Life is inseparable from firewood, rice, oil and salt, but don't lose yourself to go to graduate school at the age of 48. She is recognized by her classmates as a dormitory aunt
While playing the role of a mother, 49-year-old Xie Changhong did not forget to pick her own star. She embarked on the road to graduate school and relived campus life.
A year ago, a topic discussing age anxiety brought Xie Changhong into everyone's field of vision.
She did not expect that a message "I'm almost 50, I will go to graduate school this year, I hope to inspire everyone" will touch so many netizens and make her on the hot search.
Now, Xie Changhong is drawing and weaving her dreams and enjoying this rare study time.
She wants to tell those mothers who are ordinary women like her that although life is indispensable, don't lose yourself.
A little girl in my heart
When the reporter dialed Xie Changhong's WeChat voice, there was a burst of hearty laughter from the other end of the phone.
Xie Changhong is at home in Dehui City, Changchun.
Because of the epidemic, the school suspended offline classes. For more than two months, she has been taking online classes at home.
Xie Changhong, 49 years old this year, was admitted to Changchun Normal University as a full-time postgraduate student last year.
In the first half of the first semester of graduate school, Xie Changhong got along very well with her roommates and classmates, except that she was mistaken for an auntie dormitory by some classmates when she checked in, and was mistaken for a teacher by undergraduates when she was walking around the classroom.
In the eyes of many of her post-90s classmates, Xie Changhong, who is almost 50 years old, is not much different from them.
In the first semester of her research, she went home twice, and the rest of the time she lived in the dormitory, ate in the cafeteria, went to the library, and did her homework.
In her spare time, she also goes out shopping, eating and playing with her girlfriends.
"I also agree with young people's concept of life, and I can understand the Internet language they use."
"Graduate life is completely unfamiliar to me. Maybe I'm not the same as most women of the same age. I'm more childish." Xie Changhong said that one of her classmates was born in 1989. Ten years older.
This classmate commented on Xie Changhong: It seems that she has not been tempered by society and is very well protected. "I can see a little girl's things on her."
Of course, no one can stop aging, and Xie Changhong has already realized the traces that the carving knife of time has carved on her body.
After studying for a long time, she will suffer from back pain, and her eyesight has also declined sharply. Now her myopia has reached more than 1,000 degrees.
When she was a graduate student, Xie Changhong once thought about going for a doctorate, but the trouble with her eyes made her shaken.
Years are also good, that is, she is more aware of what she wants: to experience school life, to absorb knowledge.
Xie Changhong said that this made her never relax in her studies.
"I dare not say that I am the hardest working person in the class, but it is similar. I want to make my graduation certificate valuable." In the first semester of the first semester, Xie Changhong scored 85 points or more in 8 subjects in 10 courses.
A real home for learning
Xie Changhong enjoyed the campus life of returning to the university in her golden age.
For the past few decades, this has been out of her reach.
Xie Changhong was born in a village in Yushu City, Changchun in 1972. She took the college entrance examination in 1993. Under the advice of her school teacher, she applied for medical school. After graduation, she was assigned to a public hospital in Yushu City.
But she was not interested in the hospital in school. She is left-handed and is not good at doing delicate operations.
After graduation, she was assigned to the hospital, and she resigned during the internship period.
Since then, Xie Changhong has lived the life of an ordinary housewife, taking care of the family while looking for a job as a teacher in a training class.
Xie Changhong's family of three likes to study. Her family's daily life is as she recorded on August 22, 2021. The child is studying psychology, her husband is watching physics video lectures, and she is studying grammar at station B. "The real home of learning !"
During the five years of university experience in the early years, the courses I took were not my favorite. At that time, I was young and playful, and it passed quickly.
Looking back, full of regrets.
Xie Changhong came up with the idea of returning to campus to study, but felt it was unrealistic.
The turnaround came from her son.
In 2020, the child is preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination, and she is also advised to take the test.
"He said that I have been studying all these years, and I will definitely be admitted." With the encouragement of the child, Xie Changhong was tempted.
In the first half of 2020, because of the epidemic, the children were at home.
Xie Changhong set up two tables in the small attic at home.
One for the child, one for her, and the mother and two supervised each other and began to prepare for the exam.
The total score of 400 points surprised Xie Changhong and entered the re-examination, but because her son did not pass the exam, she was not ecstatic.
Her story was on the hot search, and many people contacted her.
Some came to attract traffic to her, and some came to her to shoot commercials, bring goods, and suggested that she make a video and become an internet celebrity.
Xie Changhong refused.
"I'm sorry, I just want to study hard, I'm not interested in those. The postgraduate entrance examination was originally a meaningful thing for me, not to make money."
make room for yourself
During the postgraduate entrance examination, she wrote a signature in the WeChat Moments: Go to the unreachable star!
When she was in graduate school, she had the idea of pursuing a Ph.D., but she also had to consider reality.
Eye degree is a problem, energy is a problem, and family members need to take care of it is also a problem.
Xie Changhong's lover is in her 50s this year. She only went home twice last semester. The lover told her that she didn't feel anything after leaving, but now she feels very lonely, and it's too uncomfortable to be at home alone.
"My parents are also getting older, and it would be pitiful to leave them at home."
After graduation, Xie Changhong will most likely return to the small city of Dehui and return to her original life.
She said that she has no regrets. In her whole life, it is enough to have this unrepeatable stage. "It's a very beautiful thing to think back."
In March of this year, my son finally ushered in good news for the postgraduate entrance examination for World War II. He successfully landed and was admitted to Zhejiang Technology and Business University.
Xie Changhong was very happy. In the second half of the year, when the child went to report, their mother and son were going to go to graduate school at the same time.
Then, the child's love also came to an end, and she was engaged. Xie Changhong specially posted on the circle of friends, saying that she was getting closer and closer to being a mother-in-law.
She has a new plan to take over her grandson's education in the future.
This is Xie Changhong's attitude towards life, life is very trivial, she can't completely ignore the firewood, rice, oil and salt in her life, but within the scope of what she can, she still has to choose the lifestyle she likes.
On Mother's Day, she wanted to tell mothers like her that in day-to-day life, don't lose yourself and set aside a few minutes to live for yourself.
Reporter Shi Peilei Gao Guangchao