their future marriage and love and happiness in life.

  "I think marriage and love education courses are helpful in improving college students' ability to recognize love, express love, maintain love, and deal with lovelorn. But for specific problems in love, pure theoretical courses may have little effect." Lingnan Normal University Psychology Lu Yiying, director of the Health Education and Counseling Center, said that the marriage and love course can set up experiential or practical courses to help college students feel love, practice love, and promote them to form a correct view of love.

  Zhang Jiangxing also mentioned that the school has set up a compulsory course for love, but the family education and social influence are not in place, and it is still difficult to achieve a beautiful vision.

"I think this work requires the participation of all teachers to consciously cultivate students' psychological reflection ability and improve their mentalization level, so as to help them make choices in marriage and love and protect themselves."

  Yangcheng Evening News reporter Sun Wei Chen Liang intern Lu Chaoqing