"A full-time mother, is it a sweetheart or a helpless move?"

  Hugo once said: "Women are fragile, but mothers are strong."

  When a woman becomes a mother, she becomes a warm harbor for her children, guarding them to thrive.

  But when the word "mom" is preceded by a "full-time",

  When the identity of a mother becomes a "professional",

  How much hardship and suffering are hidden in it, who knows?

01

Shame, shame on having kids at home?

  "Our Marriage" was a hit recently.

  In the play, Bai Baihe's full-time mother Shen Huixing is a top student at a famous university.

When she graduated, she chose to go into marriage.

  When asked: Who should be the full-time father or mother of the husband and wife?

  Shen Huixing felt that the reason why she became a "full-time mother" was "because I did a better job".

  But the words of others stinged her, "How embarrassing would a man be if he took children at home every day?"

  The question is, some people in today's society think that:

  "It's shameful for a man to have a child, and it is only right for a woman to have a child."

  Weird!

Image source: Official Weibo of the TV series "Our Marriage"

  Shen Huixing asked her husband that night, if her husband was a full-time father at home and she went out to work, would he be willing?

  My husband's first reaction was, "Yes, how easy it is to eat soft rice!"

Screenshot of the plot of the TV series "Our Marriage"

  Later, her husband also praised her for her good housekeeping.

  Although, Shen Huixing knew that her husband's words were just joking.

But it can also be seen that most men's attitude towards stay-at-home mothers.

  The fallacy of "shame" arises when the effort is not recognized.

  Please admit: take care of the healthy growth of children, keep the family in good order, cook sweet and delicious meals, honor parents and be thoughtful...

  Such a full-time mother is no more shameful than any professional.

02

Economic independence, how far is it?

  In "Our Marriage", there is another story that is very touching.

  Full-time mother Jiang Jing "accidentally" twisted her foot while practicing Pilates.

Shen Huixing took the other party to the hospital. The doctor said that the injury was not serious, so there was no need to worry too much.

  But Jiang Jing insisted on putting on a plaster.

  On the way back, Shen Huixing inexplicably asked the other party's purpose for doing so.

Jiang Jing said that the child will go abroad to participate in activities in a while, and she hopes that parents can accompany the child instead of her.

  Comet Shen is even more puzzled: what does this have to do with casting?

Why can't I tell my husband directly?

Screenshot of the plot of the TV series "Our Marriage"

  Jiang Jing explained: "It's okay to spend money on children. If you spend it on yourself, you have to find an excuse. If you spend money on your parents' family, it's just like a beggar who asks for money."

  Weird!

  In Korea, someone specially created a new word - "mother bug".

  "Mom" consists of English "mom" + Korean "bug".

Because in Korea, worms have the meaning of lower animals.

  The term is now used to demean a full-time mother who has no income, relies exclusively on her husband, and takes care of her children at home.

  There is such a scene in the Korean bestseller "Jin Zhiying in 1982":

  Jin Zhiying took her child to rest in the park, and while the child was sleeping, she sat on a bench and slowly enjoyed a cup of coffee, but heard the office worker beside her whispering, "I really want to use the money that Mr. Drinking coffee, hanging out all day... 'Mummy' is so lucky..."

  Jin Zhiying didn't expect that he risked his life to give birth to a child, and even gave up everything such as work, dreams, etc., in exchange for such a description from others.

  She shouted to her husband angrily: "Am I not even qualified to drink a cup of coffee for 1,500 yuan (about 8 yuan)?"

  Some people say that economic independence can lead to personality independence.

  The stay-at-home mother has become someone who "stretches out his hand for money" because he has no income.

  But they have also worked hard. Why is it expensive to hire a nanny, but a full-time mother must pay for it for free?

  Giving full-time mothers the income they deserve from work can ease their anxiety and allow them to engage in this "occupation" with greater peace of mind.

  Make "full-time" no longer just a modifier.

03

Returning to the workplace, the road is long and difficult

  Some people may think that it is too far away to wait until the day when full-time mothers are "paid".

  If you want financial independence, you still have to go out to work.

  Then, she will face a new predicament.

  You may not know how hard it is for stay-at-home moms to return to work these days?

Screenshot of the plot of the TV series "Our Marriage"

  Although Shen Huixing graduated from a famous university, because of his early marriage and no work experience, it is even more difficult for him to work.

  She knew that the 6-year blank period made herself uncompetitive in the workplace, so she lowered her requirements and wanted to start as an intern, but she was not considered for such a position.

  Shen Huixing encountered obstacles everywhere in her job search. She didn't understand why she couldn't even apply for an intern?

Screenshot of the plot of the TV series "Our Marriage"

  At this time, a word from a friend woke her up: in the eyes of the employer, full-time mothers already have a choice between work and family, and women who choose family will be acquiesced in not going all out at work.

  With such a label, a full-time mother is struggling to move forward on the thorny job-hunting road.

  Who understands their difficulties?

  Despite this, even in the face of various difficulties, there are still many women today who devote themselves to the ranks of full-time mothers without hesitation for the sake of their families and children.

  How to keep their contributions from being ignored, and how to make everyone look at them warmly...

  This is a task that families and society need to accomplish together.

  (Source: China News Network Author: Wang Shiyao)