Video of father selling toys with his autistic son goes viral
"Being only his father in this life"
Dialogue with father: I want him to learn the skills of living alone and live on his own
On December 12, a video of a father in Wenjiang District of Chengdu with his son selling toys in the square became popular on the Douyin platform, attracting hundreds of thousands of netizens to watch.
In the video, the father Qianqiang constantly guides and encourages his son Xuanxuan to communicate with strangers.
The Chengdu Commercial Daily-Red Star News reporter learned that the 13-year-old Xuan Xuan is an autistic teenager.
Any trivial matter in life requires him to spend a lot of time, seemingly simple actions, Xuan Xuan still takes a few minutes to complete.
This is the 13th year since the 45-year-old Qianqiang became his father. Speaking of the future, Qianqiang said: "Xuanxuan is my only son. I don't plan to have another child in the future. I will be his father alone." Qianqiang thinks now. What is important is to let the child learn the skills of living alone and how to communicate with strangers as soon as possible, so that he can survive on his own when he and the elderly can no longer take care of his son.
Heartbroken couple
The son has been diagnosed with cerebral palsy, autism, and epilepsy since a few months old.
Autism, cerebral palsy, epilepsy, thalassemia, children encounter any of them, the family can not bear it.
But 13 years ago, these "unfortunate" fell on a Chengdu boy named Xuan Xuan.
In 2008, Xuan Xuan was born.
The arrival of the little baby made this ordinary family full of happiness and laughter.
But when Xuan Xuan was three months old, everyone found that his little hands were always tightly clenched, his neck couldn't stand up, his eyes were stagnant, and he didn't cry like other babies.
Xuan Xuan's overly "behaved" appearance made the family feel that something was wrong, so he decided to take his son to the hospital for examination.
In the end, Xuan Xuan was diagnosed with cerebral palsy.
The moment I learned the news was like a bolt from the blue, full of despair.
Next, when he was one and a half years old, Xuan Xuan was diagnosed with autism again.
It didn't take long for the child to have seizures, which lasted for half an hour every day.
Desperately, when he was 7 years old, Xuan Xuan was diagnosed with thalassemia.
The whole family
Father finds that music therapy helps with recovery
Xuan Xuan started playing piano when he was 5 years old
The disease affected Xuanxuan's growth and the whole family.
1 and a half years old, can’t speak, can’t chew when eating, don’t look at each other, become very emotional, often lose their temper...
In order to provide Xuanxuan with better treatment conditions, Qianqiang went to Chongqing to work alone, eat the worst meals, live in the worst place, and earn money for his son's illness.
Xuanxuan's mother works non-stop with two part-time jobs in Chengdu.
Later, Qian Qiang checked information on the Internet and found that music therapy would be helpful to the recovery of autism.
So when Xuan Xuan was five years old, he decided to let Xuan Xuan begin to touch the piano.
In order to allow Xuan Xuan to learn the piano, Xuan Xuan's grandmother spent more than half a year training and unfolding Xuan Xuan's fingers one by one, and then practicing playing the piano one by one.
After several years of hard work, the family saved some savings. Three years ago, Qianqiang resigned and went home to become a full-time father.
Through the joint efforts of the whole family, Xuan Xuan's autism has gradually improved.
In 2018, Xuan Xuan, who was only 10 years old, also passed the tenth grade piano amateur exam.
This achievement is hard-won, and it is hard to introduce, because of autism, seemingly simple little things in life, it takes a long time for my son to learn.
For example: Xuan Xuan learned to call her father at the age of 5, learned to call her mother at the age of 6, learned to brush her teeth and wash her face in 8 years, and learned to wear clothes and socks in 9 years...
Looking forward to the future
"Just be his father alone,
I hope my son will survive on his own."
Compared with mastering the necessary life skills, children's social skills are equally important.
On December 12, Qianqiang took his son to sell toys in a square in Wenjiang District, Chengdu, attracting a large number of netizens to watch.
In the video, Qianqiang continuously guides and encourages Xuanxuan to communicate with strangers.
Xuan Xuan was also very polite throughout the whole process. When rejected, he was able to deal with it calmly without an emotional explosion; when he sold toys, he would smile happily and his eyes would show light.
"Let him learn to buy and sell things, this is the skill that must be mastered to integrate into the society." Speaking of the reason, Qianqiang feels that only in this way can his children experience the real environment of integrating into the society.
It is understood that such training will be carried out every week. As long as there is time, Qianqiang will bring Xuanxuan to the square and spend an hour or two selling things.
In the video, the camera was held up forcibly, far and near, as if pulling a kite carefully with a string. This scene caused countless strange netizens to break the defense in an instant.
The children are getting older, and the strong sideburns are getting pale day by day. Although Xuan Xuan has made some gains, the strong ones feel that it is not enough.
Instead, the sense of urgency in his heart became stronger and stronger, constantly driving him to speed up his pace.
"Xuan Xuan is my only child. I don't plan to have another child in the future, so I will be his father alone." Qian Qiang said. What he wants now is to let his children learn the skills of living alone as soon as possible, learn how to communicate with strangers, and master Ways to control emotions, so that when he and the elderly can no longer take care of his son, he can survive on his own.
Chengdu Commercial Daily-Red Star News Reporter Dai Jiajia