Every third day a woman is killed by her partner or ex-partner in Germany.

Every other day someone tries.

How many times do you think you have read these sentences?

Often.

Almost too often, so often that they seem a little less threatening, less bad, and almost commonplace.

And indeed, assaults by men are commonplace for many women.

Sexual harassment on the street or on the train, intrusive messages from the guy you briefly dated, unsolicited nude photos in dating apps - or open threats of violence, actual violence, stalking, manslaughter, murder.

It is called femicide when a woman is killed by her husband because of false claims of ownership, in short: because she is a woman.

Johanna Dürrholz

Editor at the Frankfurter Allgemeine Magazin

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The numbers you saw above are indeed everyday, grim reality.

And yet the signs of this violence are often ignored across the board.

There are famous examples of men who killed their wives, and no one was actually surprised by the escalating violence: Phil Spector, for example, who invented the Wall of Sound (can be heard, for example, on George Harrison's album "All Things Must Pass") , killed his wife in 2003, so in 2009 he was convicted of manslaughter.

To this day he is revered as a musical genius.

And before the murder was considered a choleric who treated women badly.

His previous wife, a former member of the Ronettes, had filed for divorce in 1972 and claimed to have been abused and psychologically tortured by Spector.

She also wrote about the horrors of marriage in a 1990 biography.

An interesting phenomenon that often accompanies such femicides perpetrated by artists: the men are viewed as mad geniuses.

"Dangerous Genius" called him "Pychology Today", on the page "Vulture"" there is talk of a "music hero" who has turned into a "monster".

Nobody talks about the victims of these crazy but brilliant artists anymore, they are just victims, and then only women.

Back to the present: we too are witnessing public attacks by a man directed against his ex-wife.

We're talking about rapper Ye, formerly Kanye West, who has been trying to win back his former wife Kim Kardashian for months.

The two became a couple in 2012, married in 2014 and divorced that year.

They have four children.

Now there have been signs for some time that the marriage may not have been going well recently.

So Ye lived on two ranches in Wyoming, where he also recorded music, and Kardashian stayed in California with her children.

"When we lived apart, we hit it off best," Kardashian later said on her reality show.

"And that's sad." Ye also later admitted to cheating on Kardashian.

So now Kardashian was filing for divorce, and while West has repeatedly said he wants his kids back or tweeted that the Kardashians want to "lock him up," he's kept reasonably quiet by his standards (West is creditable for his erratic behavior online famous).

Until Kim Kardashian introduced a new partner, comedian Pete Davidson.

A rival for West, who immediately began working on Kardashian's new partner.

He calls him "Skete," a derogatory term for a thin, white, promiscuous person.

He publicly stated again and again that he wanted Kim back, he wanted his family, his old life back.

Even while he was still dating actress Julia Fox.

Public stalking

What may have passed as romantic at the beginning developed more and more into public stalking, bullying and general assault.

For example, West posted private messages sent to him by Pete Davidson, in which Davidson offered to meet him and expressed his wish that one day they would all get along well.

West wrote that this would certainly never, ever happen.

To be fair, Davidson West provoked before.

When he asked "Where are you?" he answered: "In your bed".

But apart from that, his messages, in which he vowed not to meet West's children until he agreed, are testament to Davidson's attempts to smooth things over.