Don't be afraid of the truth, just be afraid of dog blood
Identification object: "Dear Child"
Broadcasting platform: CCTV8, iQiyi
From watching the first 5 episodes in one breath, watching it for 10 minutes now feels like sitting on pins and needles, "Dear Child" is completely unfinished in my heart.
Just a few days after the show started, it was caught up in the controversy over whether it was creating "marriage anxiety" and "fertility anxiety".
But to my years of experience and wild observers of marriage, the first few episodes are the best of the show.
This essence comes from its high reduction of ordinary married life.
How good was the show at the beginning?
Until the husband Xiao Lu played by Qin Hao cheated, I, as a female audience, could not be strongly dissatisfied with him.
In fact, at that time, I could even understand every character in the play, whether it was a slightly strong wife, a husband who wanted to do everything well but couldn't do everything well, or a mother-in-law who had a sense of superiority, and a sloppy wife. The old husband, the mother-in-law who lacks civilization and habits... Even I have no ill will towards the brother-in-law who opens his mouth and stretches out his hand - he is just a child spoiled by a widowed mother, such a person is rare in life. Well, anyway, life will give him a beating sooner or later.
Overall, the beginning of "Dear Child" was nothing more than a group of ordinary people, all kinds of ordinary things that happened around the key event of a small family welcoming a new baby.
Many people feel that it creates anxiety, which is precisely because of this-isn't it just giving birth to a baby?
As for getting a jerk or even a divorce?
But what "Dear Child" tells you is: it's possible.
Even student lovers who know each other well like Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu in the play may still face a concentrated outbreak of various conflicts after they get married and have children.
Marriage, parenting, and the relationship between small and large families are not as simple.
The positive significance of mother-in-law dramas is to create a sense of reality: if you haven't encountered it, you should preview it, and if you encounter it, you will just substitute other roles in the family to achieve mutual understanding between family members.
Like the first three episodes of "Dear Child", Fang Yinuo, played by Ren Suxi, fully demonstrated the state of a new mother: the exhaustion and anxiety day after day made her unavoidably over-stressed in all kinds of things, and she was also very nervous. It is easy to spread grievances and anger on the clumsy and disserviceable husband.
If some reliable male viewers watched it, they might have a little more understanding and distress for the breastfeeding wife, and try to avoid repeating the mistakes of Xiao Lu - the latter always wanted to escape, and finally made a mistake accidentally event, which eventually led to the loss of the marriage.
It is a pity that this huge advantage of the simple but profound restoration of the reality of life was completely lost at the moment when Zhu Zhu, Xiao Lu's cheating object, made a scene for his daughter's birthday banquet in the play.
From then on, the plot began to run wildly in the direction of dog blood.
The level of humanity in the characters has also become bleak, and the protagonists have gradually become the ones that the audience hates.
For example, after being labeled as a "little three", Zhu Zhu, a lady girl, suddenly changed from being considerate to being a stalker.
Another example is Xie Tianhua played by Nie Yuan, who was labeled as a "spare tire". In order to set off the selfishness and cowardice of the "bad man" Xiao Lu, he was selfless to the point of creeping people.
Many people even began to hate Fang Yinuo, their sympathetic heroine at first, wondering if "Ren Suxi is not suitable for this role".
I really feel bad for her.
Take a look at the latest plot arranged for her by the screenwriter: consider killing the child with her current husband Xie Tianhua, and then have a child with her ex-husband.
Even if it was a helpless act to save his daughter in the play, it was too far beyond the bottom line of human relations that ordinary people could bear. Who wouldn't take a breath after watching it?
Can you blame the actors for this?
After all, "Dear Child" could have been a rare masterpiece of realism.
Focusing on the theme of fertility, it realistically presents the perspective of every member of the Chinese family, especially calling for the society's understanding and concern for breastfeeding women. The audience resonance that was finally established before was taken back alive.
Heck, what's the point of this.
I decided to quit the show.
Text / Li Li